Firstly let me explain my views on this: Hmmm, let me try and explain this. My Fiance and I have chosen to not have sex until then, not only because we believe that it is right to do, but it is what we believe by our faith. The both of us are Christians and it is in the 10 commandments that we shall not commit adultery and the Bible also says that we are not to even have a hint of sexual immorality. Now after all of that; I see that couples who have had sex many times before they are married, pretty much are plum wore out by that time. It does not mean much anymore since they have done it many times. So on their honeymoons, you may see them go to places where they will have plenty of activities to do... Our however, since we have not. We will barely get out of out bed! (know what I mean) every friend that I know who has gotten married and did the same thing as me, said the same thing. It is meant to be a bonding of two people by the matrimony of marriage. Not something that you should just do when ever you feel the urge. And yes I know that it is hard! We are wired that way for good reason. My Fiance and I have not even kissed yet. At all on the lips! We are holding that off until our wedding as well. Very hard to do! But it will all be worth it! Now, some people will patronize me with all of this "what if you dont have chemistry" nonsense! When two people are so in love and they are literally best friends with one another, then there is NO way that we can go wrong. I am excited for it, and so is she. The first time that you have sex with your spouse is a mystery. As it is every first time. This may not be all of the info that I wanted to say, but all that I can come with as I wrote. _______________ [quote]Now, lets say that you believe that if the sex is bad and that it is a deal breaker. lets say that you meet somebody. You two bond together for years and come to love eachother very much. The both of you never want to leave eachother nor hurt one another. This person has become your best friend and knows your weak points and a lot about you as do you to the other person... Later you decide that yall want to get married and spend your lives together. So it comes and it is magical--the best day of your life... Then later that night when yall are finally in bed, and suddenly it was bad? Your logic is pointed to leave that person? What? Are you going to be that monstrous? Why would you cut and run when that is just a one night thing, when you have a LIFE TIME to improve it?[/quote] Now lets get to the punch line. Do you find sex to be the whole ordeal in marriage? Yes it is important, but marriage is much much more! That person is your best friend, your life partner. It is now yours and his/hers responsibility to make things better rather than taking the easy way out.