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2/23/2014 3:25:36 PM
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Let's talk relationships, Flood

Tell us what you think about relationships / love in general. Are you in a relationship? If so, what kind of a relationship is it (the dynamics, how you act when you're together etc.)? Are you unhappy because you aren't in one? Are you swearing off them because of bad experiences? What kind of things do you need from a partner (amounts of personal space or expressions of affection etc.)? I've learned the value of solitude and actively seek it out as much as possible, as when i'm with people i feel forced to articulate myself verbally; a form of expression I am neither fond of nor particularly good at. If i ever got into a relationship i'd need [b] [i]A LOT[/i][/b] of space and [b][i]A LOT[/i][/b] of understanding from the other person that I'm extremely introverted and am not comfortable with giving people lots of verbal attention. Whilst that may be possible without harming the relationship, i see how people work and in my opinion most of them wouldn't be able to cope with that lack of verbal communication and attention. Most people i meet are goddamn limpets with mouths like fog horns, even the ones who claim to need lots of space, so i just don't see how a relationship would work. I don't think i could give someone else what they think they need but i don't consider that a bad thing for me. I do not feel the need for someone else's love; as though i am not a whole person and therefore need somebody else as a kind of crutch in order to become one. If someone wants to get into a relationship with me then i'll give it my all, but i'm not actively looking for one because, sexual urges aside, i don't feel i need one.
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  • I've been married since '98. I encourage everyone to play that field as long as possible before settling down. Don't go out and try to find Mrs Right. Just try your hardest to be Mr Right and she'll find you.
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    • I think, for many people, relationships can be an important aspect of their lives in keeping them in a healthy mental and emotional state. Some people need another person to rely on that they connect to on an extremely personal level. There are other people that don't seem to require that connection, but there's nothing wrong with that. We're all a little bit different from one another in what we require to achieve a sense of fulfillment in our lives, no sense in feeling shame about it. I myself am in the same relationship i've been in since January 13, 2012. As time progressed, of course we got more and more comfortable with each other, and at this point I don't feel there's anything I can't share with her. I spent a lot of my time before this relationship in a state of perpetual depression with a feeling that I was missing something important, but that feeling went away. All around, i'm feeling pretty content at this point in time.
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    • Edited by Wolvers II: 2/23/2014 5:48:54 PM
      They're -blam!-ed. In one right now but think I'm going to end it because I'm not really happy with her. Problem is I've become used to that constant companionship so it'll feel very weird not having it. Plan on going back to being a manwhore, need to get some more experience under my belt because that's caused a lot of problems with my girlfriend - I'm not secure enough in myself, so found it hard to be secure in being with her.
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    • Edited by RomanGladiator7: 2/23/2014 5:44:06 PM
      My only one was for three months two years ago. Ever since then I've tried, and the most I got was two dates with someone. College will be over in two months, so I do feel a little inexperienced. And also left out. The majority of people I know are in one. There is one girl I like in a class and will see her Tuesday. I'm going to ask her out anyways. My main worry is that after college and in the workforce women will think I'm strange for having no sexual experience what so ever...haven't even seen any part of a woman's body in real life. I'm practically a saint but I don't want to be one.
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    • [quote]Are you unhappy because you aren't in one? [/quote] Kind of, just lonely. I try not to be one of those "TFW no GF" kind of guys, and I regularly hang out with friends and family, but it's just not the same and I feel like I'm just using the extra time with them as a substitute until I find a GF.
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    • I'm with a woman I love very much, never really thought things would go the way they did before I met her. Now we're waiting to start moving into our own apartment in a couple weeks (will post pics). I was super depressed before I met her, now I'm like a little kid on Christmas every time I see her. Much love. So good.
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    • [quote]Tell us what you think about relationships / love in general. Are you in a relationship? If so, what kind of a relationship is it (the dynamics, how you act when you're together etc.)? Are you unhappy because you aren't in one? Are you swearing off them because of bad experiences? What kind of things do you need from a partner (amounts of personal space or expressions of affection etc.)?[/quote] I don't really know how I feel about relationships, but they're fun. Yes, I am in one :) We're weird together in private, we try to be normal in public. We're long distance though but I'm seeing her again in May. We videochat every day and overnight every night. Am in one Nope Only think I like is attention from them and them to be willing to listen to me and talk. Don't really need much else. The rest seems to just fall into place though.
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    • I got a love note from an anonymous admirer Friday
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      • A chick from my class flirts with me. She's hot, but she leaves the city every opportunity she gets to drive home and see her boyfriend, so I can't feel anything, because if I did, I would feel sick. Who knows though. I have her to myself nearly every day for six months, and she wants to go swimming this week. It's not a situation to my tastes, but I've been in a similar position before, so if she leaves him, I won't make a move, she can just come out and do the work of hitting on me herself at that point. I would let her wonder for a week before I caved in, and then at least another two weeks before we get intimate. That way I wouldn't feel so dodgy. Still, maybe she won't leave him, and maybe I'd prefer that.
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        • Yes I am in a relationship. We hold hands and do couple-y stuff when we are together. We haven't kissed yet because she has never kissed a guy and she's nervous, never been a good place and time. From a partner the most important thing I need is equal effort into the relationship. If they are super apathetic and have one word texts it's not gonna work.
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            Things are getting Frosty - old

            I'm not in a relationship but I'm doing great
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          • I think that if it does happen, it won't be for a long time. :'(
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          • Not in a relationship and I'm sad because of it. Very very sad. I've thought about it every day for the past few months now. I just need to be needed :(
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            • Love is an illness.
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