I have a 45+ hours job myself and a family to take care of. But I don't feel excluded from any part of the game. It only takes me a little longer to achieve what I want to. But this is by any means how a game like Destiny should work. Most of the time I can't from Xur every week but who cares? Sometimes I don't have the time for raiding. But then again sometimes I do have the time. The problem most gamers have is that they are too obsessed with other players achievement. This is why mythoclast had to be nerfed and still PvPers keep complaining going from one weapon to another. And this why snowflakers have such a huge problem with Xur. Play for yourself and your own goals at your own paste.