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Edited by Gaara444: 9/21/2013 3:28:36 AM
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Why is "No Sex before marriage" bad?

Many people I talk too can't stop laughing when I tell them I don't plan on having sex until I get married. They say I'm just being ridiculous and then criticize me saying "I should grow up". I don't get it, if Sex is all it's cracked up to be, why wouldn't I want to do it with the person I love? Why would I want to participate in something so great so casually with people I might not care about? I have nothing against people who do have sex casually. I don't see shame in people wanting to feel needed even if it's only physical. I'm not here to judge (I gave a different thread for that), But why is my view apparently so obtuse that it's bad? Maybe it's because I didn't grow up around the topic casually. I'm not really a fan of talking about it casually, and it's only easy for me to do it here cause there's a level of anonymity on the internet. EDIT 9/20/13: The views expressed in this OP, are no longer up to date and have changed.
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  • Or, maybe it's because you're more mature than the rest and people feel the need to demonize you because you have higher standards. Nothing you're doing other than the right thing OP
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  • You know how you test drive a car before you buy it? Yeah. It's kinda like that.
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      [quote] EDIT 9/20/13: The views expressed in this OP, are no longer up to date and have changed.[/quote] You're not allowed to change your views. Stop it.
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      • Edited by Mohamei: 10/25/2013 11:47:07 PM
        Mainly because some men and women prefer when their partner is "clean", and therefore ready to have sex once he/she is married.
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      • Just because you don't wait to have sex until your married, doesn't mean you bang everyone or have sex with someone you don't care about. Who cares what someone else thinks? That's your personal -blam!-ing life. I suggest you keep it that way.
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      • It isn't. It's just not for me.
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      • Because you can't take virginity back, I would think that it is special and that's one reason to save it for marriage. But that also makes it a moral; and for every moral, there is at least one equal and opposite immoral person. Probably multiple people, like in this case, but always at least one.
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      • It is because people sometimes relate abstinence until marriage as a conservative catholic practice, which is ludicrous to assume. Unfortunately the stigmatism relates a loving gesture to being an overly religious "nut".
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      • People can do whatever they want with their body, but I will ALWAYS respect people who save it for marriage, or a person they plan on marrying more.
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      • Edited by Tails: 10/25/2013 9:11:08 PM
        [quote] "I should grow up".[/quote]I would tell them to go -blam!- themselves
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      • People are horny
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      • So.. You're for casual sex now? You let people push you around till you accepted it?
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        • I often hear guys who don't get sex in the first place saying this. Just sayin'. But besides that, you learn to love a person before getting married, so why wouldn't you have sex before getting married too? I absolutely believe in having sex only with people I get close to, but only after marriage? Kinda ridiculous.
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          • It isn't bad.
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          • why should marriage dictate when you love someone enough to have sex with them? i'm all for having sex only when it means something, but waiting until marriage seems pointless.
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          • so you're saying you can't love somebody before you're married?
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          • Edited by Swiftkillswitch3: 10/25/2013 6:54:38 PM
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            My friend, 19 and no longer a virgin, says there's no more joy or pride in sex before or after marriage. I can see his point, as it can be a let down at times, but it's all a personal choice. I just stopped giving a damn, as my sex life isn't advancing anywhere because I refuse to let it. I only care about maybe half a dozen things currently, and sex is nowhere near the top 100. People will bash you regardless if what you do/say/choose/live by, so stop giving a -blam!- about what they say. I've stopped completely, as my goals and desires are my own without outward [non-musical] influences. [i]Society is hypocritical, and always will be.[/i]
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          • Morality, what an outdated concept. The world is based on happiness. Do you know what happiness is? It's the smell of a new car. It's freedom from fear. It's a billboard on the side of the road that screams reassurance, that whatever you're doing right now is okay. You are okay.
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            • I don't plan on having it at all.
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            • It's not, good for you for saving yourself for your wife, lets her know she's worth it.
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            • you're honestly an idiot in this day and age to wait until marriage to have sex. a couples physical relationship is a HUGE part of their overall relationship. if you wait until you get married and then you're not compatible in bed, your marriage will not last.
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              • Edited by Progo: 10/25/2013 2:21:49 PM
                It's your personal decision, people are rude. Personally, I am waiting for someone I truly care about, I want more about my partner than just a pair of boobs.
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              • There's nothing wrong with it, but sex is a big part of a relationship so the gf is going to want it before marriage so she knows what shes getting herself into.
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              • For me all that matters is that it is with someone I love, doesn't have to be marriage just someone who cares about you as you do for them. Following that logic I have been with one person thus far for just over a year and eight months. (I am 17) To each there own at the end of the day, so long as you are not causing harm to anyone else do as you please for all I care
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              • Lol the edit. So you've changed your mind and joined the crowd?
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              • The problem is that most people are incapable of conceiving morals and values outside their own, and instead project their own understandings onto other people. So, when someone is interested in something different in something other than what or how the first person would, they assume there is a "wrongness" to such.
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