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5/27/2014 2:19:00 AM
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Hey fellow guardians. I need some ideas of how to get my girlfriend to leave me alone when I'm trying to game. She hates FPS but seems to crave my attention as soon as I turn on my Xbox, PS, or vita. Any ideas or tips you have would be greatly appreciated (especially with the beta on the way). Did I mention she HATES FPSs. Guardian in Distress.
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  • Your problem is trying to get her to leave you alone. I speak from experience, My Missus and I have been together for around 12 years and I've been through what you're dealing with. Get her to engage with you in some fun co-op games like Portal 2, Lego Star Wars or even Fable 3, it can lead to a FUN and REWARDING experience for you both. Now the Missus loves grinding Diablo III for loot and killing anything that moves in Borderlands 2 co-op or single player and is better at SWTOR PVP than I am... I kid you not. Good Luck

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    • Edited by PapayaOfDestiny: 5/28/2014 5:13:29 PM
      My wife and I have been happily married for 5 years. We had this same problem when we were first married. Over time she would see me make sacrifices of time I could be spent gaming to be with her. It wasn't a quick or an easy process. One example is game night. I'm originally from England but I moved to America to be with my wife. Every Friday I play with my brother and buddies back home. There was a time when my wife was sad that I didn't spend that time with her. Now she will take our two kids out of the house to give me peace and quiet. The key was I cut down a few of my gaming hours elsewhere to carve out my block of time on Friday. Also randomly without her asking I would not attend game night and just hang out with her. Over time she realized it was important to me but she was more important. The key is if someone feels inferior to something or someone be it friends or activities they tend to become jealous of it and not want to share you with them/ it. I can't speak for every person or situation. But I would say look at ways to show her she's not competing. And if you want large undisturbed amounts of time maybe look at cutting back elsewhere. Anyhow good luck!

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      • If gaming is your main source of entertainment and you can't share that with your significant other, you may have bigger problems down the road. Especially if she resents your game time. Good luck!

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        • I am in the same boat as you. (more or less...) I have not been playing video games as much as I have been wanting to in the past year or so. I am finishing my last class I ever plan to take next weekend. My Fiance has been keeping me on track finishing this class and at times it has really sucked... but after this class when all my time will be freed up, I am worried that she will still be on my case if I start gaming as much as I have in past years. Our wedding is already about 90% planned, and I will keep helping her plan all of that, but gaming is my favorite pass time and I hope that she hasn't forgotten about that.

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          • Edited by Phear Seamus : 5/27/2014 3:42:58 PM
            My advice would be in the same vein as sypher. With my girlfriend I have a deal that the first hour and a half after I get off work is time for me to unwind from the day. Which means I can take a shower cook food, or play video games unmolested. After that is her/our time. Then after she is asleep my time is fair game again. The most important thing is communication, and moderation. Talk to her about how important game time is to you, maybe even express that destiny is extra special, so you might need more time. I have taken a week off work for its release and my girlfriend is aware that I plan to spend most of it gaming. The point is we discussed this as adults. There was no yelling or bring up of old wrongs. I explained and we worked out a system we both can agree with. One final note. Pay attention to how much time you actually spend gaming. It is unfair to expect someone to only get your attention one hour every other week.

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          • DISCLAIMER, I'VE NEVER HAD A GIRLFRIEND. Date her first/give her meaningful attention... [b]then[/b] play games? That isn't feasible every day, but she might feel less longing and interrupt you less if she's spends some quality time with you on regular occasions. But again, I've never been there... so wait on more opinions.

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            • Buy her a Box set of Sex and the City? Downton Abbey? Get any random drama or sitcoms she loves that will gobble up her time. (crap idea if she lives with you, since you'll be relegated to the tiny TV in the bedroom) Does she read a lot? Give her a selection of fiction to enjoy while you slice through the beta. Does she play any games? Pricey, but but buy her a DS/3DS with a load of gf friendly Mario games to occupy her. (until she gets to a hard bit and asks you to do it) I've had varying levels of success with all of these methods in the past - perhaps I'm not creative and try and buy my way out - this may be a character flaw of mine :-/

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              • Women have a need to feel cherished AND understood. If you do some nice things for her and let her know that you understand how SHE feels first, then she'll probably be more understanding when you tell her about YOUR needs to have FPS time. Running off to focus on something like a game, or a project is a very normal need for guys. It's just part of how we're wired. Hope this helps!

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