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Edited by Otthild:
7/15/2014 4:09:21 AM
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Flood, it's my turn for advice
Recently I got diagnosed with depression. Things have been, for lack of a better word, hard. Since that got pinned on me, I struggle to find happiness in my daily activities. I no longer find joy in tormenting all of you and my coworkers.
As I get closer to my due date, I notice my boyfriend getting more and more distant. He won't answer my messages or hold me like he used to. Usually I'm not all touchy, feely, and all that fgt shit, but for some reason it's really starting to bother me.
Anyways, I feel forgotten and cast aside. I told my boyfriend at the start of this relationship that if he was going to pull this shit he can go find someone else. But since I'm a bit attached right now (having his kid, yadayadayada), I can't seem to leave. Don't get my wrong guys, I love the -blam!-er. I just need more... attention, affection, and hell at least some acknowledgement. I've talked to him several times about this, but it seems to have fallen on deaf ears.
What would you do in this situation?
TL;DR: Otthild's ranting and wants advice on how to deal with a negligent significant other.
EDIT: Baby is going out for adoption.
EDIT #2: Guys, I have talked to him. I've talked to him a lot. He always brushes me off.
EDIT #3: Yes, I will be going to counseling for postpartum.
EDIT #4: Thank you for the advice guys. I'll try to apply it the best I can. Also, thank you for the limited amount of troll responses.
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Honestly, take a little control. You've put yourself in a situation where you are feeling totally submissive to the happenings around you. I'm sure you're feeling overwhelmed because you're thinking about it in a way that allows you to give up on such things. You were diagnosed with depression - okay. Understandable. Things are hard. But instead of letting the diagnosis control how you look at things and how you are, you should dismiss it and when something negative comes along, challenge yourself to find the light / good in the situation. Sort of like an exercise of sorts. As I have always told myself, and I hope others share the opinion: A man is not a father unless he is fathering. Same goes for a woman. A woman is not a mother unless she is mothering. What I mean by that is you should not have the expectation that he will become a father just because you had sex. It's not in his reality right now. You're carrying the baby, it's your reality. Now, I'm not condoning his type of approach on the situation because obviously I wouldn't want my to-be husband to act like that if I were pregnant. If he is not holding you, if he is not giving you affection - he's not feeling it. He's pushed himself away. Now, I don't know if he's mistreating you, or totally ignoring you, but I wouldn't put up with it. If it's as far as I think it has gone with you, I'd seek out my own happiness.
