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4/22/2014 1:56:40 AM
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Stories about being Bullied.

*THE POINT: If you have ever been bullied by somebody in school, please share if you would like to.* When I was in School, I was not a really sociable person. I was very shy, and kinda insecure about myself. Naturally I became a target for the narrow minded children of that time. Outside of the usual name calling, I was beaten, pushed down, de-humanized, and down right treated like an animal. When I was in 8th grade a kid walked up to me and just started punching me in the face. I don't know why to this day, it was horrifying watching a circle forming around you with about 30 other kids screaming, and laughing. It felt like being a pit with a giant spot light directly on you. And there is absolutely nothing that you can do to get out of it. On top of that, I was constantly told that I was worthless. I was nothing more than a waste of meat and I would always be that way. Now, I know that is not true--but at that time, when you're told that enough--you start to believe it. I dreaded going back to school, I looked for ANY excuse to stay home. I cried myself to sleep many nights, hoping and praying that it would all just go away. So that I could fade into obscurity, and recover what was left of my soul. But still, it came. And the more I stood by and did nothing, the worse it got. There were times where I fought back and won. I was proud of myself, but then it came right back again. My school could do nothing. All they could do was put them in suspension, or call their parents. But that just made things worse, either their parents whispering in their ear, or a misplaced sense of revenge cause them to lash back. ...By that time, I have had enough of it. I wanted it all to end in one fail swoop. When I was in 9th grade, I was planning to kill myself. I had it all planned out, I would leave a long note beside me, take lots of painkillers (or whatever there was) and just drift away overnight. There I was, seconds away from popping the first pill. Then something happened, everything around me faded and I saw something. It was like a voice in a cold silence and it spoke to me. It told me that "this is not how you will end. There is much more to life than what you're feeling now. You will go on, have a blessed life, you will have a family, a loving wife, children, and everything that you have experienced will have no hold over you anymore." I dont know why I believed it, but I did. I put those things away and believed it. ____________________________ Now here I am. Almost a decade later, I am graduating college, I am getting married this June to my absolute Best Friend ever! ...And absolutely NONE of the things that I have gone through have held me back once. I was so afraid of life here, that I was willing to cut it short. It was but a fragment of the life that I will live. If somebody tells you that you're nothing, they are wrong! You're a human, your life has meaning! Let NOBODY on this planet tell you otherwise. Because somebody out there loves you.

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  • Lemon said he hated me once. I cried for about 30 minutes.

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  • I was bullied from the 4th grade till 10th grade. My parents were divorced and for some reason kids thought this was something to make fun of. Also a few teachers joined in. I was only bullied verbally until tenth grade. I was raised not to fight unless the other person throws a punch first. During the summer going into 10th grade I hit a horrible growth spurt. I grew from 5ft to 5 ft 10. I put on about 40lbs of muscle working bailing hay as well. Well the year started, my bullies started at it again. Then one day, one of them pulls a knife out on me in the hall. I am like well ok, this is going to be a great day. I tell him if he is going to pull a knife on me he better know how to use it. His friends start laughing. I warn him if he doesn't put it away I will for him. I had, had enough of them at this point. He lunges at me, holding the knife like a moron. I side step swing my bag around his wrist, jerk down, drive my knee into his face. he drops the knife to hold his nose crying like a baby. I then run at his closest friend. I just start throwing wild punches, I am in a rage at this point. I start kick the second friend that i just punched, he is crying. Meanwhile the other two friends are standing there like duh hell do we do. So I turn to face them and say " you mother -blam!-ers wanna die today because I promise if either of you jumps in, someone is going to die" I walk over to there little gang leader and proceed to kick him in the ribs for good measure. A teacher comes down the hall, I tell her what happened. I am sent to the office, the other two go to the hospital. I am threatened with expulsion for fighting and assault. My family gets involved, we threaten a law suit. The school pulls camera footage to see what happened. They see the kid did have a knife, he gets expelled and his 3 goons are kicked out for 3 weeks. Moral; never back down, stand up for yourself when you have had enough, don't let others walk over you.

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    • I've randomly been verbally abused, keep in touch, because one day one of these basterds, big or small, will say the wrong thing, and I will murder them with my bare hands. Sorry if too brutal. We all feel that way. This bullCrap stops us and makes us feel pathetic for doing anything we love.

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    • I've been bullied since Kindergarten in various times of my life. First it was the vice principal that hated my guts since Kindergarten and made me cry (I was so scared in 4th grade I literally said out loud I wanted to kill myself at the conference with my parents) Second was in middle school, bunch of ghetto thugs on my bus being racist; even my BUS DRIVER was in on it too.

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    • I get bullied by women to have sex with them. Im serious

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      • [quote] I am getting married this June to my absolute Best Friend ever![/quote] Nice, you made it out of the friendzone.

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      • "Hey Tyler!" "Yeah?" "Dropped your pencil"

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      • The only time I was ever bullied was in 6th grade, but that was only one kid. Glad to hear you got yourself out of that rut.

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      • Great read, I hope it helps someone else struggling with bullies. I had a bully when I was in middle school, about the same age as 8/9th grade I think. It's a relatively long story but I don't have ages to type it all out <.< The summary is - He picked on me for ages, I put up with it until one day when he shoved me for the last time. Foot behind his leg and open palm to his sternum. The behemoth dropped like a sack of potatoes and spent a while struggling to get up (Lardy bastard) although I did ensure he stayed down for a little longer <.< I found it quite amusing, he thought picking on the quiet sciency kid would be easy or fun but thank shrek I'd done karate for a few years. The look on his face when I decked him was priceless. He didn't bully anyone after that, which is why I tend to lean towards more violent solutions for bullies. Smack the little shits so hard that their mother is going to cry for them, then they learn their lesson not to -blam!- around with other people for fun. Pavlov conditioning, at it's simplest :D

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        • I was a great kid at 3rd, hardly was ever in trouble, was always sociable. I switched schools during 4th, I was excited and everything. Almost every single day i was called gay, -blam!-, and homo. I had the littlest idea of what they meant, but I knew they hurt. I took my social frustration out on another kid everyday, now which I truly regret. I stopped being a complete dick to the kid in 5th, and I mellowed out -- but I was still an angry kid, wasn't afraid to be me which ultimately resulted into be labeled gay once more in 6th. Everyone avoided me and wouldn't even acknowledge me even when I pushed to, it sucked -- a lot. 7th grade, I never talked to anyone until two weeks after school and I opened up, more than I have in a while. Got into some fights, but it was out of immaturity. People accepted me for who I was and it was a good feeling. Looking back today, I can't really blame them. I was a weird, weird little man.

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        • When I was in the second grade, a day came when two new students came to my class. I remember that not less than about a month later, they started to pick on me and my girly-friend; not anything physical, just calling us names and annoying us in general. But I remember that it was still enough to always make me enraged, and I would tell them to stop annoying her and I. After enough times of that failing, I decided I should tell my teacher. she did or told them something, and I never had that problem ever again. I've never really interacted with those two again, but they aren't at all what they were like all those years ago. And that's also one of the many reasons why I consider that particular teacher to be the best one I've ever had the privilege of calling my teacher. I wish I could see/hear of more teachers being as awesome as she was.

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        • Edited by Sandtrap: 4/22/2014 5:46:17 PM
          I have many stories. All of them too long to share. But they all played a key roll in my younger life, shaping me to become the distrusting person that I was, and, for the most part, still am. The big, big one was my cousin. Long story short, there was some family troubles. I thought my cousin was a good friend. And then one day that was proved otherwise. I was never touched or beaten up in a physical sense, because I was always a big kid for my age. And if pushed around, I would fight back. I only ever had one physical fight, and that was enough to show that I wasn't up for being pushed around in that manner. A lot of anger sitting under the surface, and for the poor soul who presses the wrong buttons, I blow up in their face. I don't care whatsoever. Everything wrong that ever happened to me comes out and I focus it all on one point. But I'm not a fighter by nature, and I don't enjoy hurting people. Easy going, and because of that, slow to fight back. So, after physical options were crossed off the list, it was mental. And mental torment was the weak spot because of all the various things I'd been through up to that point. And, sadly, I was a bit of one too. I was never physical, not even overly harsh. But I was a reflection of what I was recieving. "Bullying" in some sense has a heiarchy. The kids at the top go for the ones lower down. And the ones lower down, go for kids even lower on the ladder. The only difference was, as I grew older, I tracked down every last person I ever wronged, and apologized to them for every bad day I ever gave them.

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          • I had a friend that was being bullied by two older lads. So i made the choice to end it and believe me i did.....Those two won't ever bully anyone i know again....-blam!-ing hate em.

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            • Edited by Irish Rocks: 4/28/2014 11:15:31 PM
              I was bullied, but nothing like what you describe. Some asshole in my my 3rd year of primary school in Ireland decided to beat me up a few times for no reason. While putting me in a headlock I punched him in the nuts and left it at that. As for later on, after I moved country I encountered a group of assholes when I was 14 at school. Nice enough on their own, but when in company of one notable degenerate, were all horrible people. I addressed the problem civil-ly at first, and eventually it led to a stand off between me and the leader of them. Nothing came of it, and they all left the next year for something else. I've been happy since, this was about 2 years ago. I wish I acted better then, as now I realise simply talking to them did little to help me. As counterproductive as it seemed at the time, just fighting back makes them reconsider. In the case of my brother, he's known amongst [i]my year[/i] (bearing in mind he's 5 years younger than me) as a badass because he beat a bully to the ground with a book after he knocked it out of his hand, and later on last year fought a different "chunky fat lad" bully who was in the year above him. Although this doesn't sound a massive feat, my brother is on the small side but has possibly the fiercest temper I know, and with an ability to makes bullies in the year above him cry, makes me smile inside for his future in school. It's quite amazing how people just decide to turn on people for something so small. I assume it was because I was simply Irish, in a place where just being from out-of-town was pretty wild. Nowadays I hold my nationality with pride, and frankly those who think otherwise can -blam!- themselves.

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            • I've never really been bullied, not enough to upset me anyway I like to think I'm a strong individual. Although whenever I see someone getting bullied I will stand up for them no matter who they are or what the other person is to me. I've stood up for people a lot but it's mostly been little things like telling bullies to -blam!- off and defending the person being bullied but I like to think I'm helping.

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            • Been bullied many times. Just for me being taller and a bit thin. I believe I beat the shit out of most of them. Though that was primary school. Over a few years in high school there was a group of people calling me a zombie every time I passed them so I eventually walked up to said group, asked who had just shouted it and then threatened to kill the 3 guys who were blaming each other in order to shut them up. I wanted to give the guy a chance to admit it and apologize. I then walked up to the guy who said it, he didn't even have the courtesy to look at me, and I punched him in the temple twice (he believes it was once) and he went to hospital with a concussion. Made em sorta glad I didn't go full on with it, could've ended badly. Either way, a couple of his friends then stood up and I just tripped one and walked off. I now receive no trouble. It's things like this that make me laugh when I get told violence solves nothing. Through a fight or violence I find a sort of respect and understanding is formed.

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              • Edited by Windom: 4/22/2014 9:15:39 PM
                I went to some redneck school when I was a kid. I was bullied incessantly, not only for being a total outcast, but also because of my political/religious beliefs. I was a cocky kid, though, and though I never fought back, I didn't "take back" my beliefs when they told me to. Anyway, for pretty much a whole year I was tormented by this one particular kid. That is, until I just decided "-blam!- it". One day, when we went into gym class, this kid slammed the door right on my face. In a rage, I shoved him against the wall, and he kinda just gave me a dumbfounded look and walked off. Then later that same day, in the locker room, he cornered me and said "payback's a bitch". Then he slapped me in the neck twice, so I just punched him in the face with all the force I could. He grabbed his nose and told me he was telling the SRO, so I got super freaked out. Later that week, the vice principal called me to his office and gave me a week of detention, but that kid never messed with me again. Honestly a pretty good outcome.

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                • In 9th grade there was a kid who bullied me constantly. He called me names, told me I was worthless, pushed me around, even got other kids to bully me when he wasn't around. One day he was pushing me around as usual, and I snapped. I had finally had enough of his shit and punched him in the face. He was caught completely off-guard, and decided I wasn't worth the trouble anymore. He still could have kicked me ass, but once he realized that I wouldn't just take it he stopped. The next day he approached me after school. I was sure I was gonna get the crap beat outta me, but nope. He apologized. He gave me a genuine apology. We're good friends now. As matter of fact, I'm hanging out with him tomorrow.

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                  • I too have experienced both physical and mental bullying, and unfortunately, have also been a bit of a bully myself. After the consistent amount years of torment and anguish, you begin to adopt their methods, and eventually start applying them to other people. It's like a chain reaction of hate and vitriol. It wasn't healthy, and certainly wasn't the most happiest or proudest moment in my life. I'm glad high school's over.

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                      Nothing serious, some jerk took my seat (in the back of the bus) then made me cry by insulting me. (kindergarten)

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                    • I was walking around school one day and some random kid just pushed me into the wall and told me that I owe him 30 dollars I tell him that he is lying so he punches me in the face. He pushed me into the ground and started kicking me. He kicked me for what seemed like hours then he left me alone. A week later he starts punching me so I punched him back but as soon as I punched him a teacher saw it and he immediately started crying the I obviously got into trouble. A few days later I was walking home alone he came out of nowhere tackled me into the ground. After he got tired and stopped I kicked him in his nuts and bashed him up and after that I didnt see him for weeks but he came back. he wacked me in the stomach with stick and then took out a knife from his bag. I think he was aiming to stab me in the throat but I moved away but he stabbed my arm, he left the knife there and hit me in the face with a rock a teacher saw the bully doing it and he was immediately expelled and I was obviously hospitalised. It traumatised me the fact that I was so close to death but a few years later I saw him walking down a street alone and this time I was the one who tackled, punch and kicked him I dont care if wounded him I just wanted revenge for nearly killing me. [spoiler]this is all true im dead serious, no -blam!-ing joke [/spoiler]

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                      • Edited by I8 AnGrYMiGiTs: 4/28/2014 10:11:12 PM
                        Im sorry for you i never had anything as bad as that but good choice on vid and congrats on wife and that. (;

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                      • This is why I switched to homeschooling, makes bad people easier to avoid. Although unfortunately, it makes good people harder to find.

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                      • Edited by Lord Keksworth: 4/23/2014 8:56:16 PM
                        There were a few kids back in elementary school who bullied me. They'd insult me, they'd throw in a taunt or a verbal jab, they'd demean my every action. On and on in went for years. So I punched them. I figure I had the moral high ground at that point.

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                      • I've never really been bullied. This one kid tried to steal my cash so I decked him in the face. I had a lot of friends so I was never really alone. Well this one kid tried making fun of my name(Skyler). His name was joey, so I went on to tell him a joey is a baby kangaroo. Which is basically a large rat. So I then went on to call him an infant rat. He didn't bother me after that. I was bigger than most kids up until high-school. I had a lot of buddies on the football team and rugby team. Yup, life has been easy living as a white male surrounded by other white kids. My school had 3 black kids and like 4 Asians. ---------------------------------------------------------------------- I'm sorry if you've had a hard life, I mean it. Although I haven't felt your pain I wouldn't hesitate to protect you from it. If I went to your school, I would have stuck up for you. Why? Because that's how I was raised. Stick up for yourself and those who can't.

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                        • Haha back in elementary school people hated me. I was definitely lacking in the basic social skills most people seem to inherently have. People were massive dicks to me always ganging up on me. Even the teachers were giving it a go. I forgive them though. I've been going to a pretty chill private school since 7th, and since then I've learned an incredible amount about people and social skills and stuff. It's amazing what can happen when people know how to be kind and teach each-other rather than just scold and ostracize. Nowadays, I'm pretty good with people in general and I learned a lot about dealing with anxiety and stress from those hard years, which has served me these past couple of difficult and conflicted years, and will probably serve me in my future trials if I do decide to transition, but that's a whole other story... [spoiler]A little bit about being a lesbian trans person is that it's so hard to be taken seriously. People seem to think one of four things when I tell them who I feel I am: 1. They think I'm straight-up confused gender-wise, and there's no such thing as a lesbian trans woman and I must be a straight male. 2. They think I must be a trans girl that's into guys, and I just haven't found my sexual identity yet. 3. They think I'm a male with an "autogynophilia" fetish, which means I get my sexual kicks from fantasizing about being a woman. I've pondered this and found it to be false at least for me. 4. They call me a -blam!- and tell me I'm -blam!-ed in the head (I stop talking to those people.) Honestly, being 16 and having all this going through my head, on top of other home and school and ASB and life planning and social responsibilities, is an absolute mind-blam!-. Sometimes I just stuff my face into my pillow for some good old fashioned therapeutic pillow yelling, which helps at least a bit. I digress. Going back to the original point - honestly, bullies and trolls are the absolute least of my worries nowadays. Bigger fish to fry.[/spoiler] As for suicide? I had pondered it far back in the elementary days, it may seem edgy but the sweet release of death was a very real option for me. I always decided against it. "You're better than this" I'd think to myself. "One day you'll rise above them and be a better person for it - better than any of them. Don't just let a couple hundred degenerates murder you. If you're gone, they win. Fight for your life!" And fight I did. Now, I look back and I feel sorry for those people. If anything, they're victims of their environment. I don't regret leaving. Well, that's a rough summary of my experience with bullying. Unfortunately, I'm likely to deal with it all my life, but human nature is just that way sometimes. The best you can do is crack a sharky smile at all of our imperfections and continue being beautiful, indifferent to hatred and intolerance. The way I see it, in my atheist pseudo-Buddhist philosophy, In our final moments we all reflect on our lives and I want to be proud of who I am and what I've done, and die pleased with the way I lived my life.

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