I know this has got to be the lamest thing that you've ever heard but if your looking for a friend on Final Fantasy 11 post something here
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While the whole different servers thing is true, you can make your character over and over again until you get into the same server as your friend. Also, in the game, you can by a World Pass on a certain server enabling a code activation. The activation can then be entered at character creation to enter that server.