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1/26/2013 5:03:34 AM
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I told my cousin that I was Atheist.

So a couple of months ago I became an Atheist the rest of my family are Baptist. I haven't told anyone because most of them will not take it well and my mom would be especially upset. I love my family and they are great people, but you know how people can be when it comes to things they are passionate about, especially religion. I just got done telling my older cousin that I was Atheist. We are like brothers and I was worried he would take it badly, turns out he doesn't believe in God either. It was really cool finding out that I am not alone. I just don't know how to break the news to the rest of my family. I have been asking questions and testing the waters but it only serves to get me in trouble like when I ask "what proof do we have of God?" I am most likely going to wait until I'm 18 which will be in a year, but if a situation arose and I decided I wanted to tell them flat out that I'm Atheist how should I go about doing this Flood?

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  • just tell them that your an atheist and it doesn't change who you are as a person your still the same

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  • "Mum, dad, I'm gay!" "Just kidding, I'm an atheist!" The classic bait-and-switch.

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    • Good luck getting southern recruits now

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      • The truth will set you free, plain and simple. Also [quote]Another one of these threads[/quote]

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      • Another one of these threads.

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      • Good job. Also if you could ever be in financial peril or be without shelter by telling them this you should wait until you can sustain yourself. I am grateful to live in Canada (not to many crazo religious peeps up here) and my parents still love me and my atheism.

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        • Tell them you don't want to go to church. Plain and simple. They don't have the right to force their religious views on you, doesn't matter how old you are. Especially if you're capable of thinking for yourself.

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        • Really if its not a big deal for you, don't make it a big deal for them.

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        • I feel like this is a hard decision. On one hand, you should have the right to be open about what you believe, and your family should still love you. On the other hand, it could strain your relationship with them. I think you'll just have to go with your gut. If you think your relationship with them will still be okay, then go for it. Otherwise, I'd just keep it to myself.

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        • I wouldn't tell them at all, there's no point in ruining your relationship with your family over something you don't really care about. I know some will say 'you cant lie to them' but who cares, you obviously love them. Sometimes its ok to keep something to yourself for the greater good.

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        • No one cares

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        • I told my parents, they were fine.

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        • Don't make a big deal about it if it bothers you so much. Just say "Oh, by the way, I'm an atheist." Done. Simple. I never really understood closeted atheists. My entire family (except my brother, who is also an atheist) is some sort of Christian -- I honestly never bothered to ask which -- and everyone knows I am an atheist and have been since [spoiler]I found out Santa Clause wasn't actually delivering me presents at Christmas.[/spoiler]

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          • It's simple, don't come out to them. You can show them you're an atheist by your actions. I haven't told my parents that I'm an atheist, but I think they're pretty sure I am.

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          • Edited by Trentonimor: 1/26/2013 5:13:16 AM
            It's truly surprising how many children are growing up in religious households pretending to be theists in the eyes of their parents. Hell, even my cousin is one of them. Hopefully we'll see the dominance of religion phasing out in America over the next century. Sure, there will still be believers, but we can only hope their attempts to force their beliefs on others will be drowned out in a wave of logic and science. I wouldn't bet on it, though.

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            • Dont tell them. I they are too retarded to handle a question like "what proof do we have..." well then they are almost certainly too retarded to handle you coming out as an athiest.

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            • Great! Now read this^

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            • It seems pretty sad that there are still places where people worry about revealing their belief / lack thereof to their families.

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            • Well I live in Texas, a place of very low tolerance. I told my dad and now he basically favors my brothers over me because they believe in god. But everyone is different, your family might take it differently, but my dad thinks I'm a total -blam!- up even though I have almost straight A's. If your family would be the type to shun you because of mere beliefs then they're not your family.

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            • My cousin, whom I easily consider my best friend, was a key influence in turning to atheism. We're pretty much a philosophical/science duo at the moment, but I digress. Most of my extended family knows I'm an atheist, despite almost all of them being Catholic. Nobody really cares, which surprised me very much. I wasn't actually the one who informed my parents I was atheist, it was my CCD teacher (Well, I kind of said it during class, so I should've seen it coming). I actually thank her for doing that, I probably wouldn't have had the guts to do it. Point is, if you don't think your family is capable of handeling this, wait until you have independence from them.

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            • Ask them what they think of atheists.

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            • Stories like this remind me of how lucky I am to not have been born into a highly religious family...and I don't really see why you need to bring it up in the first place. I never talked about my religious beliefs with my family, never felt the need or saw reason to.

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              • Well, first off...you're not "Atheist", you're "an atheist". Really, don't bring it up unless you have to, especially if you depend on your family for food/shelter/money/etc.

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                • I never told anyone in my family I'm atheist. Never plan to either.

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                • Just tell them? Why are you scared to tell them? Seriously, what are they going to do, crucify you?

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                  • Tell them about this one time how a teacher diddled you in the back of their car and made you do unspeakable things and do drugs. And while they're reeling from that news, say "nah just kidding, I'm just an atheist. See? It's not so bad now, is it?"

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