-blam!- nigurs

You didn't miss your chance. You missed A chance. There's a huge difference. There will be other chances and other dances. The first thing you need to do is talk to this girl. Like whenever. Start a conversation. This is only the beginning.

Been in that situation before. It sucks. It was more in class than at a dance though for me.

Toast/envelope

May I suggest toaster/envelope Edit: I mean toast/envelope

It’s now Saturday so here’s the game plan. On Monday, after school, WAIT until you know she has left school, by bus or car or walked, whatever: THEN select key players, students you know know her or talk to people that know her or talk to her directly and just say “Hey, I was wondering if you’ve seen GirlX?” THATS IT. If they try to engage you beyond them starting to say something, WALK AWAY as if you didn’t hear them and continue to look like you are looking for her for approximately 10 minutes then walk home or whatever. DONT LOOK sad DONT LOOK worried, LOOK like you don’t give a shit either way. Tuesday, DONT GO TO SCHOOL. Skip, play sick, hell, tell your dad that social game theorist with a masters in psychology and 25 years of experience gave you the master plan to basically have the girl you want AT WILL and if he’s cool and has any idea of how social game theory works, he’ll let you stay home(I doubt this is the option to go with just knowing how parents are but some people have cool dads). The reason you are skipping school is so you can allow the natural course of school gossip mills to take its course to ENSURE that she hears that you were looking for her. You will not be present and you can allow her natural curiosity to build. She may even try to find out where you are or look for you at school. Even better. Wednesday, DO NOT look like you are trying to avoid her but do to the best of your ability and try to find out from close MALE friends if anyone heard anything about her trying to find you to talk. IF she was looking for you, choose your time and place to come into her view, be approachable and allow her the time to approach if possible. Best case scenario would be for her to walk up to you and ask you “Were you looking for me on Monday?” Your response needs to be, with a scrunched brow, look to the right and act like you are thinking about it as if you didn’t remember. Then, open your eyes wide, say “Oh yeah I was” lean in towards her, look directly into her eyes, nod in affirmation while looking up. You are leaning in towards her right ear, that’s to your left, put your left hand on her shoulder as you are leaning in to indicate that you are going to say something that you do not want anyone else to hear. Slide your left hand down her arm to her wrist and meet your left hand with your right, closing it over her hand while staying in contact with the soft tissue of her wrist. This should all happen in less than 2 seconds. What you are doing is closing a personal space with her that’s more intimate while contacting one of the less morally reprehensible sensory zones to touch without permission. Then you say, “HER NAME(not baby or sweetie blah blah blah) you looked so amazing at the dance. We need to go grab a bite on Friday” I’m assuming you have Snapchat and she has Snapchat or something where you can already make contact if everything goes by the numbers. Depending on what you look like and your competitive level to hers socially, economically, looks, friends etc all being equal this should work 90% of the time. If you don’t have a way to reach her, plan ahead and have something ready like a post it note that already has her name on it and a pen for her to write something down. IF she hasn’t been looking for you or you cannot confirm that she has. Do everything as above the same except you approach her from the get go and begin with “Hey HER NAME I was looking all over for you Monday and I had some stuff to do Tuesday” hopefully she chimes in and affirms that she heard this and/or was also looking for you Tuesday. Then proceed. Confidence is the key. If you are looking for explanations of some of the strange nuances of what I’m telling you to do, I could go into that later but it’s mostly about non-verbal communication and cues. Good luck m’man.

She was probably a trap so you got missed with that gay stuff.

That’s why you don’t listen to your friends

Looks like death is the only option.

You should still just try to talk to her on a normal basis. Then ask her out on the next dance.

Let that experience shape you for the future. Life's biggest moments are really the small moments where we decided to step out of our comfort zone into the unknown. For 20 years of my life, I never danced. Senior year of college I decided to change that, so I went to a Hip Hop Workshop. I was one of two guys, with 27 women there. The tension was palpable. Anyways, having zero experience and feeling slightly outcast, I followed the instructor's guide to circle up. She then proceeded to have each of us do a freestyle within the circle, nobody got to skip, and no excuses. That was the day I literally stepped out of my insecurity and into boldness, challenging both gender expectation and personal assumption. Anyways, flash forward a couple months later. There's this instructor that I've slowly laid a foundation with in order to bridge the gap between a regular who comes to her class and becoming a close friend. On the very last day of the semester, I registered for her class.. According to her, there was supposed to be only me and a girl showing up. The girl didn't show up for like 20 minutes. So me and her danced by ourselves in a large room all to ourselves. Quite a riveting experience. But we've gone on to become more intimate, while not yet at the romantic relationship status. Point is (tl;dr) Just because you missed it once doesn't mean there won't be other opportunities. Let your failure drive you forward. Love with urgency, but not with haste.

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