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Was in foster care for 8 years and adopted two different times. Been separated from my sibling for roughly 13 years. I despise the foster care system.
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Can't say I do <.< Incentivisation is probably the best way to go, but that has it's own problems when people exploit the system rather than looking after a child. This could be balanced out with proper regulation and inspection of foster families to ensure the ongoing wellbeing of the child <.< A tricky one, it should depend on the seriousness of the problem. A parent who abuses their child should forever lose the 'right' to look after that child, that doesn't mean taking the child away over a smack on the backside but serious forms of abuse. Neglect is a less black and white scenario, the parent *could* turn their life around and start caring for their child properly but if it gets to the point of the child being taken away then I doubt the welfare of their offspring is particularly high on their list of priorities.
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The current foster system is less of a structural issue, and more of a volunteering issue. My neighbor fosters kids, and he's told me multiple times that it's not for everyone, and extremely difficult to do emotionally. The toughest part is knowing that you canmt financially support both adopting your foster kids, while simultaneously fostering more kids, so the idea of consistently getting close to kids then watching them leave is emotionally taxing. On the other hand, if you do adopt your foster kid(s), then you can't afford to continue fostering kids, leaving more kids in orphanages. The difficult part in all of this is that some people just donmt have it in them to put themselves in this dilemma, so you can't blame people that don't want to foster children.
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Editado por addiecorps: 11/17/2014 4:09:16 PMThe best thing a foster family can do is tell foster children they are loved and make them feel that way. I recently listened to a fellow class mate's life story and the guy tried to kill himself three times. His whole family was drug addicts and he was only loved by his aunt and grandma. When they died, he felt alone in the world. That guy's story made me feel like a complete asshole for not being his friend and sad that he's had such a hard life. Give love unconditionally and generously. [spoiler]Sorry if my story is unrelated, he was never in foster care[/spoiler]
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Me and my wife do foster care. The system is badly broken (were I live tx). The parents get children back after neglecting them for years of there life. The biological will get them as long as they do the bs classes and show temporary stability (3 months) and all is well system screwed up and flawed.