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Edited by Arc_TJX:
1/28/2015 6:48:45 AM
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Guardian, how do you manage not to make your girlfriend pissed off about Destiny
Just had another fight with gf for playing destiny straght from 9pm to 3am. Was trying to explain her than i had to finish Crota Raids today because i will be in Krabi for work on friday and it would reset weekly on tuesday.
She seemed not understand at all and stated that i had no future and how she could live with me if we had been together.
She also said that i couldnt even get job done becoz i wake up late on working days (11am, but hey its a work from home job!! And i get job done on times).
Is Destiny destroying my life? Or my gf is over-reacting?
Edit: Thank you so much with all the reply. Update, she said she couldn't live me playing games until 2am everynight. So i told her that gaming is part of my life if she couldn't take it, leave it. I also tried to explain her that this game was involved as group to play and sometimes i couldn't control time especially on tuesday and wed until we finish all raid stuffs. And i did finish on crota hard for all 3 chars. so i would only do atheons 3 times as well as VoG chest.
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My wife is like this. Just tell her your mic is on and other people can hear her overreacting
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Yes. Your time playing is destroying your life. And your girlfriend is over-reacting. Missing a reset is not the end of the world. I have missed plenty and life continues. Be wise, understand when to fight and when to put it down. If you don't give a crap about this girl then do what you want. If you do care about her, then put the game down and spend time with her. It's that simple.
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Eat the butt.
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This is why you want to date a girl that plays video games. There will be no fighting over this sort of stuff. You could just go out to eat, watch a movie, come home, and raid with her. Just do your best to spend some extra time with her, for every time she complains about Destiny.
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Dude she's a woman. She's always gonna bitch at some point about something you do. she'd bitch just the same if u were up all night knitting a sweater. Just toss that salad once in a while and you'll b all right.
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Easy. I make her cum before i start playing.
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3 RepliesDo what I do. Reset day-nightfall 3x Wednesday-her day Thursday-VOG 3x (or at least atheon) Friday-her day Saturday-Crota and weeklys(it being the weekend ensures you have more time for her & destiny unless you work weekends) Sunday-church and steak
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1 ReplyMy gf used to be the same way until I bought her a new tablet and subscribed to Netflix. About a month of that keeping her busy she started to complain a little bit again. I spend time with her doing the things she likes and wants to do and in turn I get an hour or two a night to play. One time I told her that she should be happy I'm at home playing Destiny instead of being out at the bars drinking with friends. I would recommend not using that reasoning, I think I got in more trouble than before lol
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2 RepliesEat her pets That is all
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find the right girl and you won't have that problem. if she doesn't understand you, you're doomed. I married a girl that i used to watch play tomb raider for HOURS. we never fight over gaming.
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I pay all the bills and take her out. Which allows me to play quite a bit. She now knows around 10-11 is bedtime because I'm playing Destiny until I pass out.
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1 ReplyIs Destiny destroying your life? I don't think so. You have a girlfriend who opposes your hobbies, berates you, and guilts you into not doing what you enjoy. It sounds like your girlfriend is ruining your life, not Destiny. I'm not trying to be harsh, and I don't know the intricacies of your relationship, but IMO someone who really cares about you won't try to change you or criticize you for doing what you like. My girlfriend gets upset sometimes when I tell her I want to play Destiny. She's like "you don't want to watch a movie with me?" I say, "I kinda want to play some Destiny." She says, "okay, I can watch something on my laptop." End. Every once in a while she will say "I want to use the big TV to watch a movie," and I have to concede, but that has nothing to do with her opposing me playing, she just wants to use the big TV, which is understandable because I only use the big TV when I play. I would tell you to find a girlfriend who is cooler, but I don't want to judge her on this one instance. She can be upset if you want to play all the time and don't spend time with her, but if you are staying up all night, why does she care? She's asleep (presumably). As long as you don't get fired, who cares when you wake up?
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8 RepliesMy girlfriend and i agreed that reset day is the only day that i don't have to give her attention. Everything is fine now.
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I guess it'd be like her shopping for shoes very loudly while talking to her friends around the world about shoes from 9pm-3am using the main TV to do so leaving you no where to go to escape it. :) would annoy the piss out of me! But I live alone for the first time in a while and it gotta say it's been nice being able to crack out on it and not have to care about someone else. But I'm anti social anyways. So I'm fine with being alone and the trade off is fine with(for all things not just Destiny). Most aren't fine with that and so you have to find balance between the two of you, if you think she's worth keeping around. If not no point dragging her along and wasting both of your time. My 2¢
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I sat one time explaining/showing my girl the game as she didn't understand how I could spend so much time on it (to be straight I work/go to the gym ect my job allows me to play a lot) & she could see what it was that had me play. I explained to her about raids ect & she gets its a hobby. We do almost everything else together & she's pretty chill about me gaming but you still have to put the time in with her...if you actually want to be in a relationship.
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I got my gf a console and made her play. A couple that game together stay together.
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You are your own damn person who should have your own personal time to do whatever the F you want. Go do you, let her do her, & continue on. If you're paying your bills & keeping her happy, she should learn about the Art of Silence & how it's Golden. My wife & I had this struggle when we first started out (almost 10 years ago) but it eventually clicked in her head she'd pretty me playing games with my friends on Xbox than playing games with my friends out in town. Remember every relationship is doomed to failure except the one you have at death, so don't stress any one person.
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I work my ass off. My wife is a full time student. I do what i want.
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1 ReplyYou need to find a balance. You need to spend time keeping her happy, not playing Destiny, so that she will tolerate you playing Destiny so much. Playing for 6 hours straight (I understand, I enjoy this game too) is a bit much if she is around.
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2 RepliesGet a boyfriend. They're easier.
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You need to have schedule, like you need to play only for 3-5 hours on the said date like tge day of reset then lessen your play time for the following day, always make her on your top priority, while playing be attentive to her, and always tell her that what if you dont play destiny , you'll be out there flirting with girls or spending time using drugs
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Step 1 to fix this is to cut her off
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I tried explaining weekly resets and why it's hard to quit mid raid (but we are so close!) and all it does is make you look like a crack addict
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Ha! She got me into this game!
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Edited by Zayden: 1/27/2015 9:29:26 PMRaiding with her.
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Never capitulate to make a woman happy. Establish some time to spend with her, but when your having YOUR time she needs to give you your space. Unless your gf/wife is a gamer or just really understanding most women will never get it. A woman like the one you're describing sounds like the type that will take, and take, and take until you have nothing left to give. She'll never be happy.
