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Edited by Old_Papa_Rich: 2/7/2016 3:31:43 PM
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Frustrated as a girl gamer

Hi I don't know where to begin and I know it sound awkward ... I am a girl gamer and had been playing Destiny since the day it launched. Love the game and specially Pvp ( my previous teammates like to recruit me because I am quite a killer and usually get top 2 scores in pvp) But I don't really like turning my mic on because people always mistaken me as a young kid [b]no matter how many times I told them I am a girl[/b] ...I am actually 20+ and studying oversea . My native language are not English and my friends' time zone is 8 hours earlier than mine now. Though few of them are very happy to have me as raid teammates, most of them prefer a male player (despite his skills are really bad and having bad attitude) than me. I have always been a decent raid and pvp player , receiving a lot of positive feedbacks from other players . I seldom make mistakes and I am very happy to help new players to do raids or missions...but it seems gender is more important than the person's attitude to them. Tried making new friends in the forum and joining new raid teams, sadly I felt very uncomfortable because some people just assume girls are very bad at gaming. And they would [b]put all the blame on me when something goes wrong during the raid and all I do is doing exactly what they say[/b]...I just want to have fun and making new friends in the same time zone or others. It's really sad that all I get is blaming and discrimination. It's really hard to find settled teammates now...my teammates from my former clan has been dismissed and some of them has joined other clan already. Though they would recruit me when there is a spot, as I said I am a girl, they rather ask a rude male player to join them. Was I really lack the humor of a male player or i am just not good enough to team with them. I don't do Destiny's raid or nightfalls as often as before. Mostly pvp now because I am so tired of people keep blaming me because i am a girl. I rather getting hate messages from the opposing team than discriminated . It would be nice to have friends and settled teammates who love playing Destiny like I do. [quote][b]Moderator edit:[/b] [spoiler]This thread has been moved to the #Destiny forum. [url=https://www.bungie.net/en/Forum/Post/140391030/0/0]See Cozmo's thread here[/url] for more information about the #Destiny tag and its uses. Feel free to private message the moderator who moved your post, [url=https://www.bungie.net/en/Profile/254/76974]Old Papa Rich[/url] for further clarification about why this topic was moved.[/spoiler][/quote]

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  • I feel your pain...I think my total raid time right now is like 5days haha... but I've turned to pvp aswell because I hated how I was treated by guys. I just want to play destiny and not have every guy that comes a long go insane everytime I talk. Id love to eventually have a girls only raid team :p but if you ever want to do quests or just pvp mag me :)

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    • B8?

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    • STILL SCREAMING ATTENTION!!!!!

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    • Just use felwinters

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    • Add me and you can run with my crew. I don't care what sex you are and I'm a happily married man so you don't need to worry about getting hit on. I do raids,trials you name it and I'm in uk. Ps I don't care if you don't have a mic just join chat party for instructions. Gamertag bunga_lad.

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    • What console are you?

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    • Edited by Sixclicks: 2/11/2016 1:43:13 PM
      Hahaha... bullshit. You must be trying to hang out with 12 year olds if that's the case. I fireteam with a female gamer all the time who is a real life friend. She never experiences all that you've said. Then again, we actually play with adults.

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    • Wall of text skipped, thanks for throwing your gender out there. Make me a samich while you're at it.

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    • Look. Nobody cares whether you're a girl, guy, dog, ricky, john cena. Absolutely does not matter. If you play the game because you enjoy, sweet good on ya. But if you're going to let others tell you some shit then don't bother dude. Honestly

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    • I'm a guy, I'm pretty decent at pvp. Cool shit right?

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    • You have good grammar for not having english as your first language compared to half the post made by people that have English as their primary english

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    • What

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    • Edited by DangerPencil: 2/11/2016 5:43:51 AM
      Always wondered why girls act like they can't play video games because of sexism. After reading your post and the comments below, i guess i get it now. Good luck.

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    • That sucks and I know this problem isn't unique to you. Just try to find some cool gamers. Those of us who represent that title would never discriminate based on sex or any other meaningless factor in the world of gaming. For me it's this simple: you are cool or shitty? Whether someone is male/female, gay/straight, etc has nothing to do with it. If you need some one to game with I run on PS3 all different times of day. Either way I hope your experience in this game gets better going forward.

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    • A R E Y O U A S I N G L E F E M A L E G A M E R ???? Are you wanting the best gaming experience possible?? 15 yr old single male gamer here now accepting applications from SINGLE GIRL gamers who are looking for a date for crimson doubles event. M Y Q U A L I T I E S - Chill -Attractive -Mature -Funny -Experienced gamer -All flawless and raid emblems -Max grimoire -5 inch dick -2.0+ kd *If interested please fill out the following application and pm it to me* *Gt same as above* Age: Location: Full name: Snapchat name: Availability: A little about yourself: (100 characters minimum) *optional* Why i should choose you as my date: (bonus points for filling this out) *NOTICE* Only messages from girls will be accepted, guys sending messages will be reported to deej and blocked. Thank you and good luck :)

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      • Edited by Brimst0ne6800: 2/11/2016 5:32:41 AM
        No one should be discriminated just for there gender or at all. This game does need to have people like that who are sexist and racists but what we do need are people who are willing to accept differences and move on. #equalrightsingaming

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      • I'll raid with ya. Good stats. You tell me what to do. I'll even make an electronic samitch.

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        • Did anybody else just skip past the Wall of Text in order to see the "make me a sammich" posts?

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          • Edited by SmashvilleViking: 2/11/2016 5:14:44 AM
            You can add me if you want. Me, nor any of my friends mind playing with women. Psn is Shadowbane11, if you're on ps4. Most of us are in our 20s and 30s.

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          • I'll be happy to play with you anytime I play loads of pvp I'm telling you I wouldn't criticise you if your a girl gamer I think girl Gamers are Great add me up if you want to play sometimes

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          • Im a grrrrr gamerrrrrr look at meeeee

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          • I feel uncomfortable talking with a mic too. I only talk with like, a handful of people. Even if there's nothing really to worry about, I still won't talk with most people.

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            • Happy to play with you anytime if you want got some of the best players in the world on my friends list

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            • Attention whore

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            • hey, your welcome to join our clan, we will play with you anytime!

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            • I'd play with you, I'm on PS4. I don't care if you're a female or an alien. Just need people to play with since everyone I know don't play no more

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