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Edited by CrealEater: 12/21/2016 5:00:54 AM
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*UPDATED* Love Triangle, Who should I ask out?

Ask out Girl A

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Ask out Girl B

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*UPDATE* So I asked out Girl A and as expected, she said she wasn't looking to be in a relationship at the moment. However I'm not going to ask Girl B out either because Girl A is way too f****** awesome and she made me realize how much I don't care for Girl B at all. More details are in the spoiler just below [spoiler]Now to not only lay out some of her personality traits but also to explain my decision. Girl A is a somewhat quiet solitary person, and often first thinks about herself in most cases (believe it or not, that is a good thing). Her method of thinking is also very logical. She often wont do something if she doesn't see a benefit in doing it. For example, her current priority right now is college. She wont even make time for her best of friends to hang out because it would "interrupt" or bring her attention away from her studies. From my experience of being around her, not even a boyfriend could get in the way of her and her studies. She claims herself to be bad at keeping friends (I'm the same way). I know why she is bad at keeping friends. Previously I had said: [quote]If we were to get together, I would be the one asking her out on just about every occasion and she would never be the one to ask me if I had any free time or if we could get together at any point.[/quote] Well, this is largely true because she doesn't even ask her friends if they want to do anything either. However, she still isn't a dispassionate person either. It's almost as if she doesn't know how to ask someone if they have time to hang out even if she wants to. This directly ties into something that one of her friends told me last semester about her. Her friend said that "Girl A never wants to do anything, and she never waits for me after exams. Like yeah I want to talk to you, good friends wait so that they can chat." Girl A is interested in me, but she purposefully isn't allowing that interest to advance as a way of keeping her focus on her classes and studies. Her interest is exposed in the small occurrences of things that she does. For example, this one happened today (12/21/16). I finished the exam 10 minutes early so I waited outside the lecture hall for her to finish her exam (btw when I was walking out of the lecture hall, I checked to ensure that all of her friends had left already, in which they did). 15 minutes later she leaves the lecture hall and walks to the exit of the building and stops in front of the door, thinks for a quarter of a second, then steps aside and waits, as if to wait for someone. She then looks around, spots me, smiles and walks over to me to say hi (goddang-it she's so cute). Our conversation did not end on a bad note at all. She may have indirectly shot me down but she only said that she "isn't pursuing a relationship at the moment." I decided not to date Girl B because just that one 30-minute conversation with Girl A made me realize how much I don't like Girl B. Girl B is nothing in comparison to Girl A. Girl B may be cute, but Girl A is cuter. I do personally think that I could end up dating Girl A in the future. And so, to ensure my availability to Girl A, I will not date Girl B. I may add in the exact dating conversation that I had with her tomorrow. For now, I'm tired. It's 11:42pm and I have my last final exam tomorrow and I spent the last two hours typing out this update. I'm going to bed[/spoiler] Yes, I'm stuck in a love triangle with me and two other girls who we'll call Girl A and Girl B. Here are my situations revolving around the two: Girl A [spoiler]I first met her in one of the help sessions that I go to for a class in college. We quickly became friends and get along VERY well together. I'm certain she knows that I'm interested in her and I personally think that she is interested in me as well. However, one of the classes that she is in "steals her life away" as in it takes practically all of her free time away since there are too many difficult assignments to do. Thus all of my advances (asking if she wants to grab some lunch, study together, etc.) have failed due to one of three of her reasons: 1. She has a project due or 2. She has to study or 3. She wont be on campus during that time. HOWEVER finals exams are coming to a close and since the classes will be ending she will then have no excuse but to tell me if she interested or not in going out. I'm likely going to try one last time Tuesday after her and my physics exam[/spoiler] Girl B [spoiler]She is a coworker at the place that I work at. Two years younger than me and I am 100% sure that she wants to go out/ be in a relationship with me (Confirmed today [12/18/16]). Over the past few weeks she has done the typical girl things to say that she likes me including: trying to be around me, helping me with some things, and more recently trying to get me to buy her something (I never bought her anything) Example conversation: Girl B: "Hey, do you want to buy me these donuts?" Me: "Nope" (no hesitation) Girl B: "But I want some donuts" (this was said half-jokingly) Me: "Why do you want me specifically to buy you some donuts?" Girl B: "Because........ you're my best friend" (she meant best friend at work, I don't know her outside of work) Me: "That's not a reason to buy you donuts" Girl B: "Yes it is, am I not your best friend?" Me: "I never said that, I'm just asking you for the real reason why you want me to buy you donuts" Girl B: "Well............... because you're my best friend" Me: "Wow, you're funny" (half-jokingly) Girl B: *she smiles, then blushes, then adjusts her necklace, then goes to do some other task Me: [Laughs in my mind thinking: "She is too funny" (I thought that was cute)][/spoiler] My Personal thoughts regarding the two: Girl A [spoiler]The Good: By a small margin, the better of the two. If I had an equal opportunity to date either of the two girls, I would definitely date Girl A. Her personality is very accepting, cool, relaxing, and fun (my type of fun [gaming is not that type]). We share many morals together, work well together, and like similar but not exactly the same thing (this is good for relationships). She is also great in areas that I'm not so great in, which evens out our strengths and weaknesses. Essentially, we'd be almost perfect for each other (ideally) and would have a fantastic and relatively long term relationship. She is someone I'd be proud to introduce to my parents as my girlfriend. The Bad: She seems like she would be very dispassionate. If we were to get together, I would be the one asking her out on just about every occasion and she would never be the one to ask me if I had any free time or if we could get together at any point. In other words, I'd be more passionate about the relationship than she would. That is a HUGE negative thing to me because people have treated me that way all my life and I cant stand it. It drops my self esteem, and makes me feel like I'm worthless to people. I'd end up drifting away from her if she remained dispassionate because I'd feel like she doesn't want to be around me. I don't really want to feel like that again.... for the billionth time.[/spoiler] Girl B [spoiler]The Good: She likes me. Simple. I feel great around her knowing that she's into me, I'd actually feel liked/loved by someone other than my close family. That is something I never really got from anyone while I was growing up, so it is important to me. She's also pretty cool to be around and it's cute how she gets nervous/shy when I say anything in regards to her liking me (more proof of some passion that I want more of). The Bad: I'm not sure how long the relationship would last. Personally, I think it would last between 6 months and 2 years. That is a good relationship, but I'm saying that because I'm not sure how long I could tolerate her personality. Our morals aren't necessarily in line with each other and her jokes are stuff I wouldn't really want to hear all the time. They are half-jokes, which have some truth in them and some joke in them. They often touch on mistakes that I either just made or overall personality faults of mine, both of which bother me even if they were used as a joke. Also she often attempts to correct my actions (that shows care in the things that I do and for my well-being) but in reality, I know that I could be doing it that way. That just annoys me sometimes........ not really a bad thing though....... it just annoys me............... Its like a I'm right you're wrong mentality........ It just annoys me[/spoiler] So, what do you all think? Who should I date? Why? Any advice? Edit: added more info to the situation with Girl A section Edit 2: added conclusion to the entire situation at the top

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