This thread is inspired by another: view original post
I mean its considered normal for a girl to have a dildo/vibrator but if a guy has a Fleshlight he's considered a sick perv.
Why the sexism, what's the dealio?
English
#Offtopic
-
2 RepliesBecause if a woman has a dildo it means she's a strong independent woman who don't need no man! But if a guy has a fleshlight, it means he can't get some real lady parts
-
Why is this a question?
-
2 RepliesBECAUSE DOUBLE STANDARD SEXISM OMFG!!1!!!11 Yeah, no. While openness about sex and self-pleasure is a relatively new phenomenon, sexism has evolved with the sexual revolution. It's more socially acceptable because sexualization of women is more socially acceptable. Women are [i]supposed[/i] to be sexual creatures; specifically, objects that exist to pleasure men. The idea of a woman pleasuring herself fits perfectly into our idea of her as being defined by her unquenchable desire for sex. The way women walk, talk, look at you, dress-- it's all to be more sexually appealing to us. It's why women who dress a certain way are "sluts", random women walking on the street are told to "smile!" and are "complimented" by complete strangers on their looks, and the notion of women "[i]wanting[/i] it" is so pervasive. Meanwhile, the poor, downtrodden male is the victim of reverse-sexism. Or something. By creating a role for the woman as a living Fleshlight to be taken advantage of, we give ourselves the de facto role of the "aggressor". Given such favorable conditions, Real Men (TM) are [i]supposed[/i] to be able to "get" women. The key/lock analogy is a perfect example of how we view sexual roles. How able you are to get laid is made a vital part of your social identity. On the other hand, resorting to a Fleshlight is an admission of how terrible you are at getting women-- which is unacceptable. So you're a pathetic loser who isn't even good enough to have [i]real[/i] sex. You're also disgusting, because nobody wants to see a man getting off. It's [i]women[/i] who embody the word "sexy", not men.
-
It depends on her dildo. If its the BIG JOHN STUD BLACK MAMBA 5000, then she might get made fun of for having it.
-
Why don't you just buy a dildo then to avoid the stigma?
-
What sexism? Guys use dildos too. It's because a dildo is easier to clean, and the prospect of doing so is a lot less nasty.
-
2 Repliesbirds freak me out
-
Yeah it's "sexist" people need to understand and accept double standards in our society.
-
2 RepliesWhen I think of fleshlights, I think of it as gag gifts.
-
1 ReplyBecause a girl pleasuring herself is hot but apparently a guy with a fleshlight just means he's a pathetic loser who can't get real pussy.
-
3 RepliesListen to the potato.
-
I dunno, but it looks gross to me.
-
Edited by Ryan: 5/8/2013 7:52:03 AMI don't know if I would agree. I think both are generally considered taboo. For a counter-point, it is considered more or less normal for guys to masturbate but that isn't the same for women. Perhaps it could be due to the fact that fleshlights are relatively new (compared to vibrators and the like), but I still think your premise is shaky.