They aren't satisfying and I always feel like an absolutely terrible person afterwards. In order to start building up self esteem I'm waiting until I meet a girl that I can actually relate to and build a relationship with before going that far. It's a nice plan but goddamn I feel lonely lol
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Horrible plan.
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Edited by Woupsea: 1/28/2016 3:43:41 PMGo watch hentai or something.
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I don't watch anime. I really don't see how that had anything to do with what i said.
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I don't think hentai is technically anime.
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Sounds like you need to learn the difference between aloneness and loneliness.
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They sound the same lol
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Aloneness is just being on your own. Loneliness is getting all angsty about it.
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Sounds like loneliness is just realizing that a constant state of aloneness isn't okay :P
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>implying it isn't. Believe it or not some people are ok with not constantly being involved with others. If you [u]have[/u] to be with someone, then when you are alone you are lonely; if you don't feel the constant need to be in a relationship, then being alone isn't such a bad feeling.
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Someone really needs to check up on the issues present with solitary confinement and social isolation To be alone is unnatural at the young adult stage and it hits very hard. Our bodies want one thing but reality gives us another and over time it's caustic and detrimental to both the afflicted and potential partners. The worst pain on this planet is lonliness. The feeling of isolation and fear or the belief that no one cares and you're alone is what causes people to kill themselves, to kill others and to break and lapse into depression
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I absolutely love it ! Maybe others do
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I never said anything about being a hermit. Being lonely is one of the worst feelings in the world, but it is not the 'being alone' which makes it bad most of the time, what makes it bad is your desire for people who aren't there. Either come to terms with the fact that you won't be surrounded by people 24/7 your entire life, or suffer the consequences of having to live with yourself once in a while.
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Living your whole life alone really isn't okay lol, we can trick ourselves into thinking it is and avoid confronting other people but in the end everyone is better off with other people looking out for them
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When did I say living your whole life alone was ok? I suggested that it was ok not to constantly need someone to be with, that is not the same thing.
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Edited by Woupsea: 1/19/2016 11:38:24 PMConstantly needing somebody to be with is equally extreme as being perpetually alone
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Except not being around people they love/who love them, is kinda the reason people feel lonely in the first place. It's perfectly normal to be lonely occasionally; I'm just saying that you should be ok with being on your own every now and then, which is why I made the distinction between loneliness and aloneness. If you are on your own, you should not be automatically considered lonely.
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It's like stress, beneficial to be avoided and handled well in the event that it becomes overwhelming
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You'll get there, my friend. Just have patience and never give up. =)
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Eventually, it's a lot of waiting though. Gets tiring after a while
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I can't offer any insight on how to get a date or make a girl fall in love you. My relationships evolved out of deep friendships where winning her over wasn't even an objective. Maybe [url=https://www.bungie.net/en/Forum/Post/187159859/0/0]this thread[/url] can help you where I cannot?
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Edited by Woupsea: 1/19/2016 7:09:41 PMOh, the problem isn't that I'm bad at talking to girls. It's just that I want to wait for somebody special to come along first lol
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You'll get advice about it but do what works for you, everyone is different. For instance, I never let friendships go beyond that, my friends and my sex partners have always been 2 separate things. I've been with my wife for nearly 12 years now, she was from a town 75 miles away from where I live, I met her on leave one weekend from the army and we have absolutely nothing in common but it works, it works really well. In my younger years I did try a relationship with a friend and it didn't work, we were no longer friends afterwards. That's what brought my rule about. Don't sleep with friends or anyone I work with. Different strokes for different folks. What works for one person won't work for another.
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You never know who that special one will be, so make many friends and savor them all! =D Are you in high school, college? Join a club and meet like minded friends!
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College is gonna be interesting .-.
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Think of it as a new beginning! Fresh faces, new environment, and a new sense of freedom that high school wishes it could allow you...