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Edited by HurtfulTurkey: 5/30/2014 2:05:34 PM
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Does our culture tell men they're entitled to sex?

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No

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Simple question with no third option. Do you think that current Western culture, at some level, tells men that they are entitled to women? (Had to shorten the title) Explain, if you want. Edit 5/30: Question 2: Do you think our society is misogynistic?

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  • Edited by Seggi: 5/30/2014 4:20:18 AM
    Bleh, not in the literal sense that we collectively tell men that you can have sex with women whenever you want and they're not allowed to say no. Not in the sense that every man has a complete disregard for the integrity of a woman's unforced consent at all times. Maybe it's better to say that it's not so much about men feeling entitled as it is about men expecting sexual attention. This post is a good example: [quote]Most men consider sex as an act of conquest, which means you have to earn it, which means that nobody is entitled to it. If men were entitled to it, the idea of a "player" wouldn't exist.[/quote] It's seeing women as a game: go through the motions, play it right, 'earn' sex. They might think you have to hit on them in this certain way or you have to buy them this dinner or that jewellery or a couple of drinks or that you just have to be a 'nice' guy or make them laugh. In any case that kind of mindset is about reducing women themselves to mechanical obstacles to sex. And that's [i]hard[/i] to address because it's something in just about all of us, I think. It's something I felt a lot in high school, it's something I've felt at parties and it's not something that just disappears and *bam* you're a 'good person' and from now on you'll never think in any kind of way resembling that again here's your badge for the not-sexist club, it needs to be actively recognised and addressed when and where it comes up. It's not as though somebody's a bad person for feeling that kind of expectation, but it does mean that you absolutely cannot just ignore it. Believe it or not, 'most men consider sex an act of conquest' is about as much of an endorsement of feminist conceptions of -blam!- culture as anything could be, and I think that is, ultimately, what this question is about.

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