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Edited by Bong Cognition:
7/10/2014 6:12:20 PM
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My grandma was crying today
Too keep this short, my grandma was telling me that she felt like she had failed me because she had no idea how I was feeling a couple of months ago.
Essentially, what I want to ask is if anybody else has been in a situation where your parents have appeared totally vulnerable to you?
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Yea my mom cried a lot when my grandpa died so I spit in all of her food and punched her all day long.
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Edited by BADMAGIK: 7/10/2014 6:49:57 PMMy father a was tough guy. Never dried and always had the mentality of man up. He got the cancer and it was really hard for me to watch that shit eat him alive. He changed a lot personality wise and seeing him cry was really hard on me. -blam!- cancer.
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I'm not sure what it's exactly about. But I think I get it. A few years ago it was pretty shitty here. My sisters are always fighting and one has a depression and all kinds of things. And our family is not really close either. And thus one day my mother took some random medicine pills from my dad's medicine box (my dad has all kinds of medicine because of his heart disease. That's also why my mom did the following) and then she crawled into my sister's bed crying. She woke us up because she noticed our mom was acting weird. I was really panicking since my dad and sis told me to keep my mom awake as she was about to fall asleep the whole time. And we thought that if she doze away she could die. We didn't know know what medicine she took so she could've been a goner. My sis and dad were calling the doctors and everything and I had to keep my mom from dozing away. Luckily the doctors told us the meds she took were harmless because she didn't take too many. All she had to do was take a good sleep and everything would be fine. That was the biggest relief of my life right there because I really thought my mom was going to die right there in my hands. Later she told us she just didn't know what to do. It became too much for her to handle all the things going on at that moment, and she just wanted to end it. Luckily all is well now. She's out of her depression. Though it's still a big mess between my sisters and just our family overall.. But it's not that bad.
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1 ReplyIm pretty emotionally detached. Its akward when ppl cry in front of me
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Well, my mother broke down in tears once and my dad said he wanted to hit me. I had lied about stealing 35p from my little sister. I am still confused by that day.
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3 RepliesBeen in the exact same situation.
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15 RepliesI'm bad at noticing when other people are being emotional. When they are and I do happen to notice it, I tend to just lump all emotions together and assume I'm going to be yelled at, or complained to, or whatever else people do when they're emotional, and try to leave. I also suck at differentiating the kinds of emotions people are feeling, so I treat all emotional reactions as though they are one blanket taxon of annoyance. Though when my mother injures herself I do take that as her being extra vulnerable. Her emotions don't really come to account in my head, but as she is physically disabled when she hurts herself, I do regard that is vulnerability. Though not the kind you're getting at. so I don't know if it counts.
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1 ReplyAfter my Grandma was diagnosed with terminal cancer my Dad was a bit of a mess, we went out for a few pints and he was spilling it all to me. And my Mum used to suffer from depression so yeah, she was pretty vulnerable. Never really had my parents there for me emotionally, told my Mum I broke up with my ex and all she was concerned about was making sure I came to my cousin's wedding the day after, which I really wasn't up for considering the circumstances. And my Dad was totally absent from my life from 13-18. My ex was the only person I ever fully opened up to and relied upon when shit was going bad in my life, and she ended up being a bitch who broke up with me a few days after I learned of my grandma's diagnosis, when I really needed her. So on top of dealing with that I had to deal with a breakup and it was a shit few weeks, was on some pretty strong sleeping tablets for a few weeks. tl;dr - can't rely on anyone but yourself.
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Edited by Gatsby: 7/10/2014 6:28:01 PMMy parents recently have been very emotional, it's quite awkward. I'm terrible at comforting people.
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3 RepliesThere are things about Cognition, that even the Grandma does not understand.
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i'm always in that situation, so...
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Edited by Sandtrap: 7/10/2014 6:29:30 PMAll the damn time. In fact I make it my business to try my best to give them a hand with things. They're both old and only getting older, becoming less able to handle things on their own, and both have their fare share of physical problems as a result of events in their youth and their age. And my mother has a lot of emotional baggage she drags behind her, making things that much worse. I can't tell you what she went through, as it's not your business nor is it mine. She never told me herself, but I've gleamed bits and pieces of things over the years. What she went through when she was younger, destroyed her. Any potential she had is blocked and overridden by her emotional state, which is very fragile. I have to tread very carefully with her and remember never, ever to lash out. To me, in my eyes, if I don't step in and make their futures my own priorities, they'd be in trouble. They could probably tough it out, like they've done so far, but it will only get harder to do with age. How bright their futures are depends on my own future. To put it in perspective, I'm carrying them on my shoulders across a tightrope that could snap at any time.
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7 RepliesNow imagine how much crying she would've done had you killed yourself.
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I'm broken halp
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2 RepliesAnd you didn't take advantage of her? Impressive
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3 RepliesWhy do you feel the need to flaunt your depression everywhere?
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aw shit son
