Sounds like you have no idea how to gear up for pvp.
Here's a hint... Anti flinch mods. Targeting mods. Loader mods. Your pve mods are no good in pvp.
Aside from that, you need a really stable connection. I recently got Starlink and it's better for pvp than even Time Warner, because Time Warner throttles.
I've played quite a bit of IB this week on console, and I've seen very little rubber banding. However, I have experienced it in the past with lesser providers, and before I knew how to properly set up for gaming.
If you're running a console off WiFi into a 4k smart TV on ultra graphics and using a wireless controller you could be introducing not only the instability of WiFi, but the built in latency of a smart TV combined with the small(but not entirely insignificant) controller latency.
It all adds up, and the difference between 30ms and 60 Ms is the difference between seeing them before they see you.
And no, your handy little ping test built into your console won't measure the latency in your TV.
If you're running off Daddy's WiFi while the rest of your house is watching three different TVs then you're hopeless. Bungie can't fix that, regardless of what a bunch of entitled kids claim.
You're in America, totally different game in Europe. There's no player base here & lobbies usually contain people from Russia & the middle east, 5000 miles & 2 oceans between players cause crazy things to happen. It's also 90% PSN & crossplay desync destroys any semblance of consistency if you're on Xbox.