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12/12/2012 6:50:44 AM
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How to be "Alpha" ? [Long post]

Sorry for using the word alpha, but it made my point. I'm sure there are plenty of people here on the Flood who will also benefit from this thread, at least I hope you do. Let me start off by saying this. I'm not telling you how, I'm asking how. I know I'll get a lot of not-so-helpful answers (partially due to asking this kind of thing to people... well on the internet), so I'm only going to focus on the good ones. Here's my situation. I'm in a wheelchair. Paralyzed from the waist down. Have been since I was eight, and I'm now eighteen. I've had girlfriends, and even girls I wasn't dating tell me I'm good looking, yet recently I've learned that the wheelchair is a huge hang up for me. This Sunday at church I looked down the pew, and sitting at the opposite end from me, sitting with her friends, was honestly the cutest girl I've ever seen. I tried so hard to just go over and say hi, but I couldn't. Now, I'm the kind of guy who meets people by randomly hugging them. Seriously. I've always been a super social guy, popular in high school, and I've never had trouble talking to people. But for some reason with girls it's different. Once I get to talking to them, it's easy, and my personality comes through and they like me. But getting through that door is just so hard. I'm a nice guy, I'm funny, friendly, super social and I'd give the shirt off my back to anyone who needed it, even a total stranger. I know that I'm a good guy, but as soon as I start thinking about talking to her my heart beats out of my chest I immediately destroy any sense of self-liking that I once had, and begin to think other things like, "Why would she go for the guy in the wheelchair over a guy that can walk?" That ones probably the biggest one that gets me. :/ So there ya go Flood, that's my situation. Sorry for the longish post, most of it was just me typing and not thinking, but hopefully I got the information out there. What can I do? How can I get over this over-thinking and just go talk to her. I know there's not a science and most of you will just say, "Just go do it!" but it's not that easy. Thanks in advance, have a nice night.
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    OP. You remind me of Tavros.
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  • [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] juniorbandit96 I prefer being me. Quiet. Respectful. Humorous. Don't like it? Deal with it, I suppose. No one needs to change into this "alpha" apex predator and pull a Chronicle.[/quote] ANDREWWWWWWWWWW!
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  • Sorry about your situation OP. Don't really have any good advice...don't think I would be able to give out any good ones anyway.
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  • [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] TheMightyMrPlow [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] Dark Pig Ninja [url=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=64Ixzp94ksw]Relevant?[/url][/quote] Honestly, this is probably the most helpful thing anyone could have said/posted here. That video made me feel a lot better. I can't thank you enough. [/quote] Wish you luck, friend.
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  • [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] Dark Pig Ninja [url=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=64Ixzp94ksw]Relevant?[/url][/quote] Honestly, this is probably the most helpful thing anyone could have said/posted here. That video made me feel a lot better. I can't thank you enough.
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  • [url=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=64Ixzp94ksw]Relevant?[/url]
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  • Thanks guys... I should have known better. I'm just gonna go to bed and kick this thread back up in the morning.
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  • Don't put women on a pedestal. Punch them in the face.
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  • Can you bang or not?
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    Razgriz
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    Just do it bro. [url=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JoqDYcCDOTg]Do it.[/url]
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  • Do you have feeling or not?
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  • [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] EvilTaffyapple If you have to ask, you will never be an alpha male. I'm serious. Alpha Male is a biological and memetic term used to symbolise the toughest male of the pack who was born that way. Ignore kids on the Flood throwing around word like alpha or beta. It's meaningless.[/quote] "Alpha" was only put into the title of this post as a way of summing up what I was asking. I'm not asking how to pop my damn collar and strut up to a girl, say, "Sup sexy" or some crap like that. I'm asking how to get over your own insecurities long enough to say hi. That's all :)
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  • Please tell me you still have feeling below the waist. [Edited on 12.11.2012 11:02 PM PST]
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  • If you have to ask, you will never be an alpha male. I'm serious. Alpha Male is a biological and memetic term used to symbolise the toughest male of the pack who was born that way. Ignore kids on the Flood throwing around word like alpha or beta. It's meaningless.
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  • Come before beta.
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  • [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] Baph117 You better have good oral technique.[/quote][i]If you catch my meaning.[/i]
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  • Have you considered arranging a situation in which you two will come into direct contact?
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  • I'm sorry but i'm not gonna be helpful here but... can you still use your peepee?
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  • Dawh): I love you op you is kind
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  • I prefer being me. Quiet. Respectful. Humorous. Don't like it? Deal with it, I suppose. No one needs to change into this "alpha" apex predator and pull a Chronicle.
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  • You better have good oral technique.
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  • I feel you bro.
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