So my girlfriend won't let me join the Marines, saying "she doesn't want the military as any part of her life"
It's been my life long dream to join the Marines.
What should I do?
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Do you. Plenty of other women out there. If this one isn't on board with YOUR dream, then why bow down to hers? Unless you're planning on marrying her (and if you are, you should re analyze that) there's no reason to waste another minute on her.
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If your girlfriend is preventing you from reaching your dreams, she's the wrong girl.
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I'm in the military my man. It sucks a lot but the rewards can be great
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4 RepliesEdited by Desticle: 1/5/2015 2:36:21 PMJoin the Marines and find a better girlfriend. Don't be like me and regret not joining
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Do what makes you happy. If you want marines, plenty of other women out there. If you want your girl, plenty of other jobs out there.
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6 RepliesEdited by Wolf_Odinson: 1/5/2015 2:45:28 PM1) Understand / accept / believe that no matter what your specialty might be within the Marine Corps (or any branch of any military for that matter); no matter what your reasons for joining are (i.e., job security, travel, educational opportunities, etc.), your ultimate job is to die for your country, if that's what is called for. 2) Watch as many documentaries / news related stories as you possibly can about what the true cost can be of surviving catastrophic injuries related, not only to "usual / customary" combat, but especially IEDs. Listen to stories about guys within units having pacts regarding what should be done in the event their genitalia are blown off (along with their feet and / or legs) by IEDs. Then talk to and, more importantly, [u]listen[/u] to veterans of Iran / Iraq / Afghanistan, etc. who have actually experienced what these things can do to your body, your mind and your life afterward. Learn about the long term effects of traumatic brain injuries and PTSD. [u]Warning[/u]: what follows will sound patronizing but I assure you, that is not my intention - 3) Understand that what you are thinking about embarking upon is not a video game experience. There are no respawns; your k/dr will equal exactly ###:1... if you're lucky. If not, it will equal exactly 0:1. But in either scenario, you will still be dead. If you do these things and still decide you want to join the Marines; being okay with the additional [possible] expense of your relationship, then take the oath. You have my thanks in advance for your service to this country if that's what you ultimately decide to do; in any event, good luck to you.
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1 ReplyHow big are the boobs
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Life long dream? Leave her and join the military man. Plenty of other women out there.
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Edited by Dontrell: 1/5/2015 2:43:34 PMThat's your dream. You only have this one life. Chose your path but have no regrets about it. Everyone has dreams and a love to hang on to but as you live, you realize you're not doing any of this shit for anyone but you.
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Army sucks!!! And your army is actually one that attacks other countries!! Your media and politicians might tell you it's for a good cause but if you just start to use your brain a little bit you can see through their crap. They are using you and you risk your life for them!? Your girlfriend seems a bit smarter than you (no offence) listen to her!! She seems to really like you!!
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First take into account how long you have been together, and if it's been a long time do you plan on marrying her. If not long or that second answer is no then I would say join. Honestly as long as you play it smart you can have a lot of doors opened from the military. I did 4 years active army, now getting 2 grand a month to go to school, all the jobs I will be looking at after college give veterans preference which means increased job chances. Look at what you want in the future and decide.
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1 ReplyIt's your girlfriend, not wife. I assume you don't have kids. I served 8 years, been around the world twice, seen things most people won't and I loved 90% of the time I was in. Would do it again in a heart beat. I can't imagine your girlfriend being the best thing that's ever happened to you if she won't allow you to follow your dreams. Duece her, and join. You will find someone else that supports you and will be better for it Semper Fi
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She is only concerned for you well being.. but never let anyone stop you from fulfilling a dream. Plus marines swim in pussy so no worries there
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Edited by BurntRubber5: 1/5/2015 2:39:57 PMAfter reading your poll and the replies to it I will offer yet more advice. This is from SGT, US Army, 36TH INFANTRY DIVISION, F 2-149 AVN RGT One of the replies said to learn of the true cost of war, it was scare tactics. Your chances of being in a fatal car crash in the states are higher than being hit by an IED overseas. If you wish to marry this woman and happily spend your life together, then sit down and have a serious talk. If your relationship isn't on the level then you do what is best for you. After multiple deployments and 10 years of service, being a soldier is very, very rewarding. It is difficult, you need to maintain a strong mind and keep your wits about you. Learning to control your temper is important. You will have fun, you will most likely learn a life skill, the benefits are excellent, you'll be able to attend college for free or get a second degree for free if you already have one. A forum should NEVER choose any part of your life. You need to learn right now to be your own person and only to follow leaders, not your peers. Finally, war is grueling, it is long days in lots of equipment, its nerve wrecking and boring 99% of the time. There is a chance you will see combat if you choose a combat MOS. Follow your training always. HOOAH! (Yes Marines say something different, I am not a marine, I am a tactical air traffic controller in the Army, best job on earth if your smart enough and motivated enough).
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Any military position has a high chance of death, would you want that for your partner probs best to stay single..just sleep around when your on break. Unless your married or have kids then I'd say don't join. But that's my opinion don't expect anyone to agree.
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Edited by boabcat88: 1/5/2015 2:36:59 PMYou shouldn't have to ask people on a forum.
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Do what u want if u wanna join that badly and dont because of her ur just going to hold it against her forever whether u realize it or not u need to do what makes u happy. Good luck on ur discussion cant be an easy one
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its your life. do as you please.
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Join anyways don't let anyone hold u back from doing something u have always wanted to do if she really loves u she Will stay if not there is always the next one out there
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it might help to put this in #offtopic. that being said this isn't the best place for advice like some other people have said. but if it were up to me, and I wanted to join for so long so badly, I would do it. explain to her this is something you've dreamed of doing. I think it all comes down to what you want more. I'm not saying you will definitely lose your gf but there is that possibility. if you really love her and she loves you back, everything will work out.
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Listen to her, you have no place in the military. When I enlisted in 2006 I never ran to internet strangers to see "who is right". I enlisted because I had that fire inside me that told me I needed to serve. If you don't have that, or you're doing it for any other reason, you are going to end up getting someone killed.
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This is a decision you need to live with yourself. I joined when everyone else told me not to. I lost my girlfriend at the time also but wouldn't exchange the experiences I got to have for anything.
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The worst place for advice... But honestly if its something that youve always wanted tell her. If she cant comply lose her. The worst type of people to be with are the ones that stop you from doing what you love
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She is just a girlfriend if she was your wife it would matter more. May this point it's still your life haha.
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If you join the marines....what class will you be?
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1 ReplyThat's cause she doesn't wanna have to bang some random dude while you're away. Save her the guilt and stay.