You know, I was beat when I was a child. Over a lot of stupid reasons (not reading to my little sister). I'm thankful that my mom beat the living shit out of me at times. I was never a bad child. Always had good grades, never really disobeyed. My parents were strict with things, however it did make me into the person I am today.
I am not fully supportive of corporal punishment, but there are times where it may be needed. Do I want to resort to that with my future children? No.
However, I see the way that kids are today, and I facepalm about how they respect elders and people in general, and I definitely want to relate that to parents who are too lazy to actually punish their kids. Children having children is worse, and people who don't pay attention to their children because they are too immature to do so are worse.
So, there are a lot of other things to be talked about on the subject of parenting rather than just corporal punishment. It's a fraction of what is wrong / right. There should always be other things that are done rather than just that one thing.
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[quote] However, I see the way that kids are today, and I facepalm about how they respect elders and people in general, and I definitely want to relate that to parents who are too lazy to actually punish their kids. Children having children is worse, and people who don't pay attention to their children because they are too immature to do so are worse. [/quote] I think "the way kids are today" is the way kids have been throughout history. It's just that when we were kids, we didn't see the same behavior you're talking about as wrong, because we didn't know any better. I think that spanking is a good way for immature people to not have to pay attention to their kids. It's quick, easy, and thanks to this very attitude that you (and many others) are expressing, those immature people can quickly disguise their laziness as "tough love" or "parenting the old-fashioned way".
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So you're saying "Parenting the old fashioned way" was wrong? Maybe if your spanked him for getting a D on a test then yes it was. However it is not always a sign of laziness. I was spanked as a child in only the most extreme cases of intolerant behavior I made. I'm 18 now, my parents stopped long ago because I'm old enough know to know between right and wrong. They never needed to spank me after the first time cause it got the message through. None of my later teachers complained about my behavior, I get good grades, I do what I'm told, I plan on living a successful life in the future with no regrets. People seem to think that spanking a child will "Traumatize them for life" when after being spanked before know that the claim is total Bull. Are there other more affective methods for punishment? Yes, but if your child is so damn rebellious, and out of control that those methods don't work, they NEED a very real message that what they're doing needs to stop that won't "traumatize" them or is abuse. Abuse would be beating them to a pulp, there is a fine difference.
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To each their own. Parenting doesn't come with a handbook, or a how-to manual because it's just that - the way that those parents decide to teach their kids growing up. I am not a full supporter of corporal punishment, but a firm slap on the butt when needed didn't hurt anyone. It's to make a point, and if any other way is exhausted, what else?
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[quote]a firm slap on the butt when needed didn't hurt anyone.[/quote] Except... you know... the kid...