I can't resist a serious answer here....
Short answer: It's like getting a job. It helps if you already have one.
Long answer:
Assumptions: You are male. You like girls more than boys. You haven't dated much.
1. First, do you really, really want a girlfriend? It's possible you don't. You might be asexual. Nothing wrong with that. Don't worry if you sex/companionship drives are low. You can be quite happy without relationship or sex if you stop worrying about what everyone else is doing.
2. Are you willing to do a little work? If all you want to do is whine, then knock yourself out. Just realize it won't work.
3. Are you introverted or extroverted? Both have different challenges. Introverts need to realize they can't continuously pay the energy cost to constantly be meeting people and still have anything left over for dating. Extroverts needs to realize that the world doesn't revolve around them. What energizes you might actually be draining the girls you want to be with. When you are meeting people try to get a sense for how they fit on this scale. Introverts and extroverts can work, but you have to respect the differences in how you get and spend energy.
4. Understand your strategy. You naturally will have a built-in preferred method for dating. If your natural inclination is to get serious quickly, you might consider trying to change consciously. Meeting a lot of women and getting to know them a little before you pick one to invest might work better.
5. Be sincerely interested in the women you meet. Don't be too goal based. Try to get to know what is special about everyone you meet. If you think too much about how you are coming off you will miss out on a lot of interesting things.
6. Be willing to look like a fool. Not everyone is going to like you. People who seem to be popular from a distance have plenty of people who dislike or even hate them. Are you a big time geek about something? It's going to come out eventually. So you don't need to hide it. (But you might not want to come on too strong with it. If you start recounting your favorite episode of a show line-by-line at the first meeting most people will back away slowly.)
7. It's a numbers game. Maybe one in twenty women would be willing to date you. One in a hundred would be a good match. One in a thousand would be a perfect fit. Once you realize not every girl you think is hot is a good fit you can begin to filter out the bad matches and focus on the good ones. This doesn't mean you have to date one thousand women. (Though that is a viable strategy I have seen work.) You can be smart about how you filter out the bad matches.
8. Believe you are worthy of dating. You don't have to have a super job and a fancy car. You don't even have to move out of your parents basement. But you have to have something that is awesome about you. You have to believe it makes you awesome and you have to find the woman who agrees. You are the perfect match for someone. Figure out what makes that so.
9. Back to the short answer. Start dating someone, or at least hang out casually with some women on a regular basis. If someone asks if you have a girlfriend say "I've been seeing someone off and on, but it's not serious," or "I hang out with lots of girls, but I haven't picked someone special yet." rather than "No woman would touch me with a ten foot pole." You want women to think "Hmm, that other woman must know something I don't. Maybe I should give him a chance." Instead of "Why should I take a chance on a loser that no one likes." You don't have to lie, but you want to emphasize whatever interest other women have in you.
10. Don't be desperate or clingy. This is tough when you first start dating someone. You want to spoil them. Just realize this will likely make them feel smothered. If you want to continue to date you have to be interested but not needy. Try to cut back your texts, emails, phone calls etc. It's best if she always gets the last word. Leave her wanting more. You'll have to initiate most contact and schedule activities but keep it to the minimum.
11. Try to "date" less and hang out more. Things that are dates are super high pressure for both of you. Try to get together to do things that aren't traditional dating. Scouring the thrift stores for costume materials together. Help her mom weed the garden. Hangout with your friends together.
12. Take your time. Dating shouldn't be goal driven. You might feel like you are supposed to score, but as long as you are having a good time together you are winning. If things never get physical that's fine. Keep seeing her as friend and add another girl. She might get jealous and move things forward, or she might introduce you to someone that is a better match.
13. Learn to take rejection. Your going to get rejected. It's going to hurt like hell. It's only the end of the world if you give up. Failure is not the opposite of success. It's a signpost along the road.
14. Analyze your failures. Recalibrate. Try again. You should be yourself, but be your best self. When that doesn't work, commit to making a change. You are improving yourself every day and changing anyway. Humans have the unique gift of directing their own growth. So choose to grow as dating material. All you need to change is who you are. I've seen the poorest guys living in their parents basement date wonderful women even though they dresses like slobs and rarely shaved or combed their hair. I've seen guys with good jobs, nice clothes, fancy cars and all the rest strike out or only get with women that were bad for them. It really is all about what is inside. (I do recommend you meet the world halfway with good grooming. If you were a super charmer who could get girls even when you smell bad you never would have read this far.)
Good luck sir. Remember, you ARE the perfect guy for a girl you will adore. You just have to find her. (Or your just asexual/gay/whatever and that's cool too.)
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