My wife and I have two beautiful daughters ages 3 and 6. My youngest daughter is the epitome of a Disney princess. She loves Disney movies, wears her her hair long, and loves pink dresses. My eldest on the other hand loves boy's games and toys, wears tomboyish stuff, and wears her hair pretty short. They often play Prince and Princess together. Both my wife and I are very open minded about child rearing due to both growing up in very close minded families. My father is a proud racist who has yet to meet his grandchildren due to them being mixed and refers to my wife as "that Jap". I don't talk to him much. My wife's family, who is Japanese, is vey traditional and my father-in-law can be pretty savage - especially to his wife. They are in there 70's and he's a home tyrant. He once watched while eating dinner as his wife was having diabetic seizures. My wife, who was I college at the time, had to call the ambulance. Never visited her one and blamed her for not taking care of herself. We both didn't like our childhood due to over-bearing and oppressive parents.
Anyways, my daughter asked for us to call her Yuuki. Yuki is her actually name but Yuuki is the male form. Her teacher expressed concern to us about this but we assured her it was fine and to call her Yuuki. The teacher though was really uncomfortable with this and I guess we will have to talk to the principal. This sort of thing is usually considered as a foreign problem rather than a Japanese problem. Our daughter also insists on us using male pronouns. It'll take some time getting use to it but my wife and I support it and will encourage it if this is what she wants. We do think it's a passing thing though so we will see in the next few months if she continues it.
Sharing this here since most of the people who post here tends to hate stuff like this and I'm interested in seeing how people reply. [b]In addition, I'm curious how you would handle this situation if your child revealed they were gay/lesbian/transgender, etc.[/b]
Edit: Both my wife and I are quite ok with this identification. It may be a passing thing but, if it isn't, we are perfectly fine with it and happy to support it. We aren't about to tell her "you can't be a boy" or "you're stupid". She can be whoever she wants to be. If being a boy makes her happy, then we support it. This sort of behavior isn't new but she has been actively correcting the people about her name and saying "he" whenever people say "she". It was quite surprising.
Edit #2: Wow, so many replies! I would like to reply to them in due time but I've been quite busy today. We aren't too concerned where she was influenced this since we don't see transgender as a bad thing. I love my children regardless what or who they are and that will never change. She's only 6 now and kids obviously change. It could very well be a phase she is going through at that age but we are preparing ourselves if this is actually something that's going to very pivotal in her life. I just want her to be happy and if that means being referred to as a boy, I'm perfectly fine with that.
She's always been tomboyish. Since last year, she would respond to "I don't know" when asked if she was a boy or girl. It's common for younger boys and girls in Japan to look similar. I've confused several of my 5th grade students with their gender - usually embarrassment to both of us (though a few students were very proud they looked like a boy).
We will continue to support this as long as it's a "thing" and use male pronouns. She seems to be happy about it but things could change as fast tomorrow.
Edit: If this is just so a phase and she drops inset offing as a boy, great we will still love her. If she continues to identify as a boy, we still love her and do our best to help her become a boy. However, and this is something my wife and I talked about, we will wait until she hits puberty to see how things change or there are changes. In the mean time, we will continue to parent as we always have. She has worn boy clothes since she was around 5 and usually wears a baseball cap. She enjoys throwing the football with me and watching me play Destiny. She's a great kid and I'm proud to be we father no matter what she choose to be in the future. We will try to make her life happy and comfortable.
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17 답변God made her a girl so she will always be one. It is your job as her father to tell her that
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I don't really know how you should approach this situation, I would just say to play it by ear and support your child irregardless of whether this is a phase or not. You seem like a decent person and I wish you the best.
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16 답변This thread makes me sick everytime Im see it. Such horrible parents Thinking back to the girls in my classes that would be tomyboys yet obviously everyone still referred to them as girls and they turned out normal. Y Just imagine if we and their parents had called and treated them like boys? They would be different than they naturally turned out. You trying to change who your daughter is is going to turn her into some freak. People like you shouldnt be allowed to have kids. Shame on you
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1 답변Don't get hung up on it, she's a girl. Every child needs a mother and father influence, you don't "sexualy identify them" you just treat them what they are.. a child, if they want to be like Dad more, then that's perfectly normal, don't think their a trans?
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You guys talk about HER as if she was already trans. She doesn't have boy parts does she? She's just a bit Tom boyish. She should grow out of this phase. Don't blow this out of proportion. Refer to her as her and see how long it takes to her to want to be a girl again. Also don't take advice on real life situations from a video game forum this should be something you settle with your wife and kid. And all of those people who think I'm rude because i called her a her when she wanted to be called he, think about this, is she legally a boy or mentally a boy.
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6 답변작성자: angry0lbgrampa 1/23/2016 6:30:06 PMYour child is not old enough to cognitively identify as any gender. It is on the parents of a child to assign proper gender roles. If they break from that role after puberty fine. But before then, not giving a child guidance is neglect and shows a lack in any form of parenting. You have effectively crippled your child psychological for life. Great job. Anyone promoting this neglect is just as ridiculous.
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10 답변Support her in being something she will never be. She is a girl and will live and die a girl. Talk about unachievable goals.
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1 답변Of course it's Japan..... Next thing you know she'll want to be classified as a tentacle monster
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I feel like I've been click baited. You didn't even say she identifies as a boy, just that she likes to be called by a girl name in boy form, and they both seem the same to me, and that she insists on using male versions of things. It's a thing to like things of the opposite sex, it doesn't mean she's trans.
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2 답변[quote] My father is a proud racist who has yet to meet his grandchildren [/quote]you know a lot of "proud old racists" change after meeting their grandkids.