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12/6/2012 7:39:33 PM
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How a Bully Saved my Life
I used to be a pretty nerdy kid back in high school. I was into playing video games and not sports, not working out, dressing poorly and being awkward and shy around girls. Being hopeless like this of course a bully took notice of me and began to harass me. He would call me names and shove me down and push me around. It was like torture.
Anyway I got tired of his crap so I started working out, flirting with girls, getting into sports, and improving the quality of my life a ton. I began to finally live life and if not for that bully I would still probably a skinny nerd playing video games all day. I am glad that bully entered my life.
I know bullies get a lot of hate in the media when they say "oh they are killing our children" when bullies are just a normal part of life and growing up and facing adversity. So I just wanted to put a positive spin on bullying and how it builds character and toughness.
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] DatDudeBV I feel bad for bullies. I feel bad for anyone who gets injured by a weapon when they are unarmed. [/quote] A man goes to the zoo, and finds an 8-foot long stick. He uses this stick to poke a tiger in its cage from 7 am to 7 pm. He goes home, wakes up, goes back to the zoo, and does it again. He starts doing this every day. No one asks him to stop or prevents him from doing it. The stick hurts the tiger, but it doesn't do anything. The man just keeps poking it, for two years straight, 7 am to 7 pm every day. At the end of the two years, the tiger breaks out of its cage and mauls the man severely. Do you feel bad for the man?
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] Mitochondrion doesn't mean to say that you can't keep the good whilst stabbing the bully's eyes out with a pen.[/quote] Gosh I hope you aren't serous.
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] car15 [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] DatDudeBV Ok, So going off of that. You feel its okay that bully victims at columbine shot up the school and killed the bullies correct? I feel bad for bullies. I feel bad for anyone who gets injured by a weapon when they are unarmed. [/quote] Sigh facepalm bertface. No. That is not at all what I said. Your reading comprehension skills are appalling. I feel bad for bullies too, but for different reasons. They're usually driven by a desperate need to validate their own self-worth. It's basic psychology, I mean [i]basic[/i] psychology. You learn this stuff as a freshman in college. People with high self-esteem become aggressive when their self-esteem is challenged by someone they view as inferior to them and they also feel the need to maintain their self-esteem by demonstrating their superiority to others by picking on "inferiors."[/quote] Yes I know. Like I said, I took psychology. I've bullied, I never needed to "validate" anything. I did it because it was fun and funny.
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] Studness4 I used to be a pretty nerdy kid back in high school. I was into playing video games and not sports, not working out, dressing poorly and being awkward and shy around girls. Being hopeless like this of course a bully took notice of me and began to harass me. He would call me names and shove me down and push me around. It was like torture. Anyway I got tired of his crap so I started working out, flirting with girls, getting into sports, and improving the quality of my life a ton. I began to finally live life and if not for that bully I would still probably a skinny nerd playing video games all day. I am glad that bully entered my life. I know bullies get a lot of hate in the media when they say "oh they are killing our children" when bullies are just a normal part of life and growing up and facing adversity. So I just wanted to put a positive spin on bullying and how it builds character and toughness.[/quote] He made your life torture and you are blaming yourself. Just because some good came out of it, doesn't mean to say that you can't keep the good whilst stabbing the bully's eyes out with a pen.
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] DatDudeBV Ok, So going off of that. You feel its okay that bully victims at columbine shot up the school and killed the bullies correct? I feel bad for bullies. I feel bad for anyone who gets injured by a weapon when they are unarmed. [/quote] Sigh facepalm bertface. No. That is not at all what I said. Your reading comprehension skills are appalling. I feel bad for bullies too, but for different reasons. They're usually driven by a desperate need to validate their own self-worth. It's basic psychology, I mean [i]basic[/i] psychology. You learn this stuff as a freshman in college. People with high self-esteem become aggressive when their self-esteem is challenged by someone they view as inferior to them and they also feel the need to maintain their self-esteem by demonstrating their superiority to others by picking on "inferiors."
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] Studness4 So I just wanted to put a positive spin on bullying and how it builds character and toughness.[/quote]Being pushed around can send people different ways. Only the less-sensitive manage to adapt whilst the remainder submit. It is a refining process.
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] ABotelho [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] DatDudeBV [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] ABotelho lol, you changed because you were pressured into it. What exactly was wrong with how you were before? Weak mind, buddy.[/quote] What was wrong was that he was getting bullied and didnt enjoy his life. So he took it into his own hands and did something about it.[/quote] Sure, I can understand bulking up to fend off the bully. But suddenly starting to play sports, even though it's obvious he doesn't enjoy them because he wasn't playing them before, and ditching video games? That's being manipulated.[/quote] How? You gotta do stuff you dont like sometimes. Hey, I dont really enjoy playing baseball. I love football alot more and would rather be playing that. But baseball is what allows me to attend college for free. You gotta do what you gotta do.
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] To Infinity 10/10 well said op[/quote]
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There's a block feature on most websites. People blow cyber bullying way out of proportion. [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] abelsinh Do you think this could apply to ciber-bullying?[/quote]
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] car15 [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] DatDudeBV Yes insult my intelligence and call me a troll. That makes it all better. [/quote] I shouldn't have to do this, but screw it. Let me explain what I mean. Bullies make kids feel hopeless, powerless, and desperate. When a person feels this way, they react badly to provocation. Their desperation causes them to act irrationally. So when a threatening bully comes along and provokes them, they usually do one of two things. A) succumb to it completely (due to learned helplessness) or, B) react against it decisively and preemptively (due to the fight-or-flight instinct which is triggered out of proportion to what's actually happening, again due to learned helplessness) The bully is not responsible for their victim's specific decision to slam them with a baseball bat, but they are responsible for creating the psychological conditions that led them to resort to extreme violence. This is why people do not feel bad for bullies. They are not blameless. They bring it upon themselves. Didn't your mom ever tell you not to play with fire? You never know when it might burn you.[/quote] Ok, So going off of that. You feel its okay that bully victims at columbine shot up the school and killed the bullies correct? I feel bad for bullies. I feel bad for anyone who gets injured by a weapon when they are unarmed.
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Sure is omega in this tread. Am i doing it right?
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] ABotelho Sure, I can understand bulking up to fend off the bully. But suddenly starting to play sports, even though it's obvious he doesn't enjoy them because he wasn't playing them before, and ditching video games? That's being manipulated.[/quote] This is what I've been saying. Thank you for being another sane and level-headed person. My faith in humanity has increased. Working out is good because it's healthy and it gives you physical strength, not because it's "normal" or "macho." Sports has nothing to do with it. Video games have nothing to do with it. Talking to girls has nothing to do with it. I knew a guy in high school who was [i]the[/i] star athlete of the town. Best track runner in 20 years, football wide receiver, etc... Single-handedly won most track meets. Was responsible for several game-changing touchdowns. Went to college on a track scholarship. Couldn't talk to girls to save his life. He went on a grand total of two dates in the entire four years he was at high school. He was infatuated with this one girl for most of his time there but didn't even [i]try[/i] to ask her out until halfway through senior year. By that time, literally everyone knew he was into her, and she was so turned off by his sissy attitude that she turned him down flat. [Edited on 12.06.2012 2:29 PM PST]
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] ABotelho [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] DatDudeBV [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] ABotelho lol, you changed because you were pressured into it. What exactly was wrong with how you were before? Weak mind, buddy.[/quote] What was wrong was that he was getting bullied and didnt enjoy his life. So he took it into his own hands and did something about it.[/quote] Sure, I can understand bulking up to fend off the bully. But suddenly starting to play sports, even though it's obvious he doesn't enjoy them because he wasn't playing them before, and ditching video games? That's being manipulated.[/quote] inb4alphacrapincoming
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] DatDudeBV [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] ABotelho lol, you changed because you were pressured into it. What exactly was wrong with how you were before? Weak mind, buddy.[/quote] What was wrong was that he was getting bullied and didnt enjoy his life. So he took it into his own hands and did something about it.[/quote] Sure, I can understand bulking up to fend off the bully. But suddenly starting to play sports, even though it's obvious he doesn't enjoy them because he wasn't playing them before, and ditching video games? That's being manipulated.
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] DatDudeBV Yes insult my intelligence and call me a troll. That makes it all better. [/quote] I shouldn't have to do this, but screw it. Let me explain what I mean. Bullies make kids feel hopeless, powerless, and desperate. When a person feels this way, they react badly to provocation. Their desperation causes them to act irrationally. So when a threatening bully comes along and provokes them, they usually do one of two things. A) succumb to it completely (due to learned helplessness) or, B) react against it decisively and preemptively (due to the fight-or-flight instinct which is triggered out of proportion to what's actually happening, again due to learned helplessness) The bully is not responsible for their victim's specific decision to slam them with a baseball bat, but they are responsible for creating the psychological conditions that led them to resort to extreme violence. This is why people do not feel bad for bullies. They are not blameless. They bring it upon themselves. Didn't your mom ever tell you not to play with fire? You never know when it might burn you. [Edited on 12.06.2012 2:23 PM PST]
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] ABotelho lol, you changed because you were pressured into it. What exactly was wrong with how you were before? Weak mind, buddy.[/quote] What was wrong was that he was getting bullied and didnt enjoy his life. So he took it into his own hands and did something about it.
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] car15 [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] DatDudeBV [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] car15 Bullies are not blameless for making kids feel desperate. At the same time, they are not responsible for how those kids respond.[/quote] So they are to blame, but they arent responsible? How does this make sense? [/quote] You're an idiot and you're not even good at trolling. My meaning is obvious.[/quote] Yes insult my intelligence and call me a troll. That makes it all better.
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I'm sure there are plenty of people who are perfectly happy being who you apparently were at one point. The only person who makes them feel like it's "wrong" is the bullies. If you're happier now than so be it. I'm just pointing that out.
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lol, you changed because you were pressured into it. What exactly was wrong with how you were before? Weak mind, buddy.
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] DatDudeBV [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] car15 Bullies are not blameless for making kids feel desperate. At the same time, they are not responsible for how those kids respond.[/quote] So they are to blame, but they arent responsible? How does this make sense? [/quote] You're an idiot and you're not even good at trolling. My meaning is obvious.
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lolno
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I broke my bullies jaw, collar bone, left knee, and wrist. That was quite the hospital bill I had to pay. It was worth the praise I was given.
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] car15 Bullies are not blameless for making kids feel desperate. At the same time, they are not responsible for how those kids respond.[/quote] So they are to blame, but they arent responsible? How does this make sense?
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] Baba OSmiley [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] DatDudeBV [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] Baba OSmiley [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] DatDudeBV [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] Baba OSmiley Congratulations on willfully conforming to the toxic ideal of masculinity being shoved down the throats of young men across the world by the media. I'm sure your former tormenters are very proud. Remember kids: the responsibility is always on the victim to not be a victim. [/quote] OMG DONT CONFORM! Are you kidding me? Act like youve got a pair[/quote] I'll "grow a pair" once you stop abusing others to convince the world that your pair is bigger.[/quote] Abusing others? LOL Sorry man. Bullying is natural. Survival of the fittest. [/quote] lololol so edgy[/quote] thats your response? Im not trying to seem edgy. Im telling it like it is.
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cool story bro
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[quote][b]Posted by:[/b] DatDudeBV [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] Baba OSmiley [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] DatDudeBV [quote][b]Posted by:[/b] Baba OSmiley Congratulations on willfully conforming to the toxic ideal of masculinity being shoved down the throats of young men across the world by the media. I'm sure your former tormenters are very proud. Remember kids: the responsibility is always on the victim to not be a victim. [/quote] OMG DONT CONFORM! Are you kidding me? Act like youve got a pair[/quote] I'll "grow a pair" once you stop abusing others to convince the world that your pair is bigger.[/quote] Abusing others? LOL Sorry man. Bullying is natural. Survival of the fittest. [/quote] lololol so edgy
