This is truly a waste of time for u. U are the backup plan or plan B if you will. Let me ask u this, do u find it fair to be treated that way? The answer should be no if it isn't. I am not trying to be a dic here but this bullshyt happens time and time again. U aren't the first and won't be the last. Let her find another putz. Don't waste ur time, find someone worth ur time.