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12/12/2012 6:50:44 AM

How to be "Alpha" ? [Long post]

Sorry for using the word alpha, but it made my point. I'm sure there are plenty of people here on the Flood who will also benefit from this thread, at least I hope you do. Let me start off by saying this. I'm not telling you how, I'm asking how. I know I'll get a lot of not-so-helpful answers (partially due to asking this kind of thing to people... well on the internet), so I'm only going to focus on the good ones. Here's my situation. I'm in a wheelchair. Paralyzed from the waist down. Have been since I was eight, and I'm now eighteen. I've had girlfriends, and even girls I wasn't dating tell me I'm good looking, yet recently I've learned that the wheelchair is a huge hang up for me. This Sunday at church I looked down the pew, and sitting at the opposite end from me, sitting with her friends, was honestly the cutest girl I've ever seen. I tried so hard to just go over and say hi, but I couldn't. Now, I'm the kind of guy who meets people by randomly hugging them. Seriously. I've always been a super social guy, popular in high school, and I've never had trouble talking to people. But for some reason with girls it's different. Once I get to talking to them, it's easy, and my personality comes through and they like me. But getting through that door is just so hard. I'm a nice guy, I'm funny, friendly, super social and I'd give the shirt off my back to anyone who needed it, even a total stranger. I know that I'm a good guy, but as soon as I start thinking about talking to her my heart beats out of my chest I immediately destroy any sense of self-liking that I once had, and begin to think other things like, "Why would she go for the guy in the wheelchair over a guy that can walk?" That ones probably the biggest one that gets me. :/ So there ya go Flood, that's my situation. Sorry for the longish post, most of it was just me typing and not thinking, but hopefully I got the information out there. What can I do? How can I get over this over-thinking and just go talk to her. I know there's not a science and most of you will just say, "Just go do it!" but it's not that easy. Thanks in advance, have a nice night.
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