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pls dont ban meにより編集済み:
2/3/2014 12:30:59 PM
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Girl advice
This is the situation:
A girl I've been going out with and being intimate with for the past year (not officially in a relationship though) has also been going out with another guy. In the end it looks like he was more successful, and the girl admitted to me that he liked him after they went out several times together over winter break. [b]HOWEVER, me and the girl happen to be close friends as well, and she told me she wouldn't date the guy formally even though they liked each other.[/b]
The questions I have are:
1. Does going out with a guy but not announcing it count as dating?
2. We did basically everything couples do other than making out and sex (but we weren't officially in a relationship). Does this mean I had been basically dating her? (related to the first question)
3. She said a while back she would go out with me for Valentine's Day. Do you think think this offer still stands? If so, should I still do it?
4. Should I stop being friends with her? How should I deal with the current situation?
5. Is it actually possible/worth it for a guy and a girl to be just friends forever and not date?
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Dude, go buy Snoop Doggy Dogs albumn Doggystyle. It explains everything you need to know about how to treat a women. He says it ain't no fun if the homies can't have none. That's solid advice. Just remember , I don't love them ho's I'm out the door.
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Magical Robotにより編集済み: 2/4/2014 4:40:48 AMTalk to her about it. You can't play chess and not know where all the pieces are. As a friend and potential companion, ask her what she wants. I have many friends, that just so happen to be women, I'm going to one of their weddings on may 15th. The gender wall that gets in the way of your friendship is imaginary, and is placed there by selfish desire. You can still "date" her if you two want, and she can date the other guy too, so long as no relationship status is claimed. Honesty is the best way to handle this situation. Talk to her about it, tell her what you would like, but if that's not what she want's you can still be friends. It's only a game because you make it one, be straight forward about this, and cut out the crap.
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1 返信Sounds like you were just kinda led on. Keep being friends or not you don't have a chance with her to be more than friends.
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5 通の返信Read the first sentence and NOPE!'d. [quote]1. Does going out with a guy but not announcing it count as dating? Doesn't matter. 2. We did basically everything couples do other than making out and sex (but we weren't officially in a relationship). Does this mean I had been basically dating her? (related to the first question) No. Just mans you were used. Especially if she was publicly known as dating some other guy. 3. She said a while back she would go out with me for Valentine's Day. Do you think think this offer still stands? If so, should I still do it? No. 4. Should I stop being friends with her? How should I deal with the current situation? Drop her. 5. Is it actually possible/worth it for a guy and a girl to be just friends forever and not date? Irrelevant here. She has already used you for whatever she wanted at the time, she'll just continue to do so. [/quote]
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1 返信1: Depends on your definition of "dating". In the end, what's done is done and it doesn't matter what you call it. 2: Again, depends on your definition. IMO, bang-buds, -blam!--pals, lovers, whatever. It was what it was. 3: Times change, promises become null and void. 4: Do you value the friendship? If so yes. Are you thinking about continuing the friendship for an occasional romp? Then it's a matter of how you feel and if that investment is worth the possibility of no romps and being friends. 5: Absolutely. It's a mistake IMO to try to make a template for friends, dating, lovers, etc. and then try to force the relationship to match the template and your personal definition of "what this should be". If you have someone in your life who you enjoy having there? Keep them. If you or they want to alter the relationship? Discuss it. If the change is mutually agreeable and both like it better the new way? Wonderful!
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1 返信You either assert your dominance, or you leave her in search of favorable females.
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1 返信No, yes, no, no, yes. You may remain friends if you really want to, but she sounds like a person of questionable morality so keep that in mind.
