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Edited by Cultmeister:
6/16/2016 3:25:23 PM
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How much do you think societal expectations impact you personally?
I want you to be honest guys. None of this macho 'I am my own man societal expectations can screw it' bullshit.
For example, as a homosexual male, I know it is expected for me to be various things. A) to adhere to the physical traits of a porn star (yes this is true, if you don't believe me look on Grindr at the emphasis everybody puts on them having a six pack or a massive dick. And I mean everybody, not just the 'asshole jock' types who do it in the hetero world. In some ways it can be at least if not more objectifying than how straight females are expected to look). B) being promiscuous by default and up for NSA at a moment's notice. Like, it's not considered that slutty to sleep with a new person every week.
I have a problem with these expectations because although I do have a fairly non-terrible body by today's standards, I don't wish to be a cumdump (technical term right there), yet it feels like I may have to be if I want to get anywhere meaningful with a guy later on.
I mean that's just homosexuality but there's a ton of expectations society puts on people and I'm interested to know which ones affect you the most.
Do you feel you need to be the epitome of success and be earning thousands of dollars a month?
Do you feel you need to get married and have kids in order to 'make it' in life?
[spoiler]Oh look an intelligent topic. Watch this bomb because it actually requires effort to answer.[/spoiler]
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I have to watch what I say in public or else someone will probably kill me.
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Nah I just want to travel. Don't care about having a big family, big house, nice car. I just want to be able to travel around the world .
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Edited by Punished: 6/16/2016 7:45:46 PMI just try to be myself. What people think about me gets to me sometimes but I try not to let it happen.
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As a straight man, a hell of a lot
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Edited by R4PTOR: 6/16/2016 5:55:27 PMAs a teen, societies expectations turned me into a emo introvert. Now? I stopped giving a -blam!- what other people expect and I've never been happier. :))) Seriously tho don't fall into those types! It's not just in the gay world. Woman act just like nasty guys sometimes. Anywhere you go there will be sluts. The ones who sit quietly in the back with their drink and a big smile are the ones you should be talking to. Don't be easy and you won't get stuck with easy. I have perused the wrong side CL before and I've seen exactly what your talking about. It's really sad, but it's also mostly older men looking to fill some fantasy with a twink or whatever the hell THAT is lol.
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I'm just me, if nobody likes it, their lose not mine.
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10 Replies[quote]I am my own man societal expectations can screw it.[/quote] 1). I am my own man. 2). Societal expectations can screw it. For instance. They want you not to smoke weed/cigarettes, and you shouldn't! But I do. +2 to me! I behave according to personal standards of decency which are known to change rapidly. And may occasionally co exist with societal standards. Just because you feel pressured to be something, doesn't mean we all do.
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1 Reply[quote] I don't wish to be a cumdump[/quote] Slightly gross but I can kinda see your point. Speaking to the few gay people I know and they have pretty much said the same things as you. One of them showed me grinder one day and it literally just seems like a web site full of horney men who only want to bang. Social conventions are stupid and I don't follow them which would probably put me as an outcast or come across as rude because I don't think/act the way others do. I don't understand why people can't just act or enjoy the things that they [b]actually[/b] like rather than just following the herd.
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I care a lot about what people think. That's good and bad. It makes me a more compassionate person, which is something I'd never want to get rid of, but it also makes me afraid to have any negative attention or judgment directed at me. It impacts my life significantly..
