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Edited by DrZeuss:
9/29/2014 6:02:18 PM
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Destiny may cause divorce
Ok I know that it is probably ridiculous to air your "dirty laundry" on the internet but I am in dire need of suggestions answers, or counseling lol. I have been playing video games since 1979 and my wife knows my number one hobby is video games, I work a lot of hours and have a stressful job as I manage six different businesses in ONE office by myself! That being said I "unwind" of an evening by playing destiny.
Let me get to the point here folks so your not snoring at the end of my whining heh. I joined a group that were trying to play through the vault of glass and she overheard a female voice on my headset and completely flipped out on me. "now you have a girlfriend to play games with you I hope your happy" was her statement. And continued to badger me so I had to turn my MIC off so the other players couldn't hear her yelling at me. I was extremely embarrassed because I know the other players heard the first part of her yelling. As a side note I have been with her for eleven years and we two kids together, and no I have never cheated on her EVER I have morals. So she has no reason to distrust me. She now checks to see if I am talking with a female on the headset every time she walks into the room, I then offer to hand her the MIC to check. I feel like I am not supposed to even do what I have done for 35+ years which is play games and destiny requires you to have other members play along side you in missions and or strikes, have even explained to her I needed a group of six players along for the VOG so I am at a loss here. Am I doing something wrong by playing with females on a damn video game? I don't think so!
Any thoughts advice you can give me (male or female) is greatly appreciated...
Many thanks for your time!
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#Destiny
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If you get to this post then know there are many with this issue at hand, maybe not as extreme as divorce but definitely angry wives surrounding Destiny players. I do think because of this it can be informative to post here and receive help on the other if none of these posts help you at least you know your not alone or have ppl that understand your situation. Any negative feedback just ignore. I've been playing since the 20th of September everyday when I get a chance. So I'm starting to get the stink eye when my lady comes home n finds me on Destiny, or when we go lay down n I'm logging into Destiny. One thing I know is they will never fully understand us and we shall never fully understand them. All we can do is try to meet in the middle. My situation is a lil different from yours due to the fact that there is no girl factor for me she just hates me playing right now. I don't see the need for jealousy here but if that's how she feels it's not gonna go away until the issue is resolved and she finds reason and understanding with you, which may take some work on your end. Women are mysterious creatures... I say mysterious to be polite lol. They will ask us to stop everything we r doing to spend time with then but then they don't want to do anything, ask us to put down a video game to hold them just so they can fall asleep on us, or ignore us constantly doing things they like for ex: read a book n not spend time with you but the moment u pick up a game n provide the same standard of treatment they wanna complain. My advise be firm but non combative, listen to how she feels and in return explain how you feel and ask questions like how you can come to a solution where both of you are happy and agree upon. Females and males play the game alike so your bound to run into them. I wish you well and hope you both come to terms.
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I got another ps4 and another wide screen tv. Put them side by side with my own, and played through the taken king with my girl till she got the hang of it. She's completely hooked. Problem solved.
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[spoiler] she's cheating on YOU. guilty conscience.[/spoiler]
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no offense dude, but you need to grow a pair. you "hand her the mic" to see if any girls are playing the game? that is ridiculous. i know relationships are about compromise but thats too far. you should be allowed to talk to women just as she should be allowed to talk to men. and the fact thats its a stranger over the internet who your just olaying a game with is ridulous
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Btw my wife did in fact hide my copy of Destiny last night so we could cuddle lmao ^_^ Women are funny
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[b]SOLUTION-[/b] 1) Buy her a copy of destiny on same console / system you play on. 2) join a fireteam together 3) spend endless hours playing next to her. 4) say you love the way she looks in her new armour shader 5) Happy days ! PS. you may need to give up one day per week to watch desperate housewives for brownie points :) haha Goodluck
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I can't take this post serious.... Your girlfriend just needs to grow up if she honestly is getting jelous over a girl on a video game you are playing.
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3 RepliesRay rice
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2 RepliesRay Rice
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2 RepliesOkay , you should tell your wife its none of her god dann business who you play games with, and tell her shut up. Obviously youre not coordinating booty calls in the vault of glass. Also you should show her you care about her so she gets her mind off of your gaming habits, surprise her with her favorite shit, then have crazy sex. Guaranteed the next time she walks by your gaming session she says "oh wow that looks fun" and then proceeds to the kitchen to cook you a boss meal for after atheon has been defeated.
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2 RepliesShe is insecure, and needs to get over it. Unless, she has reason to doubt you - not necessarily because you have actually cheated - but based on your general behavior, gaming or not, in how you regard/speak of women, or your manners in general..however, that - right that, what I just wrote - can only come true with years and years of communication problems, etc. So either she is insecure, to which there is a way around it, get her involved and heck let her listen to the players from the TV, or ask her to get a hobby. Ultimately - as a lady here, I think she wants your attention and seldom gets it because you might have it divided into so many things, and hearing a girl on the mic won't help the matter as she is already fighting for your time and attention and always gives in because you chose the console over the bonding time. Just sharing several options - and my recommendation to you is compromise and make some time for her, or tell her to get over it and stop being so insecure, you are with her and not them. But still...yikes...a game is not worth any of this to begin with. Good luck.
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1 ReplyLet her talk with your online friends.
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Your wife sounds like a bitch. Seriously, a high school girl does stuff like that. Probably best to divorce if she's that way...
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2 RepliesYou haven't done anything wrong. But clearly your wife thinks you have. Might be something that you should dig a bit deeper into. It sounds like she has trust issues. But i think it is more like my wife. She gets annoyed with the fact that video games are always a great way for me to relax and enjoy myself. The downside is that she does not really play and my son is to young to play yet. She could just be upset that you aren't spending what she considers to be enough time with the family. I have the same problem so to combat this. I had to compromise a bit. I won't play video games until after my son goes to bed. I get home around five and he goes to bed around 7:30-8:00. so i lose a couple of hours during the week before I can get on destiny. the plus side is that the weekends are mine. The plus side to only one of us working. so my advise is find out why she seems so upset that there happened to be a female in your party during the VoG
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Often when a spouse is accusing the other of cheating its cause they are or... The spouse is feeling guilty themselves and is placing those feelings off on the other
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1 Replyi think her control in the relationship is OP and should be NERFD
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1 ReplySounds to me like it's a deeper issue due to the knee-jerk reaction to hearing another chick's voice over the mic. Maybe it's time to sit down and have a serious talk, find out what the real problem is.
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Tell that psycho to chill out
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I feel like she is being delusional. You need to tell her that this is how gaming works, it is social and who cares if you are talking to a girl online, they play video games too. She can't seriously expect you to avoid contact with every single girl in your life and I certainly hope you haven't been following this in your real life also. She just needs to understand that you love her and you need to confront her about this in a non-hostile way. If there is a reason for this sudden hostility she had towards you, such as you have been playing Destiny far too much lately and haven't been spending time with her, then I would put Destiny on hold for a bit. The Vault of Glass will be just as fun to beat if you were to beat it next week rather than today or sometime this week.
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6 RepliesDivorce that bitch
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*whips* Give me that mic!
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Ok so I'm in my late twenties and I have been married to my wife for 7 years and we've been a couple for 11 years. I asked my wife if she would be bothered by me playing an online game with a girl on my team. Here's the response that I got; if it was a random game and the girl just happened to be on the team then it wouldnt bother her. But... if I went out of my way to play with a certain gamer friend that was a girl it would bother her. She told me that if I was using a mic with a girl gamer that I play with consistently it would bother her even more. She said that she would feel like I would be saying that I would rather be spending my time with another woman/girl. She said that she knows that it wouldnt lead to anything and that it would be harmless but that she would still be unhappy/jealous. My wife says that your wife might feel like you are spending too much time on the game and not enough with the family (she's speaking from her experience with my gaming hobby, and how she has felt at times). I dont think women understand that we need a break from evertything and everyone once in a while. Maybe just drop the mic when you can if there is a girl on the team, I know that Destiny is better when you can communicate with people on your team, but like they say 'happy wife happy life'. Maybe try having your wife hang out on a laptop or tablet near you when you are playing so that she knows nothing is up. Good luck.
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3 RepliesBuy a second console and have her join your clan.
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Slap her in the ass and tell her to go make you a sammich. You're too busy saving the world to be dealing with her PMS. Ps; if she poisons your sammich, don't blame me.
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1 ReplyEdited by Solaris: 9/30/2014 7:14:02 PMI would really love to give you advice on this, but I had a falling out with a significant other of almost 3 years because of League of Legends. She would rather play it then spend time with me, to the point where she broke up with me because we never did anything. Edit: I meant to add that I didn't give advice because anything I would say I'm afraid wouldn't be of much use.
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Sounds like she doesn't have her own hobbies to keep her occupied. That and women get jealous when they think you like to spend your time doing something else other than "spending time" with them. If your kids are old enough you need to get them into playing because then you are spending time with your kids.
