I have a female warlock. I feel that it kind of adds to the awesome factor or the character. Like in the movie Kick-Ass, who was the most fun to watch dominating as a superhero the main character or Hit-Girl? Underworld, Kill Bill, even Hunger Games.. I guess I don't see the character as an avatar for myself, but a character in a story I am watching play out. In our current culture there is something ultra enjoyable about badass female leads.