as long as you're not getting in the way of their journey to equality, keep doing what you're doing. i mean, i kinda think you're a dick, but that's not against the rules.
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[quote]i mean, i kinda think you're a dick[/quote] That is why I posted this question. I was hoping someone can explain what part of my opinion is close minded so that I can have a more 'un-close minded' opinion. I want to learn, but that doesn't mean I want people starting a rant against me. I just want others to give me their opinion as to how I am close minded.
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Edited by SuperSmeller: 4/19/2014 3:01:30 AM[quote]but I will not approach a gay person and be good friends with him because I wouldn't want him to like me [/quote]things like that. if you aren't gay, they'll leave you alone. gay dudes don't want to fuck every dude they see. [quote] I really don't want my kid to be gay since I want grandchildren[/quote]they can have biological children with a surrogate, or adopt
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Edited by physman: 4/19/2014 3:19:07 AMLove is not something people can control. That is why we say 'fall in love with someone' not 'decided to love someone'.. If a girl comes to me and says "we'll always be friends regardless of what happens, don't worry" I'll call bullshit on what she says, because that's completely incorrect. Falling in love with someone is not controllable, no one can just say 'hm hey you, I choose to fall in love with you instead of someone else'. People can't pick who they fall in love with / don't fall in love with. All they can do is distance themselves from others so that falling in love is out of the option. If I become good friends with a gay person, I would eventually start thinking 'does this guy like me?' [b]just like how, if I started becoming good friends with a girl, I would eventually start thinking 'does this girl like me?'[/b].. You get what I mean? [u]So why does me saying[/u]: [quote]but I will not approach a girl and be good friends with her because I wouldn't want her to like me[/quote] [u]label me as nothing, but me saying[/u]: [quote]but I will not approach a gay person and be good friends with him because I wouldn't want him to like me [/quote] [u]label me as a dick?[/u]
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you're purposefully avoiding gay people because they make you uncomfortable for no reason. if you're not gay, you have no reason to fear gay men falling for you.
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Edited by physman: 4/19/2014 4:04:20 AMOh man, no, you're misunderstanding again. [quote]but I will not approach a girl and be good friends with her because I wouldn't want her to like me[/quote] [quote]but I will not approach a gay person and be good friends with him because I wouldn't want him to like me[/quote]. [b]All I don't want is that I don't want someone falling in love with me whom I don't love[/b] (because it's happened to me numerous times in the past and it really causes a huge load of drama in my life and causes a bunch of heart breaks). To be honest, all the girls I am good friends with are girls whom I believe are attractive and girls who, if they said they liked me, then I would go out with them (i'm single at the moment and it would change for sure if I had a girlfriend). Girls can't say "i'm only going to like straight guys who like me back" and gays can't say "i'm only going to like gay men who like me back".. falling in love just happens. A lot of the times, the girl doesn't even know if the guy she is in love with loves her back. And a lot of the times, the gay male doesn't even know if the guy he is in love with loves him back. I said nothing about pointing out gay men from everyone else.
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listen, adulthood is not like high school. if somebody has a thing for you, and you don't feel the same, that's that. you can't fall in love with someone you don't know. if that person is gay, and you're not, i don't see how you could fall in love with them.
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Edited by physman: 4/19/2014 4:25:38 AMI guess this is coming down to 'can someone intentionally make themselves just not fall in love with a [u]good friend[/u]'. Arguing that will never end, so I'll end here.