So my girlfriend won't let me join the Marines, saying "she doesn't want the military as any part of her life"
It's been my life long dream to join the Marines.
What should I do?
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More than likely if you join and deploy she will be prego when you come back for leave anyway so don't worry about it.
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Edited by DaoFerret: 1/5/2015 3:47:16 PMHonestly? Sounds like something you need to work out with her, not this community. Choice A, you join and she accepts it. Great. Choice B, you join and she doesn't. Not as good short term, probably better long term if you find someone in line with where you want to be. Choice C, you don't join and she and you live a great life together. Choice D, you don't join and break up after five months over some other stupid stuff. Ultimately if you see the two of you together "long term" then you have to make life choices (like this one) with her. If you can't agree (depending on the degree of disagreement), then it might be time to rethink the relationship. Either way, you should first figure out what you want. When you find the right person, you'll be surprised what you'd give up and what you wouldn't for them. (It will also show you what you truly value ... A topic for another time) Edit: damn smartphone autocorrect messing up speelling and punctua.tion. ;)
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Just tell her you like men, stop playing with her, I mean which straight man says his dream is to be surrounded by men for long periods of time?
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She's not the one, she's just one of the ones. There's only one USMC.
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Once you join, it will be your life long dream to get out , go to college man .... Unless you want to sign 4 or more years of your life away and come out all -blam!-ed up.... Not saying everyone does but a lot do . Goodluck
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I think you need to fully convey what joining means to you and question why exactly she resents the idea so much. Clearly there are some underlying issues that need to be resolved.
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After reading this im pretty sure you shouldnt join the marines... But give it a try maybe they let 13 year olds join these days.
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7 RepliesEdited by Crosis: 1/5/2015 3:30:02 PMGo to the VA hospital and talk to some of the vets and ask them if they knew what they knew now would they still join the military. Dont be a pawn
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So basically she doesn't want your dream as any part of her life? She's a keeper (not). If you were already a Marine this wouldn't be an issue. Marine's are men, not boys bossed around by girlfriends.
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Flip a coin
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Edited by Circadian Wolf: 1/5/2015 3:10:19 PM[quote]What should I do?[/quote] Post this thread in the right forum. [url=http://www.bungie.net/en/Forum/Topics/0/Default/None/OffTopic]Use the offtopic forum[/url]
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Ridiculous. Join. What is it with kids these days?? She's not even your wife, so it shouldn't even be a question. Aside from that, if it's been your dream and she prevents you from doing it, you'll always resent her for it and eventually it'll kill the relationship anyway. Furthermore, why on earth would you want to be with someone who doesn't want you to be you, or accomplish your dreams. That's just pathetic. Seriously, join and find someone you're actually compatible with. Smh.
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That really shouldn't be her decision. If you want to join the military and that's your calling, then you do what you have to do. If she can' t live with it, then it wasn't meant to be.
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[quote]she doesn't want the military as any part of her life[/quote] It is your life and you can do what you want with it, if she doesn't agree with it and won't support you, than she isn't the girl for you.
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If it's your dream then I would suggest joining. She will either understand and support you or she will leave.
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If you can't handle your girl please don't join the military. You have no backbone
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If she is truly the only thing keeping you from joining, I suggest having fun with her one more night, and packing your bags. So much tail to be had out there; don't tie yourself down with this one.
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If you are asking a game community about life decisions, don't join your not cut out for it.
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7 RepliesWhat would Jesus do
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4 RepliesEdited by Undefined: 1/5/2015 2:53:49 PMGranted that you can't even post this thread in the correct forum section, I think your girlfriend is right. You shouldn't join the Marines. Also, I'm also pretty sure Jill doesn't appreciate you blaming stuff on her when she does whatever you want.[spoiler]#Offtopic...[/spoiler]
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Dig a ditch, and bury the bitch
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I'd say you have a tough choice. First and foremost- live your own life. If joining up is something you feel is important to you then you need to do it. Second if your GF isn't down with it then your relationship is probably not going to survive the hardships that go along with military service. I've seen the military corrupt relationships I thought were really strong. Military divorce rates are higher than those of the civilian population, for legitimate reasons. So right now you have to really take a hard look at what's important to you, and her reasons and commitment to the prospect of you joining up. If your service is still top of your list you may have to do the kindest thing you can for her and let her go.
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if you love her youll take what she says in account but if she loves you just as much she will let you do what your dream is... so honestly she should support what you want and you should support what she wants and then decide which is more important happiness with your girlfriend or living your dream without your girlfriend... thats life
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ive been in the same situation... relationships dont last
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1 ReplyWhy are you asking this on a video game forum?
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Do you. Plenty of other women out there. If this one isn't on board with YOUR dream, then why bow down to hers? Unless you're planning on marrying her (and if you are, you should re analyze that) there's no reason to waste another minute on her.