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Edited by helyearelyea:
10/7/2015 4:23:29 PM
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Throw out the Xbox
Wife was in a bad mood and says that she's super close to throwing out destiny and my Xbox one. She gave me the night to play but when she changed her mind and wanted to hang out I said no. I was in the middle of the raid. You get it.
So apparently I always choose my games over her. I told her she can throw out the Xbox but we will have to get a divorce.
She didn't like that.
Edit:
I planned a date night for the wife and I that night. She didn't want to go bc the bad mood. She said I could play games. I even told her I was going to do the raid bc it would take a while and I didn't have time to do it before.
She specifically tries to wait until I'm mid raid or something before asking me to hang out. She wants me to drop everything im doing to show her that I choose her over video games.
I personally think that's crap. (Bring on the salt). Playing games is my time. I work full time, wife, baby, and school full time. When the wife says I can play some games then I'm going to play some games. I'm allowed to enjoy myself from time to time.
I understand needing to feel validated and important. I planed a date and she said no. I'm the bad guy.....
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#Destiny
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1 ReplyWe are Gamers and play is definitely what we do, but life and the people in your life should always come first. I play games a good bit but I set up all of my raid schedules for after the kids are asleep and for times when my wife is watching whatever junk TV she decides to watch. What she was really saying is "You need to make me important." She was in a bad mood you should have found a way to do something for her. Instead what you did was take the free time and use it for yourself, you validated that you are more important than your wife. It's a tough trap, to fall into. All you really need to do to repair this breach is do something special for her. Keep in mind that you have a lot going on "work, School and Baby" she needs to believe that she is the most important of all of those things, she doesn't need the most time, she just needs to be made to feel important. Games are fun man but investing that emotional connection she needs will pay off for you forever and believe it or not it will score you much more alone time for gaming.
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I play destiny with my husband, we spend more time together than ever in out marriage. Since Destiny I hardly ever watch TV. But I know where your wife sees things too, once I too saw the Xbox as the enemy, maybe you can find a game she would enjoy, for us it was Borderlands series, I just loved the sirens... Now I am not sure who in my house is the more obsessed gamer.
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Yo, drop the game for once. If you have a child with this woman she needs to be your first priority. You chose to get married and you chose to have a baby. If you thought you would have a lot of free time on your hands after that you are a complete idiot.
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(I'm allowed)...... Not with that ring.
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I've been married 3yrs and I'm quickly learning that marriage is a minefield for the husband. You're damned if you do and damned if you don't. Don't waste your time trying to rationalize the logic of a wife lol you have to pick your battles.
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Look at all the single guys and virgins talking shit too lol
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She's just messing with you, call her out on it. You gave her the opportunity of a date night and she turned it down, then she wants to mess with the free time you clearly established. She can't have it both ways, which is what she is trying to do.
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So you would rather play with dudes and squeakers than play with your wife?!?! I'll take her off your hands to give you more playing time dude lol. What a dumb ass
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[quote] So apparently I always choose my games over her.[b] I told her she can throw out the Xbox but we will have to get a divorce.[/b] She didn't like that. [/quote] Oh you totally deserve that.
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don't give a -blam!- about them, every man needs his own time
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Happy wife. Happy life.
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4 RepliesHoly crap you are addicted. A married man with kids and a job shouldn't be playing games anyway and you threatened to divorce her if she got rid of it? That's honestly just sad
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Give that tramp a mushroom stamp.
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Just take the rooster out and bam. Your happy playing games and she's happy having a meal. Winkwink
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You both have reasonable positions on this one, but her waiting until you're actually in the middle of something is typical passive aggressive women BS. You offering before playing was the key, and she fvcked that up, her fault. By purposefully missing the clear opportunity you made pre-game, and waiting until you were actually playing, she effectively created the exact circumstances to support her BS. Im with you on this one.
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1 ReplyThe point I see here is her playing games, games in the meaning of "let's see if I can let him play then make him quit. I hate games like that. The other side of that is why would she play those games? What reason sites she have? Is he truly ignoring her a lot or does she require all of his time to be happy and feel loved? My wife and I both play video games but we also spend time together as well as apart. It is neither healthy or unhealthy to spend every waking hour together depending on the situation. Git to have balance based on the people in the relationship. It is not right to change your mind, get a negative result then be mad at the other person. I think you two need to have a long conversation.
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I'll take care of her. You go on ahead and play your destiny
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3 RepliesI'll choose my girl over games any day, seems to me like you show the games more attention then her. Give her attention and time and she won't mind you playing as much.
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Bro if a woman is upset with you and she says something is fine NOTHING IS FINE
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4 RepliesA relationship is more important than a video game.
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I would get rid of her if she did that to me (but that's just me). I don't want to date someone who likes to change plans a lot. I like things to be planned out most of the time to make it easier for me.
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1 ReplyEverything is a trap, her saying she didn't want to go out and you can play video games actually means "if you play video games instead of grovelling at my feet, it's on"
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2 RepliesLuckily my wife doesn't do that. She will ask me to do something, look at the TV then add "When you're done."
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Step 1 - Get a raid group with people you know Step 2 - Let them know you are going to probably leave mid raid Step 3 - (Optional) - Have replacement on standby. Step 4 - Spend time with the wife.
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And this is why you figure out all the boundaries and niggly stuff BEFORE you get married!
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4 RepliesIf your choosing your wife over a video game, well that's just very sad.
