"I am powerless over other people, and my life has become unmanageable."
---Step One. Twelve Steps of Codependant's Anonymous.
As an African-American, I understand your anger and frustration at being shamed for who you are.
But you have to realize that change comes slowly, and many people simply will NEVER change. So part of taking care of yourself is to understand that some people are not safe...and certain situations are not safe.
So be **selective** about who you choose to share information about yourself with...and make sure that they are **deserving** of being entrusted with that part of who you are. Create distance (block) people who treat you badly.
That is how you create a safe space for yourself, and the ability to enjoy your life despite the limitations of others around you.
Work to make the world a better place...but also take good care of yourself while you do it.
But please, don't wait for the world to change so that you can enjoy the gift of life. You deserve better than that.
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