So I'm in the tower turning in my bounties before changing characters to go play some IB when I get a message from a random 29. All it says is "VOG hard?" Since I've already beaten the raid on hard on all three of my characters this week I replied with a simple "No". Now I always get a little depressed when I see another message coming back after that response. Most of the time, the follow up is, "why not?", which is a really dumb question to ask. What are you going to do when I tell you that I've already done it? Change my mind? If someone declines a raid invite, suck it up and move on. The forums and destinylfg exist for a reason. This particular 29 in his infinite wisdom sent back the following "i love u 30s u think your better but your not u were a 29 once". Don't assume what other people's motivations are. Don't antagonize or provoke someone you're asking to help you. And FFS people, please try to exercise a little civility both on the forums and in game. I promise you will get much better results.