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Edited by Etheric Peace: 9/9/2015 6:14:57 AM
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Be yourself...

In this day and age that we live in, I find that people struggle with showing their true nature. I find that people don't know what to do when they want to open up to someone and tell them that they are gay. I find that people don't find themselves attractive in the slightest bit, when you haven't even let anyone see you or comment on your beauty. I find that people are scared of choosing their words around people, because they are afraid of what they'll say to them...This is a very prevalent problem in society these days...I have one piece of advice for you: Be yourself. No one cares if you're gay, it's your choice and it should be respected to make such a choice. I find that gay people struggle a lot these days because their so terrified of revealing their true nature because people unfairly judge and attack them. Who cares if you don't think you're attractive. The small differences in everyone is what makes them so special, and you should cherish those differences. They mean the whole world to not only you, but someone else as well. You are who you are, and no one can change that but you. So cherish it and accept that you're beautiful in every way possible. Who cares what you say? Unless you are downright telling someone to kill themselves, this is not a problem. The power to speak above others is a power that you have alone. Don't squander it because someone might not like what you say. Everyone has opinions, but those are just opinions. They don't change the way you speak. Don't be afraid to talk about anything, because what you say should not be judged. It's sad to see such beautiful people waste away in depression because they're afraid of what society will think of them. Don't be that person, unless you want to be. Let your beliefs sing out, and make sure that they shine brighter than the sun. For you are strong, stronger than you think. I respect you for that, your friends respect you for that, your family respects you for that...The only one that doesn't...Is you. I'll leave off with a quote that I found: "When it doesn't feel right, go left. The one who follows the crowd will usually go no further than the crowd. The one who walks alone is likely to find himself in places no one has ever been before." EDIT: Let it be known that 300 beautiful people commented here today. I wish you well on your journeys. ;_;

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  • Peace, you're my favorite and least favorite user. Fav cause kindness to others, least fav cause my inner internet want to scream... [spoiler]tumblr[/spoiler]

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    • Edited by Homey: 9/10/2015 3:13:55 AM
      In no order Tacticool Badger Woupsea Etheric Peace The Cosmic Cracker Damustr8bbygurl Dr. Feel Good Stupendous Finn [spoiler]¯\_(ツ)_/¯[/spoiler] Edit: I put dis in the wrong thread :/

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      • I think people should be themselves; except if they can be batman. ALWAYS BE BATMAN IF YOU CAN.

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        • I learned this like 3 or 4 years ago. It's good advice

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          • Video is 100% relevant and essentially covers everything I believe when someone preaches the "be yourself" line. In an ideal world being yourself would encompass positive progression. Understand that I'm not tearing you down simply for the sake of doing so however it is +(naive)+ to encourage others to be who they are It also generalizes. There are times and places to "be you" and in all reality "Being you" isn't always a good thing. As this video portrays Many who push for this way of thinking are really saying "Be yourself! Except if you're ____" Instead be positive. Be constructive. Build and grow on who you are. Confident but also questioning. Or perhaps not so confident. In the end be comfortable with who you are while also willing and active on changing yourself for the better.

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            • #wouldbuythebook

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              • <3

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                • what if being yourself is being who someone else wants you to be

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                  • no u

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                    • READ NONE OF YOUR POST

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                      • Ur all gay nubl0rds kys

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                        • Thanks baby.

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                          • Edited by Its Beans: 9/9/2015 8:33:11 PM
                            I feel sad for looking at all of these comments and everyone fighting because of your opinion. People find me unattractive, fat, annoying, fake, homosexual, in denial, etc. but I let them have their own opinions. If you want to be homosexual, that's your opinion, but I'm Darla and I'll like who I like whether they're male or female. I don't have a barrier on love. I feel the words of hate that people spew at me, I do let it get to me, but I refuse to let it bring down my personality. I will be nice to you even if you're mean to me. I'm not two-faced. I don't candy-coat anything; if I find something bothersome, I will confront you about it unless I feel it will cause a problem or argument. I'm sad from seeing all of these comments. It hurts me to look at negativity. You're all my friends here, remember that. Edit: https://www.bungie.net/en/Forum/Post/152479555/0/0/1 this is a perfect example of what I was talking about above. You can be a total asshole to me and make me feel like shit (it worked, so around of applause for you) but it's not going to make me a different person. I'm not going to talk shit about you, I'm not going to be mean. [spoiler]yes, my name is Darla. No jokes please.[/spoiler]

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                            • Ha... GEEEEEAAAAAAAYYYYYY

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                              • (In straight just to get that out of the way) Being yourself is the biggest lie anyone will ever tell you. Sure all of that is nice to say and think about, but that's not how the world works. Peer pressure is a very real thing. It's a very powerful thing. It's a thing fueled by our human nature because we are a social species. We crave attention and acceptance from others. In order to get those things we have to conform to common social behavior. If we don't we get left behind. This is what happened to me. I used to have friends. Lots. But over the years, they started to become drinkers and partiers. If they weren't getting in trouble than they weren't having fun. I could see that the obsession with intoxication was changing them. I didn't want to be a part of that. And naturally, the last of my friends drifted away. I stood by my guns, and for that I was abandoned by people I had grown up with. Simply because I didn't want to be a part of the lifestyle that they were conforming to. Because of the abandonment I felt for the longest time I just didn't interact with people. And because of that I basically can't communicate with someone face to face anymore. I'm absolutely miserable now all because I didn't want to be a drunk pothead. I don't believe in friendship anymore. I have no advice to give. There is literally no winning in this world. I have lost at every step. Gained nothing and have become stagnant. But hey, at least I'm being myself...

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                                • Edited by Sandtrap: 9/9/2015 8:24:45 AM
                                  Reading through the comments here. This is a multi-faceted issue. Yeah, it's fine to stick to your guns and be you. But clearly, the problem is, what if you, aren't the norm? What if you, being yourself, means that you're alone? That you become a minority surrounded by the majority? I have been shown, practically, from day one, that being me, was wrong. Being me was strange, unusual, whatever you want to call it. If it was bad, it was me. Naturally, as other commentors have already said, this drives one to be introverted, ironically, making them even more of a stranger and an oddity to the majority. What they are saying, is right. There is no winning with people. Be an introvert? You're strange. People's own insecurities take root and they somehow believe that you think you're above them for not talking, or perhaps avoiding eye contact and drifting off into space. Retaliate in any form? And you become an insensitive asshole. You can't win. But, what you can do, is learn to discard people. Learn and understand how truly irrelevant they are to you. Pursue your own self interests and remove any who are in your way, out of the way. Never let them stand in your way. I seem to walk a rather blurred line these days. I heavily dislike people. 90% of them at least. I acknowledge that are decent people out there. And I carry a rule with me that I always try to abide by. Never create the misfortunes I experienced from other people, and project it onto others. Never, ever create it. But, the truest, best way, to be you, is to pursue it in solitude in the company of yourself, and if you can by some chance, manage to find another like minded individual, with them at your side as well. People en masse are irrelevant. Friends and many friends are irrelevant. It's better to be on your own, or in very close tight knit bonds with people you can trust, a significant other, or family, than it is to be amongst crowds. Being open and you in crowds makes you a target. But being open in the sanctum of your own privacy away from people, makes you free. The only hard part for anybody like me, or the people in this thread in similiar scenarios, is finding the one person you can trust, who shares your unique nature and mindset, and wants to share it with you. The only thing I can say to that, is that sometimes the things that mean the most take time. But ultimately, what changes in your life is up to you. You call every shot. If you want to change your nature, then it's you that will have to fight for it. Nobody will ever help you but yourself, always. They might give a hand and a pointer in the right direction. But it's always, you, who decides when to change or act. And learning to discard the greater majority in your life is a step. One of many to learn. It's all a part of walking an extremely fine line, of being yourself when you're able to, not caring about the greater majority and what they think, but also keeping the peace and avoiding conflict. It takes time to learn.

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                                • Being yourself is not something to do. People should shrive to change themselves if they do something others hate or is generally hurting them or someone else. "Being yourself" is usually an excuse people use so they don't have to fix their problems and instead tell others to change themselves to fit their agenda. Which is despicable. Plus humans are by nature, self-centered, uncaring for others, and rude. Not all people share these traits, but my point is that we all have bad things that we need to change. And telling others that they're the wrong ones doesn't help.

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                                  • OP is a fgt

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                                    • What if you don't know who you are yet? How do you be someone you don't like or know? Truth be told, I'm a lot of things. I'm nice and I'm mean. I'm supportive and I'm judgemental. I've never found the phrase "be yourself" to be good advice, especially since I spent such a long time coming to terms with who I am as a person. But often, other people will point me in the right direction. Countless times have I fallen short or not done the right thing, only to see someone make a better example of it. After that, I think to myself, "Gosh, that's good. I should do that." So, no, I won't be myself. If I were, I'd likely get nothing done and wallow in my own misery. Instead, I'll learn from the best and be the person I've always wanted to be. Someone that people can rely on. Someone to look up to. Someone I can say I'm proud to be.

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                                      • Edited by Deleted: 9/8/2015 3:04:46 PM
                                        [quote]I may not like being around gay people[/quote] Okay then, here's a quote from you. You also think being gay is a choice? Jeez.

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                                        • Bro, you are literally the coolest guy on here.... Thank you for joining our ranks.....You're a needed addition to this place.

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                                            • Don't let steel dreams melt your beams.

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                                              • Just you wait, this isn't even my final form.

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                                                • 10/10 ign always again

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