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Edited by CrealEater: 4/27/2016 2:27:42 PM
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What do you think she is doing/feeling?

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Option/Possibility 2

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Option/Possibility 3

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Option/Possibility 4

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Some other option

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Undecided/Not enough information

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Indeterminate from the given situation/information

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There was a girl (how stereotypical). I met her earlier this semester. Knowing that all of my past “friendships” have ended in one-sided suffering, I didn’t really ever talk to anyone nor make acquaintances with anyone because I knew that it would never end well for me. We were in almost entirely the same classes. To me she was that super cute girl who didn’t fit into any of the categories shown in the picture plus the extra category of “dresses like she wants d***.” (in other words, she doesnt dress like she wants d***) Picture: [url]http://imgur.com/Q8NIVpf[/url] We both also sat in the same general area in the lecture halls, so clearly she knew I existed. One day, she approached me asking a question regarding our computer science class. After I answered it, we just started chatting about stuff as any friends would. For us we only really talked in our Calculus 2 class because that was when we were together without any of her other friends around. Eventually, we decided to work together on the next computer science project so that it could be easier to complete with two heads thinking. Hold on let me make that clearer for you. She asked to hang out with me alone together, without her friends with whom she’s always worked on these projects with. She specifically choose me, “Does she like me?” I couldn’t not ask that to myself. However, I wouldn’t ask her out unless I was sure that she had some interest in me. With that thought in mind, I went with her to work on the project. We conversed a lot during that time and even had lunch together and a long conversation when we were done because neither of us liked to say goodbye. After that, I still wasn’t entirely convinced that she liked me. So after a few weeks of us enjoying our time together, I noticed favorable changes in her body language and sentence wording, she was copying my style. This was more evidence of a liking-ness emanating from her. Finally, on the Monday before last Monday (at the time of this post) I decided to ask her out. Previously, I had gotten evidence from her proving that she may be a very busy person. So I considered the possibility of her turning me down because of it. This is exactly how the conversation went: (This occurs after a conversation between us just ended. Time-wise it occurs in between classes. All of my responses were planned so that I could gain the most amount of information from her responses while still being somewhat direct about my intentions) Me: Hey, I was wondering if you wanted to go out some time? Cutie-Pie: What do you mean? Me: Well, you know… (It only took her about half a second to respond. This told me that what she is about to say she had said before and planned to say it if the occurrence of someone asking her out ever occurred again. In other words she had some obligation, some small or possibly strong determination to stay single. It could also mean that she feels she is forced to be single by some other means) Sweet-Cheeks: Oh, sorry I’m too busy to have any kind of relationship right now. I’m usually having to tell guys this. Me: Well, I’m busy as well. (Implying that I don’t mind if she’s busy. This was the one mistake of this conversation. I should have clarified my point to ensure that she understood me) She stared into my eyes for about 4 seconds. This felt like an eternity. Without breaking eye contact, she said: Typing-Pianist (inside joke): I’ll think about it… (She continued staring into my eyes for about 2 seconds) Me: I guess I’ll have to give you that time then. (We still haven’t broken eye contact yet.) Baby-Cakes: I’ll see you on Tuesday. That was the last time that I've spoken to her. For the next week and a half she avoided me as if I were some toxic waste plant. In our calculus class she changed her seat to be way in the back (Very unlike her, that is the biggest piece of evidence claiming that she is avoiding me. Especially since the change is so sudden), she doesn’t even look at me anymore, well she obviously purposely doesn’t look at me anymore. These actions have brought me down to four possibilities of what she is thinking: Option/Possibility 1. She actually likes me, but doesn’t know what she should do, thus she behaves irrationally because she doesn’t know what else to do. Option/Possibility 2. She doesn’t like me, but she doesn’t want to hurt my feelings by officially declining me or by stating that she doesn’t like me. Option/Possibility 3. She feels guilty for declining me but doesn’t know how to put it, thus she behaves irrationally because she doesn’t know what else to do. Option/Possibility 4. She is telling the truth and truly doesn't want to be in a relationship at the moment, but is acting irrationally because she feels bad. Well Offftopic, what do you think she is doing? If you need more information, just ask. [spoiler]By the way, I'm not an awkward person nor am I ugly if this is even relevant[/spoiler] TL;DR A cutie-pie is avoiding me after I asked her out when we have a good history together, I was wondering why she is avoiding me (options for the poll are listed above) EDIT: tried to fix paragraph formatting issues in the conversation EDIT2: clarified the last sentence of the first paragraph

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  • I believe she just wants to be friends with you but you are trying to push the relationship to a point where she doesn't want to go

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    • name and contact info. let us talk to her. we'll get to the core of the issue. trust us.

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      • Sounds a bit like she led you on. Was she ever flirting with you?

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        • Edited by pokepatrick1: 4/29/2016 12:55:54 AM
          [quote]So after a few weeks of us enjoying our time together, I noticed favorable changes in her body language and sentence wording, she was copying my style.[/quote] [quote]I noticed favorable changes in her body language and sentence wording[/quote] [quote]her body language and sentence wording[/quote] [quote]body language and sentence wording[/quote] [quote]sentence wording[/quote] [quote][b]sentence wording[/b][/quote] IT'S CALLED SYNTAX YOU IDIOTIC FOOL!

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          • Try Xbox.com

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            • I think lots of young guys make the mistake of "asking said girl out". I personally don't go this route, although some may say what I do is the same thing. What I do is get talking, and after I get a good feeling she's into me, I throw out "hey would you be interested in hanging out sometime?" I feel this approach is more of a less "date" like feeling for a girl. I find girls go by really how you word things. Some girls may see that as asking for a date, while others may just seem it to be a simple meet up, and see how things go.

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              • You have been friend zoned bud. Sorry to break it to you, I went through that a "few" times in college. Matter of fact, I had a girl say almost the exact same thing to me "I'll think about it". She doesn't want to put you down too hard so she's trying to be nice. Best advice I can give is just move on, you haven't known her that long anyway. Women are not like men in the sense that you get put into a specific category very quickly. Friend or potential lover. Once you are a friend it's nearly impossible to become a lover. That's why from the beginning it's important to make your interests known. Don't try and hide it until you are "sure". Hiding it is unattractive and it causes women to see you as creepy. Women love it when guys are interested in them. And even if you get turned down they will respect the hell out of you for being direct about it.

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                • If I was her and I said that, I would be implying the second option

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                  • Move on. Any girl that plays games like that or acts like that ain't worth the stress.

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                    • Judging from the picture you attached, you're going to die a virgin.

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                      • If she dresses "suggestively", then she was probably truthful about being too busy for a boyfriend but probably is sexually active, which probably means she's not looking for anything serious at the moment and translates to "Ask me again in 2 or 3 years".

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                        • This is the most AIDS post I've ever witnessed

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                          • Edited by phoenix55x: 4/27/2016 2:44:34 PM
                            If it were me i would confront her with the issue. I never take any but the direct approach when dealing with friends. I value genuine people and actions and i hope my friends do as well. You do not have to be overly bold/aggressive though. Such as "i guess you don't like me and i wanna know why". I would probably say something like "I presume that i made you feel very uncomfortable the other day am im really sorry about that. I understand you that if it is not just coincidence you do have your own reasons that may compel you to avoid me. However i would still like to be friends even if its just friends and i would like to know why what i did offended you so much. You dont have to respond now and i can give you as much time as you need. Yes this is actually how i talk sometimes irl. You do not have to say what i just said and it would probably be more effective if you changed the wording but this is the best ive got to offer rn. Also if you really do dig this girl you dont have to ask to be "just friends." My final piece of advice is to not avoid friend based relationships with girls. Dont go after every girl you see but by making connections you 1 improve social skills 2 can meet more people that you do like 3 will be viewed as a nicer person by others in general. Final note if a girl copies your speech style that does not mean she likes you. People naturally copy and rub off on each other with their language. If you spend enough time around someone you will start to talk the same way they do. It is mostly a subconscious psychological response [spoiler]also ask her to send nudez ;)[/spoiler]

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                            • She wants the D

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                              • It's over, save yourself the time you couldn't snag this one.

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                                • You could just approach her and apologize if you made her uncomfortable. Mind reading and guessing is like the worst thing you could ever do.

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                                  • You've got to ask yourself: Is she worth waiting for? Because if she is, this situation may turn out well for you. IF, you think she's worth it. Find out what she's busy with, wait until all of it settles down. That may take a while, but if she's aware of you waiting, it'll hit her. Don't make it known. If there is ONE thing I know about girls, if they are nice in some way, acts of kindness like this hit a soft spot. It may work, may not. I don't know how she is as a person. It's just what I would go with.

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                                    • [i]The answer is obvious: Get Cybernetic Implants. "With these upgrades, you never stood a chance."[/i]

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                                      • I'm confused. This post is essentially I'm a kid and need girl advice. Yet at the same time you talk like you're well educated and above the kinds of questions you're asking. So I apologise OP, but I can't help you

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                                        • Tbh that's not the worst thing that could happen. Hell its obvious is 2. (Of she liked you she would have continued talking to you.) God, girls are so weird sometimes. can't wait to have a robot girlfriend, then i won't have to talk to anyone anymore.

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                                          • Edited by Rayray43: 4/27/2016 12:20:13 PM
                                            Same thing happened to me except instead of avoiding me she just became a huge piece of garbage and would try to put me down every chance she got, so I have no idea man, women are weird haha

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                                            • Are you in high school?

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                                              • 1 or 2 But kidnapping works

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                                                • I have a feeling she was just a little overwhelmed by the situation and was trying to find ways to ease herself out.

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                                                  • Kidnap her.

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                                                    • She's a tsundere

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