Serious question here guys.
I don't have a girlfriend at the moment, so this isn't directly linked with my experience and I would like to make it clear I am not asking for advice. However I was having a chat with some of my friends and this question came up. It is a difficult question and there is no easy way of doing so.
I suggested that you ask her is she thinks it is a good idea if you both start going to the gym together or something along those lines, rather than making it her issue, you make being healthy a goal you set as a couple.
But how would you guys approach it? Have any of you been in this situation before?
Opinions from women would be greatly appreciated.
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Go on walks, running, going to the gym together without directly telling her she's putting on weight.
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My wife and I have a 15% rule. From the date of our marriage, if any one of us gains more than 15% body weight, we are free to leave the other one, no strings attached.
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Edited by GrandmasterNinja: 1/16/2013 2:34:18 PMFind out what she is doing (or not doing) that is making her fat. I noticed my gf was eating some junk food a little more often then she should be. So once I read the back of the chips bag and told her how many push-ups I'd have to do to work this food off. I never tell her she's fat, cause she isn't by any means, but instead tell them something that they're doing that is detrimental to their fittness.
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Edited by A Fly Lady: 1/16/2013 2:50:51 PMThis can be a touchy subject, but the street runs two ways. How would I tell my husband that he's getting fat? Certainly not by saying, "honey, you're getting fat". I guess I would say that I wanted to start getting into better shape, and I wanted to start eating healthy. Want to join? I wouldn't ever make my husband eat healthier and exercise more if I wasn't doing it with him.
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I'd leave copies of Moby Dick lying around the place and describe porking her as "going whaling". Seriously though, putting on weight is a common side effect of being in a happy relationship so, unless they're becoming morbidly obese, I don't see why you'd even mention it.
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My girlfriend calls herself fat so I didn't have to do it. She's not actually fat, but since she's been on the pill she has put on weight, and when we started going out she was really skinny. We just go swimming together or to the gym, and make jokes about it.
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We have agreed to tell each other if we are getting fat and not get mad.
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I've got a great idea. More sex to lose weight. Done.
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Edited by Recon Number 54: 1/16/2013 2:45:49 PMShe ISN'T getting fat. Repeat after me. She. IS. [u]NOT[/u]. Getting. Fat. Even if she asks you with those very words. The answer is a shocked "No baby, what makes you say that? Did someone say that? Who are they? I need to kick their ass!" Seriously. This is a trap that makes a pit full of bofu toxin dipped punji sticks and a live tiger look like a man cave with its own fridge and bathroom. DO NOT fall into this. She is not fat. She is NOT fat. She is NOT FAT. Other women? Sure, but not her.
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babe, u know i like me them curves but dayum u getting big gurl
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[quote]I don't have a girlfriend at the moment,[/quote]I sense a connection.
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When she is gone, hollow out the legs in all of her chairs. This will weaken them so that whenever she sits down, the chair breaks. Hopefully this sends the message that you're trying to send.
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If you think your partner is unhealthy then I honestly don't see why you shouldn't voice it. The way you voice it is obviously of concern in a situation like this though. I don't have the answers but encouraging both her and yourself to live a healthier lifestyle is encouraged. Whatever you do, make it about BOTH of you. Not just her.
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Do it very carefully, that's a powder keg of a situation.
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Just be honest and tell her she could lose some weight. She'll be grateful that you care about her health and will react reasonably. [spoiler]...r-right?[/spoiler]
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The tag #fatgirlfriend is trending. This made me laugh!
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"yo fat gal"
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Next time she walks into the room pretend the floor is shaking and hold onto something.
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Slap her ass or jiggle around her wobbly bits, maybe she'll get the hint.
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This is when you buy her a passive agressive gift for something. Although, sometimes close family will do that for you anyways.
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Edited by x L e V i Z: 1/16/2013 3:32:09 PM''Hey, you're getting fat, I'm breaking up'' kthxbye. Right to the next one.
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You know hun, my arms just don't reach around you the same.
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You just tell her man. Straight up. And if you wanna be subtle about it. Just say, "Hey I got this gym membership and I can take a guest, lets go."
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Ask her if she even lifts.
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You are getting fat *brace for slap*
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Edited by Rhea: 1/17/2013 9:33:32 AMIf my boyfriend ever calls me fat, I'm dumping him ASAP. Would rather date someone who thinks I'm the perfect weight all the time regardless of how much I eat. Edit: I guess I should also add that by no means am I fat/obese/overweight. Like I've been struggling to gain weight most of my life and now that I'm older I'm finally gaining weight :D, so yeah, I'm really insecure about my weight at times.