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My girlfriend won't let me join....

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So my girlfriend won't let me join the Marines, saying "she doesn't want the military as any part of her life" It's been my life long dream to join the Marines. What should I do?
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  • Say Buh bye

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  • Lol why would you let your girlfriend dictate whether or not you do something that's your lifelong dream? Do you bruh. If she isnt supportive of your life's decisions then screw her. There's billions more where she came from.

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  • My wife loved being military family. If joining the Marines is something you want to do then join.

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  • do what you want whats wrong with men nowadays stop letting these woman control your life shes the one getting banged laying flat on her back or is that you lol

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  • From a guy that is in the military, I say SCREW HER AND JOIN!!! Any branch of military is worth serving for as long as you absolutely want to do it. Also word of advice, don't let anybody tell you what to do, because yes you will be making them happy, but you will also intern be making yourself miserable. Just be wise about what branch you join, because I have worked with some marines, and they are not the best of people to work with in the military. Consider your option. But that is just my opinion and .02 cents.

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  • Don't join.. Fight "wars" of corporations greed. And fight to die for them. I think not. They send you away like a pawn without a care

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  • My girl said the same thing. I joined anyways, and guess what we are married now.

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  • Don't talk to us about this. Are you kidding me!? This is a conversation with your family to have not the Internet.

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  • Get a new gf

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  • Join the -blam!-ing marines. She could wake up tomorrow and decide she wants some other dick in her mouth then where's that leave you? Follow your dreams. Find a girl that wants to be your partner

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  • Kick her to the curb, if she can't support your life decisions then she isn't the one for you. I've done 10 years in the army and spent half my marriage apart from my wife. She supported me every step of the way

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  • It isn't that simple. If she's really a huge part of your life, you need to take what she has to say into consideration. You need to consider the consequences of either choice. It really does come down to how much she means to you.

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  • I am truly disappointed in the nay sayers. If you couldn't serve or chose not to your voice should be heard, it should not be negative and it should not be extreme. There is not a high chance at death. In 11 years at war on two fronts we lost less than 9,000 American lives. Of the roughly 6,000,000 men and women who served, that is 0.0015% casualty rate. Seriously people. Your more likely to be shot by a cop or die in a car crash or die from a vending machine falling on you. If you choose a non-combat MOS, which is most jobs, you won't ever even see combat. IF you deploy, as we are pulling out of both wars, you will simply be bored, hot, and overworked. And you'll come home without having even cut yourself shaving for crying out loud. Be mature, people. If he said he wanted to be a cop everyone would have praised him, same as a firefighter. Both jobs have the same chance of death or serious injury. And your ultimate goal is to end war, not die. This isn't 13th century China at war with the Mongols. Read a damn book, nonfiction, you nay sayers make me sick.

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    • I say join if it's what u want to do. I have been in for ten years. If you don't like it u can get out after your enlistment. And go on with your life and go back to school and have you're schooling paid for.

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    • My high school girlfriend didn't want me to join the Navy out of high school. I did anyway. We are no longer together. I'm out of the service now. I'm finishing my second degree. I have paid zero dollars out of pocket for school, and have a great job as an engineer. I just bought a house, and live with my current girlfriend of two years. If it's something you really have your heart set on, then go for it. I can't imagine where my life would be if I had not served in the military. Just make sure that if you go enlisted, you pick a job that interests you, and will have some application when you get out. Best of luck, whatever you decide.

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    • You'll never be a Marine until you take possession of your own balls

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    • Go ahead and join mate! She'll either leave because she doesn't want her heart to break when you die, or she'll just bang a bunch of dudes while you're gone and not tell you. Either way you win because you're doing your dream!

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      • Edited by DouglasDoom: 1/5/2015 3:49:39 PM
        If thats your dream then do it. Dont change for anyone. If she truly loves you then she'll accept it. If not then it wasn't meant to be.

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      • Well...there's no real straight forward answer here.firstly you might want to take a look at your plans for both the marines and her.are the marines something you really need or even want to do or just a dream?and do you see yourself with her long term?if you plan on staying with her but you don't wanna give up your dream the best thing you could do is talk to her find out why she doesn't want you to go exactly and figure it out together

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      • You should just play professional sports. It's a pretty good living

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      • Do what you do if she loved you she would support your decision to join. But on the flip side you should join a real branch like the army.

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        • If you really want to do it do it as an officer. Go to school, amigo. If you still wanna do it after that then do it. Plus you're probably early 20's at most, that gf probably won't be your Mrs. Don't let her make life decisions for you. Let random fellow players make those for you.

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          • You don't want to be with someone who will control your life like that. If it's this, what else will she control? Your job? Your house? Your types of entertainment? Your kids? At the same time though, if your girlfriend simply expresses that she doesn't want you to join the military, gives you legitimate reasons, but says she'll support you anyways, you ought to give her concerns some weight. Sometimes people have a hard time expressing their concerns about your decisions that also affect them without it coming off as controlling. So which is it? Is she trying to control you, or is she just concerned that you might get shot overseas, and that she can't handle being away from you for whole deployments? Being a military spouse is extremely stressful. Also, how serious is your relationship? How much do you care about her, and how much does she care about you? She's just your girlfriend. However, do you plan on marrying her? Does she see herself marrying you? Ask yourself, and her, if you see yourselves together in 10, 20, 50 years. Someone you're not going to be with forever should not be dictating your life. So, in other words, you have a long, hard conversation ahead of you. In life, and in relationships, there are no easy answers. Nobody can tell you what to do. It is up to you to make the decision. You have to do some hard thinking about what you really want and what you really care about. You have to ask the same of her. Then, you have to make the best decision you can possibly make and stick to it with the recognition that you did the best you could. That's all anyone can ask for. There will likely be tears and maybe some yelling. Somebody will be hurt somehow. That's a part of growing up though. So please, don't listen to anyone on these forums telling you one way or another, and stop asking others for advice. Go think, talk with your girlfriend, and make a decision. It will be hard, but it's the right thing to do.

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            • Just do it if someone doesn't support your life long dreams then they don't love you. My wife didn't like the fact I join the marines but she let me because she knows how much it ment to me.

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            • Depending on what you do in the marines she shouldn't have to worry about you

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            • More than likely if you join and deploy she will be prego when you come back for leave anyway so don't worry about it.

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