Alright before i begin this very very long story i would just like to let everyone know some key elements: Excuse grammar and spelling, this is copy/paste from my phone My girlfriend and i have been together for 4 1/2 years Me (Josh) Bestfriend (Marcus) Bestfriend's Girlfriend (Sandra) Girlfriend (Alyssa) New Kid (Kevin) Alright so this morning at work my friend Marcus texts me, here is the convo between us: Marcus "I need to talk to you privately after work. I'm just concerned" Me "Alright what about?" Marcus "Do you have time now? Like im not trying to start stuff. Not at all, its just im just looking out. Just dont say anything please keep your mind open about it" Me "Yeah i have time" Marcus "Okay just dont get pissed at me, id rather me tell you and you see it then it just happen and you be blind to it all. Okay well i dont know for sure but i have a bad feeling about Kevin and Alyssa. Im sorry its just my gut. And i wouldn't put my neck on the chopping block if i didn't have a reason to. Just i dont want you to get like emotionally hurt. I dont know. Ive been debating this all through my mind since the concert. Sandra told me not to but it really bothers me. I just have an uneasy feeling about it. Just dont flip out and ask cause i dont know for sure i just feel really bad if i knew something and not have told you. Well i can go into depth when i can talk to you more in person" Me "Dont worry about it i talked to her about it over the weekend" (lie) Marcus "alright man i was just looking out for you" Me "thanks" /end of that conversation This is the convo between my girlfriend and i: Me "Goodmorning" Me "Well take back what i said this morning for a moment. Im going to give you till this afternoon to be completely honest about our relationship. If you tell me what other people have told me i wont be that mad. But if they find out for sure and tell me themselves youll never see me again" Me "How about you wake the -blam!- up. Whether or not im still your boyfriend later tonight depends on right now" Me "Hello?" Me "Answer your -blam!-ing texts" Alyssa "I love you" Me "Answer my question" Alyssa "I dont know why you are flipping out right now.. but if its about Kevin he told me he liked me and stuff but i have already told him that i love you and im not leaving you... in fact we haven't even talked in the past couple days. so...." Alyssa "If you want me to block him on fb and ig i will. I dont have a problem with that" Me ""like you and stuff" i want to see the messages. and im flipping because i know how you are. and you arent being honest with me" Me "and what were y'all talking about to begin with" Me "answer the -blam!-ing question" Alyssa "ask him yourself josh.. he asked if we were breaking up anytime soon and i told him that you piss me off a lot but i love and need you.. the only thing i told him that could make you mad was that he was cute and we talked as friends and we have stopped talking at all anyway. And i told him he was too unstable for me anyway and then we literally stopped talking. And its the truth.. i would never leave you and you should know that. I will block him i really dont care.. he isnt important to me at all. Me "alright dont bother coming over today" Alyssa "he messaged me and told me i was pretty. thats how it started. i wish you would calm down... i told him i love you and you can ask him yourself. like seriously go ahead" Me "I did. i dont want to see you today. i need to think. May want to hold off on faxing the apartment application" Me "why did you play your part to continue the conversation with him and comment back?" Alyssa "You can break up with me and be as mad as you want but i had no intensions of leaving you nor do i ever because i love you and i told him that. i know we have a good thing going so i wasn't going to destroy it over something stupid and you should think the same. Sometimes you do piss me off so bad and i cry and cry but i cant -blam!-ing live without you.. and i guess i shouldn't have messaged him back but i told hi im in it for life with you. im sorry and i love you. i will block him off everything. Me "You told him that he was cute and said the only reason you wouldn't is because he's unstable? Oh and to top it off you hid it from me so i had to find out from someone else? Nice. Real classy. THAT is what i have to think about. Alyssa "I wasnt hiding it from you.. i knew you would probably get mad and i didn't want to start drama between anybody. i took care of it and told him i wasn't leaving you. i could have left Josh.. but i didn't. i love you and that was said. i need you and that was said. That is the reason. Me "Yeah okay thanks. You're so amazingly wonderful to me. And i trust you so so much. Whatever. I might talk to you tomorrow after i've slept on it" Alyssa "Sometimes you treat me like complete shit so i dont think either of us are angels here. We both need to work on us. im sorry i called him cute. But the fact is im in love with you and i need you. Me "k" Alyssa "Just know i love you.." Me "Totes. Bye." /end of conversation Sometime during the middle of that i text Kevin, here is that: Me "Hey Kevin i'd like it if you didnt talk to Alyssa anymore thanks" Kevin "Fer sure man. Is everything ok?" Kevin "Im sorry if i did anything wrong. Didn't mean to offend you in any way if i did. I was just trying to be a friend" Me "yeah its all good. i'd just like to know what was said" Kevin "To be honest I said she was pretty.. I didn't think there was anything wrong with that because if a guy called my girlfriend pretty i would take it as a compliment... but obviously i was wrong. Sorry man" /end of that conversation tl;dr My girlfriend called another guy cute, we've been dating for 4 1/2 years, should i dump her?