In grade 12 my friend and another girl were going out. Me and the girl casually talked daily. After two years of dating, the two of them broke up. She told me that there was nothing wrong with their relationship, she just lost feelings for him. The guy still liked her. A few days after, the girl said that she had a really big crush on me and that is why she broke up with the guy.
One year later (first year university), the girl doesn't talk to her ex at all (didn't talk to him since they broke up) because she wanted to go out with me. Me and the girl became friends with benefits, started making out and doing other stuff ;). We would hit on each other and she would openly say she has a huge crush on me and loves me because she knew I found her really attractive. I later realized that if I continued being good friends with her, she would always be in love with me. So I decided to end it (I didn't love her, we were just supposed to be friends with benefits).
She hated the fact that I ended it (even though I told her that I just didn't want to mislead her and let her love me until I tell her that I like someone else) and she was really heartbroken (I was sad too). She told me she hated me and was really sad. We didn't talk or see each other for an entire year because I went on a work term and I wasn't in university for the entire year.
I'm back in university now and she and her ex are going out again. I am happy that she isn't still thinking about me. I saw her today (after more than a year) when I got on the bus. We exchanged eye-contact, it was awkward. We talked for a bit and didn't bring up the topic of relationships. I could feel the awkwardness because we loved what we did when we were friends with benefits. Every time we meet, I'm sure that is at the back of our heads, but she still has a lot of hate for me and regrets liking me that much.
Keep in mind that she broke up with her boyfriend last time when her boyfriend did Nothing wrong. The only reason she went back to him was because I said no and didn't talk / text her for a year.
So what do you guys think will happen? Should I continue talking to her and possibly repeat the past or should I say that I don't want us talking?
-
I'm so confused. You like her, she likes you. You wouldn't date her because you were afraid you would tell someone else you like them? So are you incapable of loyalty to one person or just socially dumb? If you have any sort of feelings for someone, give them a chance and date them. The whole "love at first sight" thing is bullshit, and good relationships start off from people who were good friends or weren't dating right away.
-
Well, talk to her if you dont expect nothing to come out of it, but a friendship. You should also make that clear.
-
A girl that dated your friend. What a good friend you are....
-
Is she hot?
-
How old are people in grade 12 on average?
-
You know, that friend of yours sounds a lot like me.... [spoiler]Until the friend got back together with the ex.[/spoiler]
-