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9/21/2013 5:25:00 PM
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Is religion/atheism a deal breaker?
In a previous thread, it was brought to my attention that to be someone's partner, sometimes, your religion matters.
This person (who shall remain unnamed) claims that girls have taken an interest in him, but because he was an atheist, they shunned away immediately.
This can go either way. If you're an atheist, can you date a religious person?
[spoiler]Atheist:
Someone who doesn't subscribe to any and all supernatural deities. Includes agnostics of all kinda.
Religious person: someone who believes or hopes for a God and an afterlife. Isn't exclusive to church goers or faith holders. [/spoiler]
On the show, "The atheist experience", one of the hosts say that his fiancé's family thinks he's satan because he's an atheist.
Likewise, I have also turned down girls because their religious beliefs were to extreme for me (abortion, evolution, etc.)
So, what do you guys think?
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2 Replies[quote]No, it isn't. [/quote] [quote](Elaborate.)?[/quote] no
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15 RepliesDepends, if the person I am dating Is trying to force what the believe on me I couldn't do it. But if they believe it and it makes them happy and they aren't getting me involved with it, I'd be fine
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5 RepliesYeah, I don't think i could marry an atheist.
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1 ReplyI don't think I could date a person who is actually religious.
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It would depend on that person's religious beliefs, if they were completely intolerant jackasses who said these kinds of people deserve to go to hell for these reasons that are stupid and silly then no, I couldn't. Also they would have to be someone who would be willing to listen to my opinions on things throughout life. For example if we have a boy if he should be circumcised then or let him decide when he is old enough. Things like that, other than that I have no problem with the religious in any way.
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If they start expecting me to do religion, they can go away. Otherwise, I don't care
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Atheism turns me on.
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3 RepliesEdited by qy: 9/21/2013 6:36:10 PMMy dad's agnostic/atheist and my mom's a huge catholic. My mom refrains from trying to convert him, and my dad respects her beliefs. It's worked between them.
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4 RepliesIt depends.
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For me, making me go to church is crossing the line. I don't care if they want to say grace, or kneel at their bedside, just don't make me a part of it unless I [i]want[/i] to be a part of it. Not believing in evolution is also a dealbreaker. Kids are different story. Atheism, or agnostic at the very least. If they [i]choose[/i] religion and are happy that way, so be it.
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Edited by Oneironaut: 9/21/2013 6:48:56 PMIt's not really a matter of "can" or "can't" (because anyone is capable of getting in a relationship but that doesn't mean it's going to work out) it's more less a matter of, is the person willing to be in a relationship with a person who has (insert belief here) and make it work despite their differences in beliefs? I can see it being possible, but in the long run the relationship most likely isn't going to last 'cause sooner or later their differences in beliefs are going to cause conflicts some way or another and if they can't overcome them, their relationship is going to end. Of course, all of that is just my opinion, so don't put much thought into it.
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Edited by RConnz: 9/21/2013 6:47:30 PMIf we never discussed religion, I wasn't forced to partake in anything to do with the religion, and it had no negative effect on the relationship, then yes I could be with a religious woman.
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Edited by cxkxr: 9/21/2013 6:48:21 PMI don't think I can date someone who doesn't have some sense of spirituality. How dull.
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2 RepliesIt isn't, unless they want me to change to their faith.... If she's okay with my faith, I'll be okay with her's.
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If they're insane about it.
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I said goddammit one day. Girl got angry at me. But she used the f word no problem a lot. That's the kind of thing that makes me want to slap people across the room.
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Unless their ultra zealous in what they believe, I don't mind.
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As long as they aren't extreme about it, it's not a big deal to me.
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Depends on how devout they are, if the partner wants to pray and such in front of me every now and then that's fine, but if I was against going to church and such, I can see where that would drive a wedge in-between things, it's a fine line you have to cross, I'd rather just take a girl to a quiet forest and sit under a waterfall for my spiritual enlightenment.
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If they are tolerant and don't try to seem better than more or mock me for my beliefs then it doesn't matter.
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Not a problem at all, given that she isn't some fundamentalist goonberry.
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Edited by Cultmeister: 9/21/2013 9:45:16 PMNot really a problem, so long as they don't try to convert me and so long as it doesn't get in the way of the relationship (like they refuse to have sex before we're married because of it)
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Well the girl I've had a crush on has religious parents but they don't bring it up that often. Honestly I think it would only be a problem if it comes to kids if both of the parties can ignore their religious differences for so long.
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No, not unless she constantly shoves it in my face and tries to "save" me.
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4 RepliesIf you're an atheist then it shouldn't matter but they should be prepared to argue if they're in a relationship with a religious person. For the religious person their religion may tell them who they can marry and so on. I plan on marrying a Muslim woman so this doesn't really affect me.
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Lol glad I inspired a thread. For me its not a deal breaker, as long as they don't push me to convert to their religion. For many people, I assume it is, especially as people get older and the prospect of kids are on the horizon, because they disagree about what belief system to bring up their children in.
