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Edited by Nelson 91 Elite: 1/26/2015 10:10:10 PM
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My girlfriend gets so mad!

So my girlfriend who I have been dating FOREVER (and the one that I have a kid with) gets soooo mad when a girl joins into my fire team! She says I'm flirting and says comments like "why don't you date her?" I just don't get it! Need help guys (and girls)!!!!! What do I do here!? Holy posts guys haha. Didn't think this would get so many replies! Thanks for the jokes and replies lol Just to let you all know she is a sweet girl. So enough with the hitting her comments and all please. Thank you
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  • I'm a female and I can tell you exactly what her issue is... it's called insecurity, and it isn't likely to go away so prepare for a lifetime of those types of "comments" if you stay with her and nothing changes. Generally there are a few reasons why she might be insecure.... you said you didn't cheat on her but how do you treat her? Do you ogle other women in front of her? Do you call her names when you're mad (like fat, ugly... etc.) at her? Do you belittle her and treat her as though she is stupid or beneath you? All of these things are things that lead to a woman's insecurity. Women aren't born insecure but something along the way happens to make girls this way. If it isn't you, then perhaps someone in her past... dad, brother, ex-boyfriend, sports coach. Might not even have been to her directly... sometimes girls become this way just from watching their father treat their mother badly. My father played a huge role in raising me when my mother died at a young age. My dad had me out in the garage learning how to use tools and he also taught me how to cook and sew. He always treated me as though there was nothing I couldn't do... considering this was in the 70s... he was extremely ahead of his time in terms of how he viewed women. I have never been insecure... but I watched so many friends growing up that were. They let men walk all over them, couldn't be without a boyfriend and were always jealous of other women. I've seen many of them finally start to change and outgrow that stage... but it took most of them until well into their 30s. The older we get, the more wisdom we have ... the more we see what the important things are in life and the more we realize we don't have to put up with shit we don't like. Telling her to change won't do anything, there is something internal going on and that has to be addressed or she will never change. My advice, make sure you never use dirty, cheap shots in fights. You may win the fight because you shamed her into submission... but it will always come back to bite you later. [b]This next one is important.[/b].... How you talk about your relationship to other people is VERY important... especially to someone who is insecure. When you are gaming (with both men and women) make sure you talk about your g/f (this sends the message that she is an important part of your life) ... [b]and ONLY in a positive way.[/b] There is something extremely attractive about a man who acts like his woman is a goddess who can do no wrong. Seriously, disparaging your significant other, even if trying to be funny is so disrespectful! You are suppose to be in each other's corner... have each other's back... keep each other's secrets.... so make sure you are acting like that at all times (not just in gaming). Always let her see you being the President of her fan club for all to see... and hopefully, eventually... some of her insecurities will fade away. Good luck!

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    • just eat the baby and she'll leave you alone....works every time

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      • -blam!- her while raiding.

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      • Tell her she's fat. Let that sort itself out. She either leaves you or decides that no matter how you treat her that she still loves you and decides to put up with it. Either way I don't have a vested interest so idgaf.

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      • She has some serious trust issues.

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      • Your mistake was letting her out of the bedroom/kitchen.

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      • Happened to me before, I heard his girlfriend asking him "why do u like to play with this girl?? Why can't u play with them boys??" A minute later I scrolled my friend list. And I deleted him. I don't want any trouble. xD

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      • Edited by A Salt Shaker: 4/21/2015 7:17:38 PM
        But seriously....[spoiler]have you tried hitting the bitch[/spoiler]

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        • She must be pretty insecure dude, bet she has been cheated on before and is now overreacting (didn't say cheated on by you).

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          • "Why would flirt with someone if I didn't know what they look like?!"

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          • It's called psycho, my girl was that exact same way.. she played destiny for like 2 weeks trying to see what all the hype was about but mostly so she could just wait for some girl to join are party and get carried threw a raid so she could just hear what the conversation is like. some women just hate all other women. Its Simple there insecure/jealous, and bat sh¡t crazy. My girl played gears 1 with me for years hated every female player with a passion lol

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          • If she doesn't game maybe she feels threatened by another female who can relate to you in a way she can't. Slightly obsessive. Not the worst thing ever though.

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          • I used to be that way with my husband, but it really depends on how you talk/treat other girls. If you stare down some skank at walmart then yeah she has reasons to be insacure cuz you should ONLY be looking at her lol (just a example) but just let her know that you only want her.

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            • When a girl join your fire team? Lol why do you have a problem then? Lololol

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            • Fly to a different state without telling anybody get an apartment, play destiny with all the girls you want

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            • Yeah, your girl is clearly a bit insecure. My advice would be to explain to her that the female player is just a friendly voice, nothing more. Like taking part in a conference call.

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              • She sounds half retarded.

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                • Learn to lay the pipe right. I blow her back out and put her ass to bed. Peace and quiet after that.

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                  • You have a kid together? Marry her.

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                  • She's jelly bro. She's wants your ghorn All to herself. She's territorial, and that is a very good thing. Shell make a good wife dude. Marry that chick. She lets you play video games...lol That alone is golden these days.

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                  • It getting her online and teaching her to play an option? Then you could play with each other ...

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                  • Don't date a jealous -blam!-

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                  • It seems pretty clear that she is important to you, and rightly so if you're in a relationship, have a family together, and plans for the future. So, some of the best things you can do to help the situation are to make sure that she knows that she is a priority by how you talk to her, about her, and how you treat her. Also, you shouldn't have to quit your hobby, not at all, but do learn when to put the controller down. If I am off work one day and have been playing a lot, I make sure I'm wrapping up about the time that my wife comes home so we can spend time together. Obviously if I work later then that changes things, but the bottom line is don't spend so much in the fake world that you ignore the real one. Destiny might have a ten year plan and bungie might clean things up enough to see that plan through but eventually the servers are getting turned off, one way or another, so make sure not to alienate the important people in your life so you can spend more time in a game. And one last thing, she says she thinks you're flirting. I don't know you,I don't know what you say or how you say it, but consider what you are saying. You don't have to be rude to female gamers, nor should you be, but maybe just change that and see if it helps. Good luck.

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                  • Alot of people who accuse someone of doing things (with no evidence) are either thinking about doing the same thing or actually already doing it

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                    • I had a relationship with a lass just like that in my younger years. Lasted about 3 months, couldn't take it. She was just too insecure. Took to waiting outside my house when i'd had a lads night out to make sure I went home alone. I broke it off with her when I joined the army. If she was that bad when I was home I have no idea how bad it would get when I wasn't home at all. You only have 2 choices buddy. You can either walk away or put up with it. Unfortunately you can't fix another persons insecurity. You can say and do all the right things but it's not going to change how they are.

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                    • How old are you, like 10?

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