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9/9/2015 8:29:34 PM
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[Serious Discussion] What Is Love?

Inb4 bbydonthurtmeh All 90's dance tunes aside, let's try to define this term. Let's have an actual discussion here, please leave the spam out, and actually add something to the discussion if you comment. If you just come here to spam, I will assume that you are too immature to hold a proper conversation. The "love" I speak of is the person to person, mutual connection that forces us to considerably care for and have an intense, intimate passion for the other individual. It's the emotion that forces us to put another person's live over our own in spite of natural instinct. Merriam-Webster defines "love" as: [quote]a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person : attraction that includes sexual desire : the strong affection felt by people who have a romantic relationship [/quote] I honestly do not feel that this is very accurate. So I ask you, visitors of #offtopic, how would you define love? I don't want a shoddy definition, I want you to get to the core of the term. Questions to consider when answering: Why does it exist? What causes you to love someone? Is it merely an emotion activated by certain stimuli that cause the neurotransmitters in the brain to create this intense feeling? In this sense, would that mean love is a programmable, predictable thing? Can anything be loved with enough of the specific chemicals (I believe it's serotonin, correct me if I'm wrong)? Is physical attraction necessary for love? If you believe love is evolutionary, as in an emotion forged by the brain to influence reproduction, how does love exist between homosexuals? At what point does attraction become love? Is love everlasting? Have you ever thought you loved someone, and then realized you didn't actually, it was just a spur of the moment emotion?

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  • I think you are born loving every person you ever will love in your lifetime and life is spent discovering who they are. This is why you can look at someone and get passionate feelings for them without knowing a thing about them (love at first sight). This is why love can last forever and why you can love multiple people in different ways. I believe in a soul therefore I believe that your soul is connected with those people at a level not shared with other but you spend time uncovering that connection to discover the love for one another.

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  • Here, this may define it for you https://www.bungie.net/en/Forum/Post/161040937/0/0/1

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  • #Bbydnthurtmenomore

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  • Love, Love is a feeling from a certain person, hell even more It's a feeling that brings you together, It's what holds humanity together. Love is life. Because no matter how hard life Is. There will always be the one who you love. It's what the world needs more of Love...

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  • I find it weird that you know homosexuals are sexually attracted to each other, (a evolutionary aid to help get people mating) but you wonder why they have the ability of love.(another thing you said was a evolutionary aid to get us mating) It clearly the same process for sex, but for love instead.

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  • So what you're saying is you want to know what love is? [spoiler]You want us to show you?[/spoiler]

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  • [spoiler]baby don't hurt me[/spoiler]

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  • Baby don't hurt me...Don't hurt me no more... [spoiler]i couldn't help myself :P[/spoiler]

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  • Love is your girlfriend stealing your kill in a game but I always make sure their shield is down before she steals it...

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  • Now I'm usually bad at this kind of stuff, but this is a topic I seem to understand in a decent manner. The way I see it, love is a strong emotion towards someone or something. Love doesn't have to be romantic (for example, I love my siblings, my cousin, my mother, etc.), but it can be. Now here's where I see a difference between [b]loving[/b] someone and [b]being in love[/b] with someone. You can love someone romantically, platonically, even spiritually and many other ways. Loving a person/thing to me means to love them unconditionally, almost without reason. It's unexplainable. Being in love however, I see it as your heart is [b]invested[/b] in that person or thing. You sometimes are in love with them for a reason, whether it be physical attraction, the way they act, even mundane things like their name. TL;DR- Unconditional love is experienced in different ways to romantic attraction. Still can't give a straight explanation as to what it is though.

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  • Edited by handsomejackass: 9/17/2015 10:07:30 AM
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  • Baby don't hurt me don't hurt me no more

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  • Nobody has ever loved me before. Couldn't tell ya

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  • Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, [spoiler]no more [/spoiler]

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    • *starts nodding head like Pepsi commercial*

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    • Penis [spoiler]Vagina[/spoiler]

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    • It starts in your big toes, and moves it's way up your leg, until your whole lower half is consumed by this warm fuzzy feeling.

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    • Chemicals in your head

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      • Love is not real. There is only hate. Only fear. Only death. Only [spoiler][quote][quote][quote][quote][quote][quote][quote][quote][quote][quote][quote][quote][quote][quote][quote][quote][quote][quote][b][i][u]PAIN[/u][/i][/b][/quote][/quote][/quote][/quote][/quote][/quote][/quote][/quote][/quote][/quote][/quote][/quote][/quote][/quote][/quote][/quote][/quote][/quote][/spoiler]

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      • Baby don't hurt me

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        • No more

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        • Baby don't hurt me dont hurt me

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        • [quote] The most spectacular,indescribable, deep euphoric feeling for someone.  Love is an incredibly powerful word. When you're in love, you always want to be together, and when you're not, you're thinking about being together because you need that person and without them your life is incomplete.  This love is unconditional affection with no limits or conditions: completely loving someone. It's when you trust the other with your life and when you would do anything for each other. When you love someone you want nothing more than for them to be truly happy no matter what it takes because that's how much you care about them and because their needs come before your own. You hide nothing of yourself and can tell the other anything because you know they accept you just the way you are and vice versa.  It's when they're the last thing you think about before you go to sleep and when they're the first thing you think of when you wake up, the feeling that warms your heart and leaves you overcome by a feeling of serenity. Love involves wanting to show your affection and/or devotion to each other. It's the smile on your face you get when you're thinking about them and miss them.  Love can make you do anything and sacrifice for what will be better in the end. Love is intense,and passionate. Everything seems brighter, happier and more wonderful when you're in love. If you find it, don't let it go. One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life:  That word is love.  -Sophocles [/quote] - Urban Dictionary [i]#alwaysreliable[/i]

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        • Edited by car15: 9/12/2015 9:03:58 AM
          Love is when you have a relationship with someone which causes you to care more about them than you do about yourself. It exists because we need to have kids and raise those kids to survive as a species. To encourage this, our biology enables us to love. We (often, but not always) fall in love with the mother (or father, if you're female) of our children and stay with them at least long enough to get the kids out on their own. All the stuff associated with romantic love - passion, physical attraction, dedication, courting, etc - stems from and facilitates this basic biological need. Similarly, we love our children because we are supposed to raise them, so there needs to be some biological imperative to keep them around for 18+ years. I mean, seriously, kids are a pain in the ass. If people didn't love their children, would anyone voluntarily keep one or more of them [i]in their goddamn house[/i] for upwards of two decades? Hell no. They require a massive expenditure of effort, time, and money and they require you to prioritize their needs over yours. People aren't exaggerating when they say that having kids changes your life forever. It absolutely does. We also love the members of our nuclear family (parents, siblings) for similar reasons. Family unity is important for both social and economic reasons. It provides a support structure that fosters education, financial stability, and social integration, which all tends to create more well-balanced individuals who have a better chance of success at procreation. Obviously, none of those things happen 100% of the time. Some people don't love their kids. Some people don't love their dad or whatever. But hey, guess what, some people are psychopaths too. We have serial killers, terrorists, suicide bombers... Ours is a uniquely self-destructive species. Our capacity for abstract thought can interfere with our biological tendencies and get in the way of normal human development. Plus, there are people who unfortunately just make a bad roll of the dice and end up with shitty parents, abusive spouses, etc... "Is it merely an emotion activated by certain stimuli that cause the neurotransmitters in the brain to create this intense feeling? In this sense, would that mean love is a programmable, predictable thing?" All emotions are activated by stimuli that affect your neurotransmitters. Does that make them any less powerful or genuine? "Is physical attraction necessary for love?" No. You love your children, you love your parents, you love your siblings. If you are talking specifically about romantic love, it's not necessary there either, but it does help enormously. That makes sense from a biological standpoint too. Relationships are hard work and they sap a lot of your freedom away from you, so you're more likely to commit to something like that if she's pretty and she's got a nice ass. "If you believe love is evolutionary, as in an emotion forged by the brain to influence reproduction, how does love exist between homosexuals?" It doesn't work the way it should every time. Homosexuality exists in other species, but the human capacity for abstract thought creates an even greater deviation from the norm than you see in animal species. There are theories that homosexuals serve a greater purpose in society too. For example, in times of high birth rates, having a large number of homosexuals can stabilize the population. In addition, many homosexuals go on to work in creative fields, which contributes to technological innovation and social progress. (Remember, "technology" isn't just computers, it's any tool that we use to improve the quality of our lives.) "Have you ever thought you loved someone, and then realized you didn't actually, it was just a spur of the moment emotion?" Yes, in high school, but I think this happens to a lot of people. Like anything in life, you need to ride with the training wheels on for a while before you master a skill. Loving is a skill; it takes work, commitment, maturity, and personal sacrifice on both sides to maintain. When you're young, you still need to develop those skills. Thus, play dating, puppy love, etc...

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        • Love is when you share your secret racism with someone.

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