For you, Xbox one (and as a note for others: yes, platform choice is a personal call but you can still make recommendations based on personal situations, particularly when asked.)
For someone interested in Destiny its got more relevant first party offerings (Halo, Gears of War, Ion, ect.), a control scheme you're comfortable with, better online features, and impending backwards compatibility for most of the 360 games you may still be holding onto (and its worth keeping mind that upcoming games like Rainbow Six and Fallout are bundling their old games as Xbox One compatible ports with their upcoming sequels, for free.)
The difference in graphics is also not significant (and its going to vary far more by games than by console.)
Ps4 is generally better as someone who has used both but a lot of people prefer the X box controllers, ps4 is better specs wise though and I find is more worth the cash. However it comes down to preference I suppose