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Talk to him! Guys aren't mind readers. Be straightforward and clear about how you're feeling, and if he isn't a complete piece of shit, he'll listen to you and adjust properly. If he's committed to you and the child, then he shouldn't have a problem with this. Maybe talk to him and see how he's feeling as well? Having a baby is a big step and can add a lot of stress to both parties, so it's important to make sure both momma and daddy are doing ok :)

Threaten to leave him and then sue him for child support for 18 years. That will set him strait.

EDIT: Since you are putting the child up for adoption I suggest you seek medical and pychological council over postpartum depression after the fact.

Its about whats coming, you need to talk to him, he may be having feelings, that most men wont show, that may need to get out in the open. Even though youre giving up for adoption, the realization that he is bringing a child into this world is most likely bringing up emotions he has never had before, and he doesnt know what to think. he is most likely scared he may be making the wrong decision. Give him a little room to mull it over and figure it out, but tell him he needs to talk to you soon, so you can clear the air and figure out whats the problem, and that you need his support to get through it. While you are the one most affected in every aspect by this event, he is being affected as well, dont forget that it has to be a give and take thing. But then again i dont know the specifics of how long this has been going on.

How old are you? Anyway here's something helpful...

Destroy anything that opposes you

Talk to him about it? EDIT: Wait, oh you did. Lemme think up something else. EDIT NUMMER ZWEI: If I were you in your exact position right now, I'd just try talk to him about it. Yeah, sounds repetitive. But it's better than nothing. I myself would do it in sort of sarcastic tone so there's not too much stress between either of you.

My dad was adopted...he has no idea who his real parents are and that leaves a giant hole in my traits and ancestry. I guess that's why I learn things quickly. I also have a couple friends who were adopted...they have no direction in life. If your baby is up for adoption. Make sure the kid knows who it's parents are down the road.

I'm just going to go out on a limb here and take a guesstimate that you've talked to him over the phone. The best way to talk to somebody today is still by having a good old fashioned 1 on 1. He can't brush you off when you're there in person, not if you let him. From the amount of times he's brushed you off, he's definately getting cold feet. But, what I'm about to say seems like the most likely outcome. If he's giving you this much trouble now, and even trying to avoid you, things likely aren't going to work out. You can approach him in person, and even force him to talk, but that will only agitate things further, leaving a bad taste in his mouth and yours. You've got three choices. You can corner him in person until the barriers come down, and speak your mind and get him to speak his forcefully. You've get to get ballsey and make your point very clear on this one. You can wait and endure things until he's ready to talk. Everybody has to talk sometime. And third, which would be the hardest, is to leave his ass. You even said so yourself, if he started up with that crap you'd dump him. If you do dump him, and show him how damn serious you are about things, it might even prompt him to come out and start talking. It doesn't sound like there's a nice way to go about things at this point. But the best out of all of those would be to hunker down and wait for him until he's ready to start talking. It's a difficult time for both parties involved, and no doubt, he's got his own fare share of thinking to do. His whole way of life will be changed because of this, and right now, he's sitting in a sort of flight or fight response mode. Right now, it seems like he's going for flight, but that may change if given enough time.

Does he agree with putting it up for adoption?

I'm very sorry about what you are going through. You seem like an amazing person that shouldn't have to go through something like this. If you ever need anything or someone to talk to I will always provide an ear to listen and help with as much as i possibly can. I've been through hell and back, I can't say I know what you're going through but I've gone through shit most people could never handle. Stay strong and don't let it over take you. My advice for you right now is that for your boyfriend, some people will never learn how to show attention and affection towards someone. From my own knowledge from past relationships and experiences that it will not get any better. It will most likely get worse with acknowledging you. Most people always keep hoping something will change instead of reading the signs and end up wasting a huge and important portion of their life away. I don't know if the reason he could be distancing himself is due to the baby but he may be trying to send you signs that he doesn't want "this" anymore and is too scared to say anything. I'm not going to give you the treatment of say you need to talk to him because I believe that you've talked to him and I know talking to someone doesn't always work because they brush it off or don't even tend to listen.

Ahh yes. First world depression. Must be rough.