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7/8/2015 6:51:31 PM
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Something truly awful happened - guardian down

Hi community, So here is a very sad story for those who have friends they've made online. Yesterday, someone who I have never met face to face, lost his mum. She was hit by a car while biking, something she had done for 50+ years. I am hoping to show this thread to my online friend once he decides to come back and let him know he has some support, even though we have never met. So this is for a fellow guardian, who has done a lot for the community, my friends and I. I left his psn tag out but maybe he'll feel like stopping by when the time is right. So let me share a few things. Here we go. In the early days of destiny, my two friends and I were just learning the basics. We mostly liked to pvp but wanted to get our hands on some sweet loot in the Vault of Glass. So I headed to a popular site and typed "need 3 more for VoG - first attempt." What I quickly realized was there was a dude in almost every other thread saying he's down. I thought "hey this guy really needs a group, he's probably bad though" but whatever, we were despite. We picked him up and two others. The run went flawlessly. He was, in fact, a sherpa and showed us the ropes. It is also worth mentioning that he's Dutch and sounds a lot like Arnie. So we spent literally 45 minutes in tears. This guy was a legend. When I asked if it was the 3rd time he's done the raid this week he replied, modestly, that he has completed it like 8 or so times and he just likes to help out. And that's precisely what kind of person he is. Every week he goes above and beyond for people on his friends list - often running raids countless times to outfit his friends. He's also a collector so (for some reason) he has 7 maxed gallys like some sort of trophy. I don't get it but he's Dutch and I guess they like that sort of thing. Honestly it's something that he really earned, if I had to guess he's probably at over 200 raid completions. After our run, we added the three to our friends list - where we continue to play with them today. The guys we met on that run have been everywhere with us, including the lighthouse 10 or so times and through countless raid completions. There isn't a day that goes by when two+ of us aren't playing together. Even got to know some of his Dutch friends - who are awesome and helpful as well. So yesterday we were sitting in a chat room and our friend comes in. He tells us the awful news and that he wouldn't be around for a couple days at least. My heart just broke. The 5 of us just sat there, barely grasping at words. I myself have gone through it when I lost my mum at 17 but the experience still never gives you the right words. I couldn't believe it - someone so cheerful, who I've played with almost every day, was actually devastated. It's weird because we have never met and play from the opposite side of the globe but holy -blam!-, do I feel for him. You think that he's your online chum and that the most you have in common is that you like to game. However, gaming with someone for 6/7 months you sort of get attached and start to learn about their everyday lives and what they've been up to and what type of person they are. I'll say it again - this guy is a legend and he's down. It takes a real special kind of lady to raise a guardian this good. Someone who is kind, treats noobies with respect, and is always willing to help out. I don't think there is anything I can really do for him but I think just knowing that he has some support and a place to forget the daily grind may just help a little. Hell, I'm not even sure why I'm writing this. Maybe it's strangely therapeutic for me. It just hit me hard. So sound off guardians. Share something about your online buds or an experience you had with someone awesome. I know he'd appreciate your support. I'll be showing him this topic when he's back and hopefully it will get some replies. Help him to his feet.

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  • Shit, that sucks, lad. Tell your mate that I feel for him.

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  • I'll fire a rocket in the Cosmodrone air for him. Would be nice to see a load fired...

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  • It's her fault for getting in the way of the car, sooo, yea

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    • Git gud at biking mum scrub

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      • Lot of great posts in here, keep the love coming :)

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      • I'm one of the two friends stated in the OP. Our Dutch friend who we call Ein is always super helpful, always ready to just be a bro. He forgives quickly, he is very funny, he's always friendly and when he's not online, it's not long before someone says "where the -blam!- is Ein? I love that guy". We feel deeply for our online friend. If we can help by just sharing kind words about him to the community even by just a fraction, that's what I'm here to do. I told Ein today that wether he likes it or not, we're his friends, and I meant it. It's pretty special that a game can create a relationship like this. I've never experienced lost at this level, but I can easily say that Ein is always legitimately concerned about a huge issue in my life, and asks me constantly about it and the concern in his voice is palpable. I can only wish I can be that supportive for him. We love you Ein. Warm wishes and I'll be on soon to destroy more guardian scrubs and forces of darkness alike.

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        • I'm sorry that anyone is a big enough d bag to try to be funny or cool on a post like this. I lost a parent at a young age, so I know how tough it is like you said. I hope your friend finds peace in this and doesn't let it completely consume him. You call him legend, but you are as well for doing something like this for him. Thoughts out to you both. Much love guardian.

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        • Lad don't listen to these -blam!-ing kids that have no respect your doing a good thing I hate when someone is trying to do something good and childess kids have to try and be the hard man of a keyboard and I bet it's mostly American kids so you just keep up the good work you're mate will be pleased

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          • Edited by bLooM_pHaZe: 7/9/2015 7:28:19 AM
            Just thought I'd chime in with some positive vibes and say, I know what you mean with regards to your online buds...I've many whom I've met in similar circumstances, as have we all, and a few have gone through some difficult times and life tribulations. Honestly hope that if your friends view this thread you made, he can see that we are not all heartless Arseholes like Sauron below. Hopes and best wishes to your friend.

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          • Condolences and well wishes to him and his family.

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          • May his Light shine brightly in this time of Darkness surrounding him. My condolences go to your friend.

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          • Sorry, to you and your friends. I nearly lost my mum to cancer not long ago, I can't imagine whatnmy life would be like without her. I am truly sorry

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          • My condolences to both of you, you are a great friend. God bless

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          • Thoughts and prayers out to your friend.

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          • Even a rock needs something to lean on every once and a while, it's good to hear that you're there for your friend. He'll get rolling again, rocks always do.

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            • Peace and blessings to your friend guardian.

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            • Thoughts are with your friend and their family. :(

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            • Best wishes to you're friend during this tough time. I'll keep both of you guys in my prayers.

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            • This is beautiful. There is no way to express yourself when you suffer loss. There is no way to help a friend, no matter how hard you try and even tho there is no words, The trying is what counts. This is beautiful.

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            • I'm very sorry to hear this, But I'm also relieved in a way and the reason being is that he's got friends like you guys to pick him up. Knowing that he has a group of people that are there for him anytime will make a worlds difference. You are all wonderful people and I look forward to you guys feeling better and playing again. And even if it's really hard, try to remind him of all the good and to honor those memories each day. Good day and good luck guardians!

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            • Cheers to you for taking the time to write this. I am 48 and have four kids of my own, but I lost my mother early too- and you are correct: there are no words, and expressions of sympathy often just ring hollow, especially from online folks who don't really "know" you. My hope is that this man grieves appropriately and remembers to bring the best parts of his relationship with him. Burying the emotion just pollutes the soil of one's life, and rage pollutes the air. There's a quiet place in the middle where we all accept the richness of life as being made up of all the awesome and awful things it has to offer - your friend is among friends in what is a very desolate moment. Thanks again for sharing. Keep a light on for him.

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              • I hope I can be helpful like he is. . He sounds so good and friendly. . So sorry for him.

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              • You sound like a good friend and thats exactly what he needs. I lost my mom to ovarian cancer 7 years ago and my friends were there for me the whole time. Its really special to have those good people around, even if its just through a video game. All that you can do is be there for him through this tough time.

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                • I want to be like him when I grow up :')

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                  • I'll shoot some stuff up for him! I'll pray for you and him.

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                  • I am sorry to hear about your friend's loss. On the other side of the gamer tag, we are all real people.

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