So my girlfriend won't let me join the Marines, saying "she doesn't want the military as any part of her life"
It's been my life long dream to join the Marines.
What should I do?
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2 RepliesYou don't want to be with someone who will control your life like that. If it's this, what else will she control? Your job? Your house? Your types of entertainment? Your kids? At the same time though, if your girlfriend simply expresses that she doesn't want you to join the military, gives you legitimate reasons, but says she'll support you anyways, you ought to give her concerns some weight. Sometimes people have a hard time expressing their concerns about your decisions that also affect them without it coming off as controlling. So which is it? Is she trying to control you, or is she just concerned that you might get shot overseas, and that she can't handle being away from you for whole deployments? Being a military spouse is extremely stressful. Also, how serious is your relationship? How much do you care about her, and how much does she care about you? She's just your girlfriend. However, do you plan on marrying her? Does she see herself marrying you? Ask yourself, and her, if you see yourselves together in 10, 20, 50 years. Someone you're not going to be with forever should not be dictating your life. So, in other words, you have a long, hard conversation ahead of you. In life, and in relationships, there are no easy answers. Nobody can tell you what to do. It is up to you to make the decision. You have to do some hard thinking about what you really want and what you really care about. You have to ask the same of her. Then, you have to make the best decision you can possibly make and stick to it with the recognition that you did the best you could. That's all anyone can ask for. There will likely be tears and maybe some yelling. Somebody will be hurt somehow. That's a part of growing up though. So please, don't listen to anyone on these forums telling you one way or another, and stop asking others for advice. Go think, talk with your girlfriend, and make a decision. It will be hard, but it's the right thing to do.