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11/18/2014 11:04:05 PM
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Dads of Daughters

I've got a 19 month old daughter and a second one due in 8 weeks, most likely a girl. Not planning on having any more. I love my daughter but was hoping for a boy this time. I'm surprised at how bad I'm reacting to the news. There's a lot of good things about having two girls and I'm sure it's going to be great. Has anyone else felt like this?
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  • I'm the last in my family to have to move the family name on. All my siblings have only had daughters and my first which is 9 weeks now is a girl. So I feels ya. But I also thought, "Well, girls doing boy things are way cooler than boys doing boy things." So when I teach to to skateboard, snowboard, camp, play games, and sports, it's going to be awesome!

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  • I have two daughters, two sons and two granddaughters. I think girls are easier for dads when they are young but much more sneaky in the teenage years so watch out for that. Boys are fun they just want to fight you (playfully) when they are young and then for real when they are teenagers. I guess what I'm trying to say is live your daughters, play catch with them, take them camping or whatever you like to do because my youngest love all that stuff but at the same time loves being girly.

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  • I was happy when my two girls were born but I actually cried when my son was born.....I know exactly what you mean

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  • I have two daughters of my own, one 26 and the other 24. Always thought a boy would be nice, but I wouldn't trade my experiences with them for anything. Plus the youngest was always my tomboy anyways and she still plays basketball with a bunch of dads when she comes back for a visit.

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  • I have a 12 year old daughter and now a 15 month old daughter. But in my case i wanted another daughter, i was on the fence at first because a son would have been a unique experiense but when u have girls they will always be "your girls" i would have welcomes a son and all the wonderfull father son experiences, but my oldest loves football and can throw a perfect spiral in the park! So at the end of the day, love them and share with them and no matter boy or girl your finger print will always be there!

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  • I have 3 girls. They are a handful but they teach me something everyday and always bring a smile to my face. Never worry about what it is just as long as the baby is healthy. Congratulations.

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    • Just adding on to the other great responses from dads of daughters. I had moments of wishful thinking for a son from time to time, but once you throw yourself into full-throttle dad mode, the sky's the limit. Let your wife do all the girly stuff. Assert your alpha maleness and teach your girls how to punch and throw a baseball. :D I took my girl rock climbing, surfing, golfing, soccer, snowboarding, fishing, hiking, shooting real guns, and all the Xbox FPS ever. You'll win at the game of dad if you make everything a game. :D Sure, I had to endure hours of Viva Pinata, watching Lion King for the millionth time, and really earned my dad badge when I agreed to take her to see the Justin Bieber movie. IMHO, there is no greater sacrifice or proof of a dad's love. I sat there in the dark, bleeding from the ears from the screeching fangirls, and came this close to gouging out my own eyes...but I survived. You can too. :D

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      • Never really thought about it. I have 2 daughters, 1st is 21!... yeah, thats right, 21 - gah I feel old!. The second one is 3. The first was very girly. Never interested in sports etc. Lost of emotional times and lots of crying. Even at 21, she is still the same. But she is also incredibly strong in other ways and as she grew we were able to really connect and have some amazing and deep conversations. Now the second one. The 3 year old with red hair is a storm of power, confidence, control and owning the entire world. She has been totally into any kind of sport since she was 9 months. If we are out to eat and sports is on a TV, she asks about what they are playing and when someone scores a point or goal or whatever, she yells louder than anyone in the joint. I don't know where she got this from, because I don't yell - heck, I'm not even that into sports. But there is my 3 year old yelling "touchdown blue team" louder than the college frat guys at the bar. She is into tools and fixing things and wants to measure and use her drill on everything in the house. She is also into dance and some days wants to wear a princess dress and other days "adventure pants". Even in her dress I usually have to try and get her to stop climbing up the side of the stars, every piece of furniture and anything else that is even remotely climbable. It took her a few months to stop pushing the boys at school down, because she wanted them out of her way so she could do the slide, climb the stairs or ride the bike. She is a strong willed force to be reckoned with and my wife and I just keep supporting her. Most of our friends who have boys are no where near as physical as my daughter. They all seems pretty tame and wimpy by comparison. So my point, is that, just because your kid is a girl, doesn't mean you can't do "boy" stuff with them. Their sex doesn't really determine how you should relate to them, it'll be their personality. Remember its how you treat them. And girls can do everything a boy can do, but they can also do girl stuff too, so really they can do it all. Cause you know, a boy wearing a dress in public will get strange looks. But a girl wearing jeans and boots just gets nods of approval for how you are empowering her. Don't underestimate them. Its your job to teach them what to expect from men and how men will treat them. They will melt and break your heart. So prepare yourself, you have two female guardians to train up as the strongest smartest beings in the galaxy.

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      • My father in law and mother in law tell me all the time that I am the son they never had... They adopted two girls. Just be sure they choose well and you will be fine. My in laws get all my good traits and don't have to deal with all the bs I pulled growing up a little boy. Of course, my wife and I have a daughter and two boys 10, 4, 1 respectively and they just let us handle the boys. I think they drive them crazy! LOL! Congrats on the new little one. A child is a gift, regardless of sex.

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      • Father of 2 girls here, 5yrs and 6 months (a bigger spread than we anticipated but it's working out just fine). Older one is a pure princess, but I can tell already my younger is gonna be with me on the bike, on the hill, in the tent, in the surf, etc. They say girls are better at taking care of their parents when they get old, so we have that going for us! Congrats

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        • Edited by nsoromma: 11/19/2014 2:40:38 AM
          I have a 3 1/2 year old daughter and another due in about 2 weeks depending on it all lol. I adore my girls and my girl still follows me and plays with tools while I'm working and such. I hope to have a boy someday but hey, a gift is an gift. Aside from that some sons are gained (natural birth) and some sons are given. Meaning your daughter may make a friend growing up that needs a dad and you get to be that to him. It's not always what ya got but what ya do with what ya got :)

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          • Think of it this way. Now you have an excuse to go out and buy a gun to clean when she brings over dates or a boyfriend. My daughter is 12 and I'm counting down the years till we start letting her date. Nothing better than putting fear them to make sure she's treated right.

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            • I have 2 girls. I grew up in a family with 4 brothers and 1 sister, so I didn't know how to treat girls (as boys it was always behave or get smacked). So it took me a while to get used to having girls pout and cry. But they are really cute. You will end up enjoying them as much as you would with boys. Just take your cues from your wife. Ps... I still ended up building robots with them and riding roller coasters together, so don't think you will miss out on these things!!

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            • I got 2 little girls 4 and 2 and I know what your saying but u also know the saying daddy's girl...it's so true the bond you'll have with them and always being their protector while being wrapped around their finger! I wouldn't change it for a thing and let's be honest whatever you can do with a son why couldn't you with your girl?

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            • I was disappointed at 1st when I heard she was having a girl 14 yrs ago. I wouldn't change it though. I have a 5 yr old boy now ( makes me feel old sometimes, I'm 43).lol

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