I’ve had to spend most of the last six christmases alone, due to work though not toxic family, and whilst I definitely would prefer a ‘normal’ Xmas, I do my best to make it a special day. Good food, expensive alcohol, watch stuff I don’t normally (like a LOTR marathon or something), etc. I have friends here and stuff but they’re always doing their own thing. It’s not ideal but I’ve never had serious offers from people to spend Xmas with them and I would feel awkward about it anyway, hanging around someone else’s family. So it’s a little sad sometimes, but life is a little sad sometimes. It’s really -blam!- that your parents don’t want to make space for you in their homes, but all that really means is that this year the onus is on you to have as good a thanksgiving as you can. You could wallow all day in your pyjamas and be sad, or you could try and make it as good as you can in the circumstances and hope things will be better next year. Put on a suit, have champagne and a three bird roast with lots of gravy. Go all out.

Yeah dude I'm 22 and i hate my house Im not coming back lol. Divorce, parents selling the house I'm not getting caught up between that noise, definitely not when there's still classes and extracurriculars going on You gotta really network with people. Like go chill in the lounge, if you're busy at least work in the library not alone, if you have a lot of associates just text them often but not the same people obviously, there's ways to meet people

Do have any other loved ones or relatives? If so, connect with and spend time with them you normally wouldn’t

Sounds like the perfect opportunity to learn something new

[quote]maybe this is what being an adult/man is?[/quote] Part of, perhaps, yeah. But most likely not permanent. And no friends are better than fake friends, or fair weather friends in my opinion. [quote]both said didn’t have room for me to stay for thanksgiving….[/quote] Do not do this. But if this were me I'd -blam!- around and not show up. Potential peace and quiet in the dorms versus what would inevitably turn into a shitshow? That sounds like a pint whiskey, takeout, and a StarWars marathon to me... We'll come back around with the fam when it's less of a clusterfuck, and less volatile.

That sucks man. At the same time, it seems you have the sort of freedom some people would die for. The world is your oyster, as a shellfisher might say.

Fwiw, I'm sorry that you are going through this stage in your life. I can empathize, but I know that doesn't change anything. [quote]maybe this is what being an adult/man is?[/quote] At times it can seem like it. All I can offer is that when I went through a similar stretch, I spent time playing the day away with some of my online friends who were also alone at that time. I know it may not feel like much, but I'll be thinking of and praying for you. Both your parents need reality checks. I can't imagine what would compel them to not make room for their own (grown) child.